100th day today (need your support)

You made the mistake to create a story in your head that didn't exist which is why you felt betrayed. You are fully responsible to choose who to invest yourself emotionally with, from the description you gave the girl never told you that she liked you back nor said that she was invested in you.

Carry yourself with more pride and dignity... Only a child focuses on daydreaming and fantasizing on what could've and should've happened, a man doesn't chase other people but rather let's them come to him instead and focuses on more important things such as his goals and ambitions.

If this girl truly wanted to be with you she would've made it clear a long time ago and not be playing around after you revealed your feelings to her (which I personally think was a bad idea to do that in your context). Learn from your mistake, don't be so emotionally invested in someone too quickly unless it is absolutely clear that they are invested back in you. As a side note women find overly emotional and available men repulsive because these are signs of weakness and desperation a man displays, learn from that and don't be that guy in your next encounter.

 

I do not know the situation, but it does sound that you created a lot in your head. It happens to all of us. Or maybe it is true what she said. Never the less, relapsing will not fix anything. Stay strong, I know it can be hard sometimes.

 

Do you think people like Elon Musk and Jeff Bezos spend their time chasing around people that are not interested in them? Don't you think that if you're a high value man people come to you rather than you having to chase everyone?
Also did you ever have to chase your friends in order to be close to them?

 

Work on yourself and they'll come.

 

I had something similar happen to me a couple weeks ago.

I just listened to a motivational video on YouTube, the guy said “if someone can walk away from you, let them go! Don’t try to get them to stay!”

he said one of his spiritual gifts is “saying goodbye” ! Haha

say goodbye to her in your heart. Yea, still be nice at work.
Maybe don’t talk to her as much though. Just stick to business stuff. But say goodbye to her!

Bye! Have a nice life!

 

I agree, this forum is helping me a lot

 

Bro, I was in a situation like this in 2014, and I was still at school at that time. There was this girl in my class (some sort of History Class or whatever..forgot) , who I was specifically attracted to , not marginally but I MEAN really attracted to her... long story short , when our class got grouped into role play , fortunately we were in the same group , then I built up the courage to to talk to her , make friends with her , etc.. until when we got to know each other, (about 2 - 3 weeks later ) , and by this time I was already into her , and I was very excited to go to class. She was already really close to me , not that I felt that she was my girlfriend yet . But I would say any minute I can fire the gun, but I didn't, I wanted to live in my head dreaming and thinking about her. Fast forward... after class she asked me if I could go with her for lunch to get Asian food.. Now this time I was so fired up deep down , and I got so excited , so I said yes. Now when we were eating , I could tell by the look in her face that she put on makeup which really hit me hard, because like I said I was really into this girl.... I didn't want to small talk with her anymore , or about other things . I wanted to be full direct. So I said to her in a long cheesy cringy speech I had , that I like her..
She eventually started to cry, and then she told me that there was another G"uy" who she is hanging out with.
Then she told me you can text me we can go out , have lunch , or watch a movie some time. She said while crying take note.

Then I told her, yeah sure have a nice day , I liked you anyway, then I walked out the restaurant.

I had similar experience to this after on but I was devastated for YEARS because of this incident. and I was still a COOMER at that time.

Okay I know it's getting too emotional but I want to help you in full way as possible to strenghten each other , because I don't usually write like this...

LESSON: NEVER TELL THE GIRL YOU DIRECTLY LIKE HER, SHE WILL TAKE ADVANTAGE OF IT.

It's better to just act on it rather than say it if it makes sense..... hope that helps man. Got to give each other strength Be a man.

 

Hey brother, sorry man, this sounds real tough. Rejection is hard. And feeling wronged is hard. And especially when its romantic. I would say don't be too hard on yourself - you have done the right thing in my opinion. You were interested, and you told her. I think thats manly, forward and honest. Yeah, she should have said earlier! I think you just need to accept it, give it a bit of time for things to heal, and keep going. Also I'd say look into your heart a bit and try to understand why it hurts so much - is it loneliness, is it feelings of inadequacy, of not being loved? I think it can be helpful to address these questions. I also believe in God and think he provides healing to these things/answers, but I don't know what you think about God so I'll leave it there. Bless you man

 

I'll send you a message! =)

 

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