10 SuperPowers I gained from Quitting Porn(10 year anniversary)

10 YEARS!!!!!! WOW!! How did you abstrain from Masturbation for that long, in the beginning few days or weeks of abstraining from M and P what did you do when you had tons of urges to PMO. Did you suppress it? Did you avoid certain places, situations or things? Did you face the urges? What did you do when really strong urges to PMO start attacking you??? I am on day 2 (previous attempt was 6 days of no PMO). And I think your advice would really help me become successful in abstrain from PMO and help me become successful in life. Thanks.

 

WHAT THE FUCK?

How long was your session? BTW I'm too lazy to get rid of this large font.

 

Being able to go ten years without PMO is a superpower in itself! This post was really valuable to me. Thanks for sharing.

 

Hi ChrisHaven may I just share a view on the comment on feeling like a 'creepy pervert' when talking to women because of horniness (mentioned by SyrusDrake).

Would you agree or what is your opinion on the thought that society in some countries may become so over-emancipated that men can tend to forget how to be real men? I am from an emancipated country i.m.o. where men are brought up by women and woman strongly influence how little boys develop their minds on the world. Just a thought and very curious on your (and SyrusDrake's) opinion!

P.s. thanks for the inspiring story!

 

I honestly can't agree with everything you said on this post BUT this was a brilliant post indeed ! Loved how you described each and every "superpower" you achieved so far... very motivating. Thank you for sharing with all of us !

 

Sorry to hear. Stay strong man. You will rise again. Make a journal. Write about your feelings. Use panic button. Do exercise. Meditate. Whatever it takes to actually start loving yourself. Because you are not L O V I N G yourself! I don't love myself when I relapsed. I have changed now I hope. I will start L O V I N G myself and quit PMO.

 

You summoned me?

To answer your question from my POV: Technically yes. But read what I have to say in full because one mustn't draw the wrong conclusions from this.
My mother is a very strong, emancipated woman who, in her youth, has been a really vocal proponent of feminism. My father was a very kind, polite and romantic person, an introvert like me. Sadly, he was diagnosed with cancer when I was 14 and passed away a year later. So my mother has raised me alone during my formative years.
Now, please let me very clearly state that she hasn't done a bad job. But she has, knowingly as well as "accidentally", imprinted some of her views of how men should act in general and around women on me. And I know she has made some bad experiences with men in her youth. For me, on the other hand, the "baseline" has always been to respect women. So her inputs on the topic, boiling down to not overstepping boundaries, not making unsolicited comments and so on and so forth were "calibrated" for men she has encountered in her past but overshot when I applied them. Meaning I now am hardwired to never talk to women unless talked to, to not look at them, to not touch them etc.
Now obviously, that has also to do with my personality and is in no way my mother's fault. But she has played a part in it. Add to that the fact that I didn't really have a male role model during those important years.
So, in short, there is nothing wrong at all with being raised by strong, emancipated women. But there are some things they inherently can't teach you and only a man can. Now, before some retarded homophobes pounce on this last line like a pack on starving dogs, let me clearly state that neither the male nor the female influence on a child need necessarily come from a parent.

 

This is so amazing that your so out of it. I still have a long way to go. I wish you good luck.

 

Is no one else absolutely fucking dumbfounded that OP can ejaculate 16 times in one session? What? Can someone please tell me what the fuck is going on here? My mind is about to explode.

 

Wow SyrusDrake thanks for the personal story. I believe to some extent I can relate. For me it has been the absence of my father in an emotional aspect that has affected me - perhaps a little bit in the same way in your case but not so intensly.

Regarding this topic it is my personal goal to have gratitude toward my mother towards all good things learnt from her, but at the same time to discover what it's like to be a man. And on this journey I have experimented with being blunt and talking from a more intuitive side of me. I wish I could share what it feels like to discover this - not saying it's the best thing to do and you should do so - just saying it has a positive effect on me which is what I grant you

 

Please please please tell me what the hell is going on with this ejaculating 16 times in one session, @GradBeo.

Please.

 

I'll give you the advice I've more or less given myself on this one. Just be yourself. We are raised so artificially that i have no real idea what it is to be a man. I just pick out some things about myself that I like and take it from there. Of course, knowing yourself is ridiculously difficult. Stopping PMO and listening to your dreams are the two best pieces of advice that I can give on a forum like this. Oh, and read Fight Club by Chuck Palahniuk. I wouldn't say it contains answers. I will say it contains interesting thoughts. I was lucky to have a positive male role model when I was in my early 20s. But that was not without difficulty. I didn't have one before that, so I attached too much significance to what he thought of me. Before that I used to model myself on one of my brothers. He was a PMO addict. And look where I ended up... So don't have a role model. Decide for yourself who you want to be, then spend years working out who you are. Then the rest of your life being who you want to be.

 

I don't necessarily mean a role model in a sense that one needs somebody to tell them what to do with their life. But I feel I could have benefited from someone telling me things like "It's not actually offensive to look a woman in the eyes and smile at her when walking past her."

 

Very motivating! Thanks for sharing!

 

I believe hes referring to having 16 "dry orgasms" in one session.

 

Thanks. *googles*

 

THIS is exactly what I needed to hear at this point in my life. I feel I've become a better man through this journey but still find myself struggling some days. I don't think this could have been said any better.

Thank you so much for sharing everything you've experienced and for giving back to those struggling with this addiction.

 

As if 10 years vs 1 year makes a difference..

 

nice. congrats friend.

 

Love this post. Thank you.

Just after 30 days without porn I started to be able to have lucid dreams. Being able to control my dreams was pretty awesome.

Have you experienced similair things?