100 days! How I did it after trying for 4 years, and the amazing benefits.

Discussion in 'Success Stories' started by Deleted Account, Mar 11, 2017.

  1. I've finally succeeded at overcoming this major issue in my life. 7 years of destruction are finished.

    For 4 years I tried to reach 90 days.
    I have have reached day 21, 30, 40, etc., many times. In this streak I reached day 70 for the first time and started to experience a GREAT change in my brain and body and life. I'd never experienced this before in all my time on NoFap. The real change that we all seek on NoFap actually begun.

    There are so many benefits to list but here's some:
    1. Completely happier.
    2. Emotions more powerful, intense feelings, including sadness.
    2. Intellect is sharper, I'm wittier, better memory. Vivid flashbacks of my life have been coming - I'd forgotten so much and didn't even know.
    3. Not afraid to look at people and talk to people.
    4. Have energy to do things. I want to get up in the morning. I'm excited for tomorrow. Am capable of anything. Not worrying so much about things, like what I'm going to do if this or that happens, because now I'm more able to handle situations.
    5. Music is way better. Enjoying video games way more. Food tastes way better. Movies are more enjoyable.
    6. Physical appearance vastly bettered. Eyes brighter and larger and more colorful. Skin is a healthy color now. Acne all gone (I've had it since 13 and only now after this streak has it gone). Body strengthened and looks fuller, muscular, better proportioned.
    7. Physically fitter and stronger. I can zip around and do things so fast, moving at the speed of light one second and then completely slow down the next without becoming breathless... I'm fit like how I was as a child.
    8. Can focus on things with my eyes. Also I can see more details before me, like I'm walking down the street and see every detail, the reflection of a building in a window whilst looking at a person walking in front of me.
    9. I laugh much more and am enjoying humor more.

    The change that I started experiencing was none other than my life returning after being hidden for 7 years (nearly 8 years). To think, I was dead for all those years and didn't even know it!

    If you have only ever gotten around 30 days, or 50, or even 60, I don't think you've yet experienced the true change that takes place after a long time of celibacy (BTW this is 100 days hard mode).

    HOW I SUCCEEDED: The reason I succeeded this time after failing for the last 4 years is by using a single technique that I first started using at the beginning of this streak, which I will share now: Flee from all temptations! Don't try to fight temptations, run away from all of them! This means:
    Stop looking at women's bodies when you're walking down the street, focus on their faces.
    Stop fantasizing about sex, or sexual situations.
    Stop thinking about sex and sexuality completely.
    Stop watching sexually charged music videos.
    Stop watching sex scenes.
    Stop looking at lingerie ads.
    Flee from sexual situations.
    Flee from sexual triggers.
    Avoid arousal.

    This technique is what has been always employed by men since ancient times, and it is still what's taught by people today. For example, here's two guys who are teaching it as well: http://www.yourbrainrebalanced.com/...ousal-method-celibacy-of-body-and-mind.14525/
    Someone else has discovered this technique: "I have been having my best success yet and feel the most balanced by adopting a mindset of no sexual arousal at all. Peeking delays recovery. Thinking about sex delays recovery. I feel that now. I am in a place where I push any sexual thought out of my mind instantly. Its working well."

    This is Christian theologians promoting the exact same technique. I think it's very enlightening, so even if you don't believe in Christianity, it's still good to read:
    "Man should escape from it; he should not stay to reason about it; to debate the matter; or even to contend with his propensities, and to try the strength of his virtue. There are some sins which a man can resist; some about which he can reason without danger of pollution. But this is a sin where a man is safe only when he flies; free from pollution only when he refuses to entertain a thought of it; secure when he seeks a victory by flight, and a conquest by retreat. Let a man turn away from it without reflection on it and he is safe. Let him think, and reason, and he may be ruined."
    "There is no way of avoiding the pollution but in the manner prescribed by Paul; there is no man safe who will not follow his direction. How many a young man would be saved from poverty, want, disease, curses, tears, and hell, could these two words be made to blaze before him like the writing before the astonished eyes of Belshazzar Daniel 5, and could they terrify him from even the momentary contemplation of the crime." "The only safety in such temptations is flight"
    "“Flee fornication”—other sins may be combated; this must be fled, as by Joseph in Potiphar’s house." "Flee fornication. In the battle against sensual sins, there is no victory except in absolute flight"
    "The apostle cometh to a new argument, by which he presseth them to flee the sin of uncleanness. It is observed by some, that this sin is peculiarly to be resisted, not so much by resisting it, and pondering arguments against it, as by flying from it, avoiding all occasions of it, and not suffering our thoughts to feed upon it"

    If you don't like reading Christian stuff, skip this paragraph.
    Apart from the technique I talked about above, the Lord has helped me get this far, His grace and mercy has allowed me to recover, and He has blessed me greatly in giving me the regained and restored life. I'm not good at prayer at all (I'm trying to get better, though), but I think praying for His help has helped me, too.

    You have to understand that your brain has been changed by PMO, and that your brain needs to undergo another change to return to it's normal state. By not going down the same old neuropathways by looking at sexual pictures and thinking sexual thoughts, you start to make these neuropathways starve. You stop using them and they go out of business.

    I think that all the motivational posts, the reasons people give themselves to stop PMO, the countless posts arguing why PMO is bad, will never be enough to make someone stop PMO. I think that the addiction is so strong that when one is being tempted and doesn't get away from it, that they will give in no matter what motivational quote is told them. Now I'm not saying that all the motivational stuff is not helpful, just that the only thing that worked for me was the technique I explained above.

    If you've resolved many times to finally stop PMO and are still falling back, you are doing something wrong. I experienced the same thing, and it was ONLY when I changed tactics and employed the "flee fornication" technique that I stopped PMO.

    Here's some advice. Stop thinking that you will change your bad habits "one day", that you will start changing your life for the better "one day". You need to do it now. You CAN do it now. Take the first step now.

    If you've failed many times trying to succeed, and it's even been many years of failure, don't lose hope. Look at me. I was just like you and I overcame this.

    If you've heard that hard mode is excessive, or that doing NoFap doesn't really help, don't believe it. Semen retention is so essential to a man's life. Not only that, but a life filled with pornography and sexual stimulation, sexual thinking, fantasizing, oogling, etc. actually changes one's brain and brings down our quality of life substantially. I think this may be a major reason why many men today wonder why they were so happy and bright as children, but after they hit puberty they weren't anymore.

    By the way, the changes haven't stopped coming. More and more my strength and life
    is increasing, and it seems it will never end. Maybe after 7 years I will come full circle and be completely returned to normal? Or maybe it will happen sooner than that? I don't really know how this works in detail. And sorry for this post being so long. I've tried my best to edit it.
  2. Monster Carrot

    Monster Carrot Fapstronaut

    I reached 100 days 2 years ago. Still trying to reach it again. Be careful! The battle is not over.

    Good post though man!
  3. Ichiro

    Ichiro Fapstronaut

    Great post man. I needed this. I try to cut out triggers but that's not far enough. I can't even entertain the thought of it. Thanks. And God bless you brother.
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  4. tendency14

    tendency14 Fapstronaut

    Awsome post man, i agree in everything, motivationals are good but wen one is facing the true deal it can get tough, we need to get strong and if were gona face it then we need to be even stronger, because going away from it is very helpfull and a good technique but there will be times were we have little chances to get away and will need to face it(like if it were a bully), so for that we need to prepare to be strong
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  5. Thanks for the advice!

    Thanks, Ichiro. Glad it helped. God bless you, too, brother.

    I agree. I believe God gives me that strength.
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    He's right. Running from temptation is very helpful. But sooner or later, there comes a time when fleeing is just not an option...it is at this moment that the true test begins. Fleeing is not a measure of spirit. Even children can run....but only true warriors can fight. Bottom line is you can't run forever. But don't be heroic. Only stand to fight when your back is pushed against the wall.

    For me, inevitable temptations come when I am trying to study. The silence and isolation are the perfect catalyst for lustful thoughts. I can't flee as I must study...which raises an impasse. Either I stop studying or I just have to stand and fight. That's when I usually crash. I believe that moments like those are when you must give the reigns to the Lord. I clearly can't fight my urges as I have learnt from past experiences. Maybe it's time I give myself to the Lord that He may fight and conquer where I have failed
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  7. Becoming the Tree

    Becoming the Tree New Fapstronaut

    Great to see this discussion. Have had to choose and embrace a path of celibacy due to physical challenge have had for past 40+ years. Not to go into too much detail as a male ejaculation/orgasm consistently has led to problems and issues with sleep, bladder issues and awakening. After living with this for decades, tried to maintain a regular sexual relationship with my understanding wife I know I need to take a break. Been about one month now. Interesting. I was mostly celibate for quite awhile earlier on in 30's and 40's but could never overcome the urge to masturbate.
    Now have reached the point I am okay for time being with no sex - neither sex with wife or masturbation. Following many of the directives now of not exposing self to uneccesary stimulation. A bit of a challenge with wife as she feels neglected but some level of understanding. Interesting this has become easier as I stopped drinking alcohol 4 years ago and started intermittent fasting 4 months ago. Something has gone click.
    I was getting down recently as I still don't sleep well but realize that is okay. Just enjoy all the other benefits. Don't feel them totally but have noticed I am not as lustful toward other woman. Don't feel the urge to browse through SI Swim Suit Edition when it comes out. Feels like over time the energetic grip of sexual impulse diminishes. This is great to have this site to just blog, share and learn and reflect. Think this is similar to Bio-Hacking in general which is what Intermittent Fasting and not drinking and Wim Hof method are also about (some other things that I do.) Best of luck to everyone.
    Becoming the Tree from Canada
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  8. steveo2312

    steveo2312 Fapstronaut

    Congratulations on your achievements, what do you say to people who tell you not ejaculating for that length of time is harmfull? Im on the 90 day challenge and my response to people who say it can cause prostate cancer or prostatitis is simply i have to take that gamble to regain a sex life.
  9. Squid_PH

    Squid_PH Fapstronaut

    You had me at computer games. joking aside, a great post indeed. Now Im excited for the good changes that will happen to me. power through man.
  10. Summer Son

    Summer Son Fapstronaut

    Thank you for this great post! I agree with that, it is inspirational for me who had lost over 4+ years had 150 days, 30 days 10 days etc. Failed failed and failed. While I was looking this kind post, I see and got surprised.

    Keep going and stay strong, this isn't easy and I see a few guys in here who had 400+ days and relapsed. Never look back!
  11. Tt1000

    Tt1000 Fapstronaut

    Thank you so much for this, i am close to 3 4 weeks now and i felt this strong urge today because of this show i was watching. I quickly arrived to nofap and saw your post and i dont feel like doing it anymore. What you said about fleeing is absolutely true and is not only in Christianity but Islam as well. As the Quran says about such temptations: " dont even go near it". It is something to be avoided completely and half hearted effort is no effort at all