1095 days, now I quit

Discussion in 'Success Stories' started by teutonic_knight, Sep 5, 2021.

  1. That's the only thing that causes wet dreams? How can you sleep with stress and anxiety? In order to fall asleep one has to relinquish stress and anxiety.
     
  2. Quezatolah

    Quezatolah Fapstronaut

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    You can sleep if it's not high enough to keep you awake, also that's not the only thing, any emotion that brings you out of a neutral state can cause this. Lack of emotional balance is the cause of wet dreams.
     
  3. I definitely wouldn't rank that as the number one cause of wet dreams. A contributor, yes. Having to urinate badly while sleeping is far more of a trigger for wet dreams than that. Though, I have also had wet dreams despite waking up to urinate excessively, so its not the only cause either. In terms of sleep, its my understanding that if one is sleep deprived and goes to sleep exhausted, then wet dreams can happen, as your normal guard against them seems to vanquish. Wet dreams can also mostly definitely be the result of a demonic attack.
     
  4. MindfulWarrior

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    Hello @teutonic_knight,

    Did you plan to MO in advance?

    I think it was the right call if it was negatively impacting your sexual life. I think some people may get caught up in thinking that if one ever goes back to MO then it is always a matter of failing, letting your mind trick you etc. Which it is not always. You've gone through three years in order to get over this addiction and you've clearly managed to do just that. Also I was thinking it might be a good idea, if the point of this is to avoid sensitivity issues, and other side effects, that you might want to use it on a particular given day, say mondays, this way you wouldn't end up using it as a tool to escape emotionally etc. Just a thought. But still I am interested in knowing if you will be able to stick to MO and not fall back to PMO as pointed out by you, it is easier to abstain completely. If you could update in a few months or so.
     
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  5. Quezatolah

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    Oh definitely, in my latest wet dream although I was able to control myself, around the end the woman's eyes were looking right at me with eyes wide and seemed very hostile, looked like a manga drawing tbh. Anyway, I'm not worried about wet dreams.
     
  6. I was saved by an angel of some sort during one near wet-dream. It was highly sexual and right about when i felt i was gonna release, I suddenly felt this presence and image of light, and it stopped. The dream even continued on for a little longer before i woke up. Many years ago i was also raped by a demon during sleep paralysis. So, I really have no doubt in my mind that they can be demonic attacks. That was well before I was spiritual in anyway too.
     
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  7. Quezatolah

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    Just don't live with fear, they feed on that and keep improving yourself.
     
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  8. pcmaster

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    It's hard to tell how many because I didn't count them. But first wet dream happened after 13 months - I was dreaming about browsing web, watched light P in my dream. It felt like I was half awake but still couldn't think properly and after ejaculating I came to my senses and woke up and realized what happened. Damage was that almost of pmo. That week I read one chapter In Bible a lot so that almost memorized it(for Bible studies), but that first wet dream was more a result of previous pmo life and pressure from bed or duvet.

    Preventing them with cold showers and trying to go to sleep early and wake up early, without sleeping in a lot. Before I was telling myself before sleep firmly - I will not see sexual dreams! Also at one point was praying God before sleep to guard me and my property during the night. So yeah - consistency, since it is easy to do those little things and easy not to do. But mostly cold showers and never drinking coffee and trying not to eat sweets and soft drinks. Reading Bible and praying more or less almost every day.
     
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  9. You went 13 months without any wet dream?! That’s crazy man. I don’t know if you’re lucky or your work paid off. Maybe God granted you protection. I pray before bed too for protection.. because there are definitely dark forces that want to steal our valuable sexual energy. What time do you go to bed and wake up?
     
  10. pcmaster

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    Well man, you are 26, at your age I did 2-3 months without wet dreams. But was not Christian.
    I go to sleep like at 10-11 PM, waking a 5:40-6 AM but sometimes fell asleep even at 4-6 pm, and then wake up At midnight or 2-4 am, start to read and usually don't go to sleep again. During summer had a lot of super early moornings.
     
  11. teutonic_knight

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    Hey guys,


    first of all, thank you for all your thoughts on this, positive or negative.


    So, a little over three months after my original post I wanted to give an update on how I'm doing with my decision to end normal mode and going back to masturbation.


    First things first, I still don’t regret it.


    The good thing is: masturbation has not led me back into porn. I actually never had the temptation to turn on porn when I got horny and wanted to masturbate. I have a habit to masturbate only in my bed and only shortly before falling asleep, maybe this (structure) also helps.


    One of my biggest problems while being on NoFap disappeared: premature ejaculation. Not long after I started to masturbate again, I met an absolutely gorgeous woman and had the most amazing sex with her. I was and am very happy that during our sessions I can please her for a very long time without coming after one minute. Also, the orgasms don’t hurt anymore.


    But I also have to mention that my original plan (masturbating only one time a week) didn’t work out. After the first few weeks I encountered some stress in my life and masturbated two times in three days. When this happened, I decided to lower the bar and said to myself that I only masturbate every other day. I can stick to that. I am a very sexual person and could do it easily three times a day, like I did years ago. But after my three years of PM I have the discipline to control myself. And going from three times a day to one time in two days is a success and healthy way of masturbation for me personally. Especially with the positive side effects of not coming early and non-hurting orgasms.


    So, what about the ego trap I mentioned in my first post. Well, this one completely changed. I wrote that my life was defined by asceticism also apart from NoFap. I only drank water, watched my nutrition very carefully, watched my sleeping time, did not party at all, no alcohol etc. All these things are not bad for themselves, I just noticed that they defined myself too much. They became an ego trap for me. I did those things not because they were healthy but because I wanted to prove something to myself. All of that disappeared. For months I went out partying, had many days in a row with little to no sleep, ate a bunch of fast food, met new people etc. Only thing that remains from my austere life is that I stay away from booze. I also don’t regret any of this. I felt alive again. Although I might have to turn back to modesty now and do everything in moderation so that the ego trap won't get me the other way around again.


    Thanks again for reading and I wish the best of success to all of you. No matter how your personal (NoFap) journey looks like.


    Stay healthy everyone!
     
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  12. Quezatolah

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    Masturbation if you keep it up for long enough will eventually lead you back to porn, I know you think you're in control but it's a slippery slope and you'll only see it once it's too late.

    With that said, do what you think is best, I wish you freedom, your post is a great inspiration, I'm going to reach 1000 days myself one day.
     
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  13. Rafafa

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    Jesus blessed you with this freedom.
    God be adored.
     
  14. Congratulations on such a streak.
    If I may I'd like to follow this thread.
     
  15. Have you seen animals, they don't give a fuck about sexual energy, sensitivity, blah, blah, blah. They will do whatever they like and when its time for sex they will do it and forget the rest. We humans will be overthinking like shit every time. So stop that, stop giving a fuck about all this things you are 1095 days away from your addiction. So grab a beer and enjoy this fucking life mate.
     
  16. Thank our third layer of brains for all that overthinking, the thing that gets us into this mess is what gets us out of it.
     
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  17. How was your PE condition before? and how long it took you to recover from it?
     
  18. I'd love to know too, because I suffer of PE as well unfortunately... ED also... so I'm not in a sexually healthy state which is a daunting thought and I'm trying to cure it. At this stage all I do is practice no PMO. Is it not enough to cure the situation or does it need more time? Are there underlying things that prevents my healing process from happening? Just wondering.
     
  19. MindfulWarrior

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    I'm no expert but from the knowledge I've gathered here reading others' experiences I think the best way to do it is no PMO for an extended period of time, the period of time is personal and noone can know how long exactly you need to go, anywhere from 3 to 6 months I assume is appropriate for most. Then try having sex again and rewire in a healthy way with a real woman. There's also kegel exercises, and you can always use more foreplay breaks when you feel yourself getting too excited.
     
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