13 year old quit porn 12 weeks of none of it

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  1. IggyIshness

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    I have been masturbating since i was 6 years old not to porn but just because it felt good everyday. I was so freaking tired every day and i couldnt concentrate and i felt so retarted but i didnt know anything. So then i discovered porn in beginning of 7th grade and watched it every few days and i was very skinny like 90 pounds and i was around 5 '10. I became an athlete in the end of 6th grade. When around the end of 7th grade porn started to fade away and i kept trying to reboot and kept failing over and over and over. I thought i would never make it. and i started masturbating in a doll so i can imitate real sex because to be honest i didnt like jerking off. So then i did that for a few months more like about 3 quarters of 8th grade every tuesday. But the problem is that the days i didnt masturbate i would just edge. Alot. I tried to reboot in 8th grade but i would reset because when i edge i would accidently go past and ejaculate. The most ive been was 3 or 4 weeks and i would just cum. So i decided fuck that. Im going to start working out and build muscle and not fucking masturbate and porn wont exist anymore. I weighed 120 pounds and now i wiegh 130 pounds after 10 weeks of rebooting and working out. Ive gotten alot stronger and alot more motivation to do things. More energy feel more --> free <-- in my mind i can concentrate better i look alot more fit. I perform so much better in tennis it was amazing im not lazy anymore i was probably the best fucking 10 weeks of my life. So 2 more weeks past, 8th grade ended its offically 12 weeks and i feel like im so much better without porn or masturbating. But to be honest, this not masturbating thing doesnt feel natural at all.. porn is really bad for you if your addicted to PMO you should stop theres no reason why you should have that. Also i feel so much stress from not masturbating and sometimes i cant workout because of it and i dont really feel calm. Is it ok to masturbate NOT to porn maximum twice a month strictly, to calm myself down without falling back into porn? Because i feel like its not natural to not masturbate and i feel my body needs too my heads going to explode. When i think of a hot girl i get so horny like srsly
     
  2. g2stop

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    If I was advising myself when I was your age I would advise them not to masturbate at all. But I know my younger self would not listen.
     
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  3. IggyIshness

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    Other 13/14 year olds masturbate. Should i not masturbate for any reason?
     
  4. IggyIshness

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  5. VividKibitzer

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    I wished I had discovered nofap around your age (am 15 years old) because 9th grade was not all that great for me socially. Fapping was a daily routine and I always woke up having brain fog all day and feeling guilt in myself. 9 days on nofap at the end of 9th grade was so much better as I had more confidence talking to people and generally felt better of myself.

    It's not so bad if you keep it in moderation during teen years, but it can still develop into a lifelong addiction and cause problems later on in life. I perceive nofap as a way for people to balance their lifestyle and find an ultimatum suitable for their needs. For your age, going for that long might not be as much of a necessity compared to older nofappers, but there are still benefits. The problem I see with people doing streaks and relapsing on purpose (or not) is the chaser affect (masturbating over and over again after a relapse). At day 20, I had the same feelings as you with 24/7 hornyness and doubt leading to a relapse. After the relapse though, I relapsed 4 times again in one day and lasted only 5 and 2 days till I relapsed 4 times again (back on track though!)... If you ever decide to relapse, just be sure to combat this with will power and positive thoughts so the addiction try to take over you. A suggestion I would do is go back through your memory during your twelve weeks and think to yourself of the positives and negatives that came out of the journey besides the ones you stated and see whether or not relapsing is worth it.
     
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  6. g2stop

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    I think masturbation causes loss of energy, bad future sex life, a whole lot of unnecessary pain, distorted life view, low self esteem. In my view porn has trained is to think we need it when we don't. But I understand completely how you feel. I started masturbating when I was 8, now I am 39. I regret having ever started, but wish you the best with whichever path you choose. Even now I struggle as I feel I "need" to, because my mind has been trained that way.
     
  7. cenaclelove

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    I understand how you feel too. I started out longing for nudity when I was about 6, and that caused me to seek out porn, and porn preceded MO, so I was all in when I was 11 or so. But PMO stole my teenage years. Seriously. It wasn't just P, though, M and O were enough to do everything g2stop talked about. Thing is that I saw it was doing that stuff, and I wanted to stop, but I couldn't cause I didn't understand the idea of progress. I thought that a single setback ruined everything, and so I binged, and I cycled through this. I wish I'd had this website at that time, and I wish I'd understood how character is established through repeated actions. It would have saved my teenage years and saved me a lot of trouble afterwards.

    So stay with it. Get rid of PMO one step at a time. It's totally worth it. And I'd urge you to not stop with transferring masturbation from porn to fantasies: you're better off living a life of real relationships. Sex has a natural language, so to speak, and the body's happier when it's allowed to speak according to its nature.
     
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  8. IggyIshness

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    Ok i already decided that im not going to masturbate for at least a few more "12 weeks". Do you think that since i have been masturbating since i was 6 it stunt my growth? I feel like i couldve been taller..
    And it would do what g2stop said even when i do it every 2-4 months?
     
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  9. Enrique1

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    I do not believe it stunt your growth, and honestly, as much as I personally would like to get rid of M, I don't really believe it would do a lot of what g2stop said when you do it every 2-4 months. At least not in a very direct way. But maybe I'm wrong.
     
  10. VividKibitzer

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    Hey man, just would like to thank you for this thread. I was close the orgasming after I couldn't keep myself in check (touching my penis and placing it in weird places...), but I thought of this thread as a reminder. If I had orgasmed from masturbating, it would have been a repeat of my relapse with binge relapses occurring constantly. Good luck on your road ahead too and I will be following behind ;)
     
  11. VividKibitzer

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    Yeah man masturbating has nothing to do with your growth as enrique said. Also, you're still 14 so you have a long ways to grow. Some people can be 5'5 in middle school and be in the 6 feet range by the end of high school. Human height is significantly determined by genetics, so base your height from your father or mother's brothers. Eating poorly and sleeping late can take away 1 to 2 inches from your maximum height though.
     
  12. Very well said. :)
     
  13. BlueVervain

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    I would worry about the chaser effect with masturbation. I'd say give it lots of times before you think about resuming masturbation, if you've only ever masturbated to porn then your mind will naturally go back to what it's used to. You don't want to fall back into using porn, however masturbation doesn't have that same hyper-stimulation effect that overloads your brain with dopamine, which is what is so addictive about pornography in the first place. It sounds to me like you're being cautious which is good to hear.

    I think it's okay to masturbate occasionally, but there may be benefits to abstaining. Some people even abstain from orgasm during sex with a partner, as a way to increase intimacy, and maintain your vital force:http://abcnews.go.com/Health/karezz...ngthens-marriages-advocates/story?id=16743124

    You know yourself best. You just have to find what works for you.
     
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  14. Enrique1

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    I agree with most of that @BlueVervain, well said.

    And I have to add to my previous comments, @IggyIshness, that I'm kind of jealous of your 12 weeks :) You'll be fine I'm sure.

    Edit: the knee getting any better?
     
  15. IggyIshness

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    I figured out something the knee pain is caused by the weather and where i live, its very humid and gets ups and downs in temperatures and it effects my bones and shit. Its 90 degrees now and my knees start to feel better i think if i move somewhere warm it will better for sure. I live in chicago

    i swear the kids in 8th grade are so stupid..
    So lets just say we had a fort in school and in my teachers closet and there 2 entrances to the classrom which is through the main door a
    Of the classroom and then a back door which we would call the entrance to the fort. So me and my friends would ditch class and go in there and they started talking about masturbating. We stole a bunch of computers and hid them in the fort so they would go on the computers and try and search up porn XD. They were like hey i like jerking off to porn i do it weekly and stuff. This was during my reboot i was like week 6 or 7 or 8 idk but they asked me why dont i jerk off and im like no its not good for you. They thought i was fucking crazy they didnt believe me. To be honest i kinda knew they did because they cant concentrate on work and they are dumb af its just stahp
     
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  16. IggyIshness

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    I think im alot smarter then an average 13/14 year old because they are so stupid and jerk off and shit they will always be worse then me in anything because i have like a godly power i feel like im THAT much better
     
  17. IggyIshness

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    I got a tennis tournament tomorrow ive been performing so much better in tennis since i stopped jerking off.. when i started rebooting i told myself that after the reboot ill masturbate the end of summer like September to reward my self.. is that fine?
     
  18. classicalguitarmonk23

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    Why masturbate when you can save up all of that libido and use it for something useful in your life like playing well in tennis or spending it with a girl you go out with? It is a very slippery slope. If you allow yourself once to slip, you can go back to addiction. Use your libido for achievement and then pleasure yourself with a partner. Plus if you save it you will most likely sustain erections and prevent porn induced erectile dysfunction. If you masturbate a few times, I would do it with intention to prepare for sex. Touch yourself and find out what feels good, so that when you are with a girl you can tell her what feels good. Do what you want, but your future sex life is important.
     
  19. IggyIshness

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    Im masturbaing maximum once every 6 months if i really need to.. but ill try and keep myself away from it as much as i can. Before i was sccared shitless to go to a tennis tournament because i had no confidence. Now since i stopped im not really scared to go accually i want to go and win..
     
  20. IggyIshness

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    Masturbating for a minute a relapse
     

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