108 days hard mode: my secret

fg4795 said:
Warning: a bit long

As the title says I completed yesterday 108 days of no PMO and what I want to share with you is not all the benefits that I see in myself although I will share them too but what I think as my secret for success. But first the positive things
The benefits I see:
-no more brain fog
-self discipline at extreme level(so no more procrastination)
-body strength at level I never reached (I had workout everyday in the last 108 days)
-ability to focus improved a lot(I read all harry Potter's in 6 days)
-my eyes are brighter
-my mind is cleaner
-healthy living
-personal cleanliness improved
-no more shame in showing my PC or smartphone to friends
-more willpower
-more confidence
But as I said, it's not the important thing because for me the key to success was my mind switch and it all came from six words:

FAKE IT UNTIL YOU BECOME IT

What I mean by that and to whom is directed my message?
Well is directed to the people like me. People that are here not only because of P but also because P made them feel insecure, failures and be totally ashamed of theirselves to sum up in one word I started it because of one fact:

I was a loser. Loser in every aspect of my life, I was late for my degree, I wasn't a good athlete and I always sucked with girls.
How to change the person I was to become another one? Again:

FAKE IT UNTIL YOU BECOME IT

What I mean by that? Simply that attitudes makes behavior, in fact a person with a winner's attitude act like a winner, so it must be true also the reverse, behavior makes attitudes so that if I acted like a winner I would become it. So that's it I fake it to be a winner until I finally become it, reaching 108 days of no PMO and setting my goals for the future. But I'm still too general how could you do in daily life?
Simply, 2-minutes technique, take 2 minutes for you to feel like a winner everytime you have a chance. I'll give you examples from my daily lives hoping they'll help you:
-I meditate 15 minutes everyday, during the meditation for around 2 minutes I lift my chin and arms up as I'm lifting a cup and smile to feel like a winner, after that I'm the same as always but feeling like a winner
-evrytime I go to a restaurant or a pub and I have to sit I don't sit as I used to, in the angle and making my self the smallest I can, I open up and stay proudly of myself for 2 minutes, after I feel confident and keep the position
- if you scroll through my journal you will see a lot of optimism and good feelings after workouts and studies and after fighting urges: reality? Everyday after my workouts I feel like I can't do more like I want to quit and the same for the headaches after studying for hours and the urges when they hit.

What I do? In my diary and journal I write down only the winning thing, the optimisc thing, that I studied not that it was painful, and I kept on lying to myself about how I feel until this how I really feel by now because I kept on faking that I was a winner and now I am. Because I forced myself to be someone I wasn't and now I am. So if you a personal goal to become a certain type of person just don't set impossible expectations: think how they are the persons you want to become and act like them until you will be one of them.
Here is the only secret I want to share with you:six simple words that changed my life and hopefully also yours:


FAKE IT UNTIL YOU BECOME IT
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that was really great, one advice: It would be nice if you edit that "fake it until you become it" with "fake it till you make it".
 
fg4795 said:
Warning: a bit long

As the title says I completed yesterday 108 days of no PMO and what I want to share with you is not all the benefits that I see in myself although I will share them too but what I think as my secret for success. But first the positive things
The benefits I see:
-no more brain fog
-self discipline at extreme level(so no more procrastination)
-body strength at level I never reached (I had workout everyday in the last 108 days)
-ability to focus improved a lot(I read all harry Potter's in 6 days)
-my eyes are brighter
-my mind is cleaner
-healthy living
-personal cleanliness improved
-no more shame in showing my PC or smartphone to friends
-more willpower
-more confidence
But as I said, it's not the important thing because for me the key to success was my mind switch and it all came from six words:

FAKE IT UNTIL YOU BECOME IT

What I mean by that and to whom is directed my message?
Well is directed to the people like me. People that are here not only because of P but also because P made them feel insecure, failures and be totally ashamed of theirselves to sum up in one word I started it because of one fact:

I was a loser. Loser in every aspect of my life, I was late for my degree, I wasn't a good athlete and I always sucked with girls.
How to change the person I was to become another one? Again:

FAKE IT UNTIL YOU BECOME IT

What I mean by that? Simply that attitudes makes behavior, in fact a person with a winner's attitude act like a winner, so it must be true also the reverse, behavior makes attitudes so that if I acted like a winner I would become it. So that's it I fake it to be a winner until I finally become it, reaching 108 days of no PMO and setting my goals for the future. But I'm still too general how could you do in daily life?
Simply, 2-minutes technique, take 2 minutes for you to feel like a winner everytime you have a chance. I'll give you examples from my daily lives hoping they'll help you:
-I meditate 15 minutes everyday, during the meditation for around 2 minutes I lift my chin and arms up as I'm lifting a cup and smile to feel like a winner, after that I'm the same as always but feeling like a winner
-evrytime I go to a restaurant or a pub and I have to sit I don't sit as I used to, in the angle and making my self the smallest I can, I open up and stay proudly of myself for 2 minutes, after I feel confident and keep the position
- if you scroll through my journal you will see a lot of optimism and good feelings after workouts and studies and after fighting urges: reality? Everyday after my workouts I feel like I can't do more like I want to quit and the same for the headaches after studying for hours and the urges when they hit.

What I do? In my diary and journal I write down only the winning thing, the optimisc thing, that I studied not that it was painful, and I kept on lying to myself about how I feel until this how I really feel by now because I kept on faking that I was a winner and now I am. Because I forced myself to be someone I wasn't and now I am. So if you a personal goal to become a certain type of person just don't set impossible expectations: think how they are the persons you want to become and act like them until you will be one of them.
Here is the only secret I want to share with you:six simple words that changed my life and hopefully also yours:


FAKE IT UNTIL YOU BECOME IT
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Great to see your success, my friend. Unfortunately I fell off my journey at around 70 days, but I will get there.
I agree with what you are saying, fake it until you become it. Essentially, visualize the life you want and work towards it and you have it. And get comfortable with the discomfort along the way. We will always have good days and bad days. That's just life.

Grazie.
 
fg4795 said:
Warning: a bit long

As the title says I completed yesterday 108 days of no PMO and what I want to share with you is not all the benefits that I see in myself although I will share them too but what I think as my secret for success. But first the positive things
The benefits I see:
-no more brain fog
-self discipline at extreme level(so no more procrastination)
-body strength at level I never reached (I had workout everyday in the last 108 days)
-ability to focus improved a lot(I read all harry Potter's in 6 days)
-my eyes are brighter
-my mind is cleaner
-healthy living
-personal cleanliness improved
-no more shame in showing my PC or smartphone to friends
-more willpower
-more confidence
But as I said, it's not the important thing because for me the key to success was my mind switch and it all came from six words:

FAKE IT UNTIL YOU BECOME IT

What I mean by that and to whom is directed my message?
Well is directed to the people like me. People that are here not only because of P but also because P made them feel insecure, failures and be totally ashamed of theirselves to sum up in one word I started it because of one fact:

I was a loser. Loser in every aspect of my life, I was late for my degree, I wasn't a good athlete and I always sucked with girls.
How to change the person I was to become another one? Again:

FAKE IT UNTIL YOU BECOME IT

What I mean by that? Simply that attitudes makes behavior, in fact a person with a winner's attitude act like a winner, so it must be true also the reverse, behavior makes attitudes so that if I acted like a winner I would become it. So that's it I fake it to be a winner until I finally become it, reaching 108 days of no PMO and setting my goals for the future. But I'm still too general how could you do in daily life?
Simply, 2-minutes technique, take 2 minutes for you to feel like a winner everytime you have a chance. I'll give you examples from my daily lives hoping they'll help you:
-I meditate 15 minutes everyday, during the meditation for around 2 minutes I lift my chin and arms up as I'm lifting a cup and smile to feel like a winner, after that I'm the same as always but feeling like a winner
-evrytime I go to a restaurant or a pub and I have to sit I don't sit as I used to, in the angle and making my self the smallest I can, I open up and stay proudly of myself for 2 minutes, after I feel confident and keep the position
- if you scroll through my journal you will see a lot of optimism and good feelings after workouts and studies and after fighting urges: reality? Everyday after my workouts I feel like I can't do more like I want to quit and the same for the headaches after studying for hours and the urges when they hit.

What I do? In my diary and journal I write down only the winning thing, the optimisc thing, that I studied not that it was painful, and I kept on lying to myself about how I feel until this how I really feel by now because I kept on faking that I was a winner and now I am. Because I forced myself to be someone I wasn't and now I am. So if you a personal goal to become a certain type of person just don't set impossible expectations: think how they are the persons you want to become and act like them until you will be one of them.
Here is the only secret I want to share with you:six simple words that changed my life and hopefully also yours:


FAKE IT UNTIL YOU BECOME IT
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What a
fg4795 said:
Warning: a bit long

As the title says I completed yesterday 108 days of no PMO and what I want to share with you is not all the benefits that I see in myself although I will share them too but what I think as my secret for success. But first the positive things
The benefits I see:
-no more brain fog
-self discipline at extreme level(so no more procrastination)
-body strength at level I never reached (I had workout everyday in the last 108 days)
-ability to focus improved a lot(I read all harry Potter's in 6 days)
-my eyes are brighter
-my mind is cleaner
-healthy living
-personal cleanliness improved
-no more shame in showing my PC or smartphone to friends
-more willpower
-more confidence
But as I said, it's not the important thing because for me the key to success was my mind switch and it all came from six words:

FAKE IT UNTIL YOU BECOME IT

What I mean by that and to whom is directed my message?
Well is directed to the people like me. People that are here not only because of P but also because P made them feel insecure, failures and be totally ashamed of theirselves to sum up in one word I started it because of one fact:

I was a loser. Loser in every aspect of my life, I was late for my degree, I wasn't a good athlete and I always sucked with girls.
How to change the person I was to become another one? Again:

FAKE IT UNTIL YOU BECOME IT

What I mean by that? Simply that attitudes makes behavior, in fact a person with a winner's attitude act like a winner, so it must be true also the reverse, behavior makes attitudes so that if I acted like a winner I would become it. So that's it I fake it to be a winner until I finally become it, reaching 108 days of no PMO and setting my goals for the future. But I'm still too general how could you do in daily life?
Simply, 2-minutes technique, take 2 minutes for you to feel like a winner everytime you have a chance. I'll give you examples from my daily lives hoping they'll help you:
-I meditate 15 minutes everyday, during the meditation for around 2 minutes I lift my chin and arms up as I'm lifting a cup and smile to feel like a winner, after that I'm the same as always but feeling like a winner
-evrytime I go to a restaurant or a pub and I have to sit I don't sit as I used to, in the angle and making my self the smallest I can, I open up and stay proudly of myself for 2 minutes, after I feel confident and keep the position
- if you scroll through my journal you will see a lot of optimism and good feelings after workouts and studies and after fighting urges: reality? Everyday after my workouts I feel like I can't do more like I want to quit and the same for the headaches after studying for hours and the urges when they hit.

What I do? In my diary and journal I write down only the winning thing, the optimisc thing, that I studied not that it was painful, and I kept on lying to myself about how I feel until this how I really feel by now because I kept on faking that I was a winner and now I am. Because I forced myself to be someone I wasn't and now I am. So if you a personal goal to become a certain type of person just don't set impossible expectations: think how they are the persons you want to become and act like them until you will be one of them.
Here is the only secret I want to share with you:six simple words that changed my life and hopefully also yours:


FAKE IT UNTIL YOU BECOME IT
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What a pearl of wisdom, thanks for sharing this.
I often read on the topic, but you are describing it in a very practical and thereby powerfull way.
I am gonna do this now.
 
purplebat14 said:
What a

What a pearl of wisdom, thanks for sharing this.
I often read on the topic, but you are describing it in a very practical and thereby powerfull way.
I am gonna do this now.
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Nice to be helpful my friend.
And nice to hear from you again.
How are you doing ?
 
Nice to hear this
I'd like to know how severe did you consider yourself before commiting to nofap?

Also how did you experience brain fog before starting nofap? I ask because I havnt seen much improvement in that regard( day 95) but I had brain fog for some years before getting to nofap
 
fg4795 said:
Nice to be helpful my friend.
And nice to hear from you again.
How are you doing ?
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Winter was a good time:D
Currently the situation with corona restrictions and the vacinations is very tensed.
I have very different thinking friends and family parts and therefore this is a stressfull situation.
But I am gonna leran from it and get out stronger and more skilled in coping with conflicts.
I am also learning 24/7 for my exam starting at 5th of october. After this my life will be back but now I have to fight my laziness again.
How are you doing?
 
becomingreat said:
Nice to hear this
I'd like to know how severe did you consider yourself before commiting to nofap?

Also how did you experience brain fog before starting nofap? I ask because I havnt seen much improvement in that regard( day 95) but I had brain fog for some years before getting to nofap
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Really severe my friend, as my counter can confirm.
We are talking about multiple times per day and problem with extreme porn escalation.

I can say that brain fog improved after around 20 days.
But porn was one of the main reason why I was at screen many hours.
So I decreased also the hours I passed in front of a screen, and that helped much as well.
So I would say also to count this. If you in 95 days are using the screens at the same rate
 
purplebat14 said:
Winter was a good time:D
Currently the situation with corona restrictions and the vacinations is very tensed.
I have very different thinking friends and family parts and therefore this is a stressfull situation.
But I am gonna leran from it and get out stronger and more skilled in coping with conflicts.
I am also learning 24/7 for my exam starting at 5th of october. After this my life will be back but now I have to fight my laziness again.
How are you doing?
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That's good to hear, you are trying to get some post stress growth my friend.
Which is the good attitude.
As for myself I've been through some tough moments. I got to 300+ days without porn, but I relapsed, and it was testing.
Especially about the truth of things that I posted above for example.
Doubted myself.
But learned I didn't lie.
We are what we think we are, and we are who we behave like.
And in the long run I am still behaving as the person I want to be.
And I will become him.
 
Ice22 said:
Awesome work man! Congratulations. I have to say that the increased focus make so of a difference in a persons life. But foremost how you use that focus. With intense focus on the right areas in life a person can achive anything and even go beyond what normally would be considered impossible. What I noticed was that I became much more confident in my decision making. I made decisions much quicker and I became much more effective in multiple areas of life.
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Indeed my friend, the point is always how we use the tool we are given.
Nofap gives us a lot of tools but still if we don't use them it will be like we have no benefits.
Confidence and trust in yourself and your ability.
That's what will make the difference.
 
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