14 year old success story 30 days, and how you can quit addiction for good

  • Thread starter Thread starter Deleted Account
  • Start date Start date
D

Deleted Account

Guest
So this has been the absolute best 30 days of my life and I am can't thank this website and the people on here enough. So first I am going to list the benefits I have got and the reasons I believe why they are here, the short answer is EVERYTHING IS SO MUCH BETTER. I would like to mention that this is not my first nofap streak but it has been my best one and is going to be the longest.

I am more motivated/less lazy
I am more present
I am way more confident and I don't really give a shit what people think
I don't have anxiety and I am good in social situations
I just look better I love what I see if I look in the mirror
My life is more in order
I feel more energetic and happy
People are more attracted to me (I have made more friends and get a lot more looks from the opposite sex)
And finally I have learned so much about myself

Having more motivation has come from feeling more energy and feeling better about myself. I believe the motivation also comes from having a life which is in order and feeling confident. Having this motivation has made me push myself in all aspects of life, especially in kicking my bad habits and doing things which create discomfort, for example going to the gym which I have got more muscular from, especially in the last 30 days. Being more present allows you to enjoy life much more and can be achieved greatly through meditation. Being more confident comes from all of my good habits that I have made and having more energy and not wasting my life force for a shitty dopamine hit and instead using it to get closer to my goals. Being better in social situations and having less anxiety comes from being more confident. Looking better comes from having higher confidence and optimised hormones that you get from abstaining and the good habits like cold showers, weights and eating healthy. Having a life that is in order comes from everything else. Having more energy comes from semen retention and good habits. And people being more attracted to me comes from all of the other benefits which all stem down to abstaining.

So from this you can see how all of the benefits you experience link to each other. I believe the benefits stem down to doing nofap but you still have to push yourself in every aspect of life. A lot of the changes are all based on having different levels of neurotransmitters.

My best tip is to realise that pmo, fmo, mo or whatever is bad. You have to really make the association in your head with relapsing and feeling bad and abstaining and feeling good. This will either happen by you feeling good abstaining and you will not want to go back or hitting rock bottom and never wanting to relapse again because you have felt the agony. Here's what you need to understand: Addictions are caused by instant gratification (pleasure that you do not have to work for) and the main thing about instant gratification is that it is hedonistic happiness. First I will tell you about the two types of happiness for you to have a deeper understanding of what I am on about. The first type of happiness is hedonic. This type of happiness leaves one less satisfied after doing the action that created the happiness than before. This type of happiness has a chemical formula and is not essential to life. Examples of this would be eating a chocolate bar, fapping, drugs etc. If you were to get hooked up to opiates for the rest of your life for free you would not feel satisfied at all and would want to come off because they are not making you truly happy. The second type of happiness is eudaimonic this type is long lasting hapiness, well being and comes with a sense of satisfaction, this is TRUE happiness. This type of happiness is high up on the list of human psychological needs and can be achieved through hard work for example getting results in the gym, taking cold showers, meditation and quitting addictions. So basically when you get an urge to fap remind yourself that you are not going to feel any better afterwards and that in five minutes time the urge will be gone, it's really not that hard to resist is it? Fapping is instant gratification which leaves you unhappier after the act than before. It comes with a short ridiculously strong dopamine rush meaning it creates addiction. So remember when you next have the urge, the urge only lasts a short while and when you resist you will become happier and every time you don't give in you are a massive step closer to being free from addiction which is pure bliss which I am yet to experience. Here is a video to improve your understand even more of the types of hapiness.
good luck y'all :). Also I would like to say that this is only the start of my journey and I have far to go. Check out my reboot log to follow me and maybe meet some new people and create a good sense of community, I post daily and have interesting insights and stuff to talk about self-improvement related. Thanks for taking the time to read this :)
 
Don't watch porn again. Im begging you I was like you I started at 10. Now im 18. I cant even look people in the eye.Porn has fucked up 8 years of my youth. Im on day 9 BTW and I'm trying yo reboot/refuel and repair my mind. But on a real dont watch porn or wank. Wanking drains the fuck out of you. My legs are weak. I used to do boxing I was good at it by 8 years of PMO almost everyday has weakened my body. I don't even have any footwork anymore.
 
Clean4life said:
So this has been the absolute best 30 days of my life and I am can't thank this website and the people on here enough. So first I am going to list the benefits I have got and the reasons I believe why they are here, the short answer is EVERYTHING IS SO MUCH BETTER. I would like to mention that this is not my first NoFap streak but it has been my best one and is going to be the longest.

I am more motivated/less lazy
I am more present
I am way more confident and I don't really give a shit what people think
I don't have anxiety and I am good in social situations
I just look better I love what I see if I look in the mirror
My life is more in order
I feel more energetic and happy
People are more attracted to me (I have made more friends and get a lot more looks from the opposite sex)
And finally I have learned so much about myself

Having more motivation has come from feeling more energy and feeling better about myself. I believe the motivation also comes from having a life which is in order and feeling confident. Having this motivation has made me push myself in all aspects of life, especially in kicking my bad habits and doing things which create discomfort, for example going to the gym which I have got more muscular from, especially in the last 30 days. Being more present allows you to enjoy life much more and can be achieved greatly through meditation. Being more confident comes from all of my good habits that I have made and having more energy and not wasting my life force for a shitty dopamine hit and instead using it to get closer to my goals. Being better in social situations and having less anxiety comes from being more confident. Looking better comes from having higher confidence and optimised hormones that you get from abstaining and the good habits like cold showers, weights and eating healthy. Having a life that is in order comes from everything else. Having more energy comes from semen retention and good habits. And people being more attracted to me comes from all of the other benefits which all stem down to abstaining.

So from this you can see how all of the benefits you experience link to each other. I believe the benefits stem down to doing NoFap but you still have to push yourself in every aspect of life. A lot of the changes are all based on having different levels of neurotransmitters.

My best tip is to realise that pmo, fmo, mo or whatever is bad. You have to really make the association in your head with relapsing and feeling bad and abstaining and feeling good. This will either happen by you feeling good abstaining and you will not want to go back or hitting rock bottom and never wanting to relapse again because you have felt the agony. Here's what you need to understand: Addictions are caused by instant gratification (pleasure that you do not have to work for) and the main thing about instant gratification is that it is hedonistic happiness. First I will tell you about the two types of happiness for you to have a deeper understanding of what I am on about. The first type of happiness is hedonic. This type of happiness leaves one less satisfied after doing the action that created the happiness than before. This type of happiness has a chemical formula and is not essential to life. Examples of this would be eating a chocolate bar, fapping, drugs etc. If you were to get hooked up to opiates for the rest of your life for free you would not feel satisfied at all and would want to come off because they are not making you truly happy. The second type of happiness is eudaimonic this type is long lasting hapiness, well being and comes with a sense of satisfaction, this is TRUE happiness. This type of happiness is high up on the list of human psychological needs and can be achieved through hard work for example getting results in the gym, taking cold showers, meditation and quitting addictions. So basically when you get an urge to fap remind yourself that you are not going to feel any better afterwards and that in five minutes time the urge will be gone, it's really not that hard to resist is it? Fapping is instant gratification which leaves you unhappier after the act than before. It comes with a short ridiculously strong dopamine rush meaning it creates addiction. So remember when you next have the urge, the urge only lasts a short while and when you resist you will become happier and every time you don't give in you are a massive step closer to being free from addiction which is pure bliss which I am yet to experience. Here is a video to improve your understand even more of the types of hapiness.
good luck y'all :). Also I would like to say that this is only the start of my journey and I have far to go. Check out my reboot log to follow me and maybe meet some new people and create a good sense of community, I post daily and have interesting insights and stuff to talk about self-improvement related. Thanks for taking the time to read this :)
Click to expand...
Clean4life said:
So this has been the absolute best 30 days of my life and I am can't thank this website and the people on here enough. So first I am going to list the benefits I have got and the reasons I believe why they are here, the short answer is EVERYTHING IS SO MUCH BETTER. I would like to mention that this is not my first NoFap streak but it has been my best one and is going to be the longest.

I am more motivated/less lazy
I am more present
I am way more confident and I don't really give a shit what people think
I don't have anxiety and I am good in social situations
I just look better I love what I see if I look in the mirror
My life is more in order
I feel more energetic and happy
People are more attracted to me (I have made more friends and get a lot more looks from the opposite sex)
And finally I have learned so much about myself

Having more motivation has come from feeling more energy and feeling better about myself. I believe the motivation also comes from having a life which is in order and feeling confident. Having this motivation has made me push myself in all aspects of life, especially in kicking my bad habits and doing things which create discomfort, for example going to the gym which I have got more muscular from, especially in the last 30 days. Being more present allows you to enjoy life much more and can be achieved greatly through meditation. Being more confident comes from all of my good habits that I have made and having more energy and not wasting my life force for a shitty dopamine hit and instead using it to get closer to my goals. Being better in social situations and having less anxiety comes from being more confident. Looking better comes from having higher confidence and optimised hormones that you get from abstaining and the good habits like cold showers, weights and eating healthy. Having a life that is in order comes from everything else. Having more energy comes from semen retention and good habits. And people being more attracted to me comes from all of the other benefits which all stem down to abstaining.

So from this you can see how all of the benefits you experience link to each other. I believe the benefits stem down to doing NoFap but you still have to push yourself in every aspect of life. A lot of the changes are all based on having different levels of neurotransmitters.

My best tip is to realise that pmo, fmo, mo or whatever is bad. You have to really make the association in your head with relapsing and feeling bad and abstaining and feeling good. This will either happen by you feeling good abstaining and you will not want to go back or hitting rock bottom and never wanting to relapse again because you have felt the agony. Here's what you need to understand: Addictions are caused by instant gratification (pleasure that you do not have to work for) and the main thing about instant gratification is that it is hedonistic happiness. First I will tell you about the two types of happiness for you to have a deeper understanding of what I am on about. The first type of happiness is hedonic. This type of happiness leaves one less satisfied after doing the action that created the happiness than before. This type of happiness has a chemical formula and is not essential to life. Examples of this would be eating a chocolate bar, fapping, drugs etc. If you were to get hooked up to opiates for the rest of your life for free you would not feel satisfied at all and would want to come off because they are not making you truly happy. The second type of happiness is eudaimonic this type is long lasting hapiness, well being and comes with a sense of satisfaction, this is TRUE happiness. This type of happiness is high up on the list of human psychological needs and can be achieved through hard work for example getting results in the gym, taking cold showers, meditation and quitting addictions. So basically when you get an urge to fap remind yourself that you are not going to feel any better afterwards and that in five minutes time the urge will be gone, it's really not that hard to resist is it? Fapping is instant gratification which leaves you unhappier after the act than before. It comes with a short ridiculously strong dopamine rush meaning it creates addiction. So remember when you next have the urge, the urge only lasts a short while and when you resist you will become happier and every time you don't give in you are a massive step closer to being free from addiction which is pure bliss which I am yet to experience. Here is a video to improve your understand even more of the types of hapiness.
good luck y'all :). Also I would like to say that this is only the start of my journey and I have far to go. Check out my reboot log to follow me and maybe meet some new people and create a good sense of community, I post daily and have interesting insights and stuff to talk about self-improvement related. Thanks for taking the time to read this :)
Click to expand...
I wish I would've stopped at your age I'm 23 I wasted 10 year on this porn filth stay away for good find something you love and make that your new addiction your bound to reach greatness thinking like this good luck
 
nada fap said:
Don't watch porn again. Im begging you I was like you I started at 10. Now im 18. I cant even look people in the eye.Porn has fucked up 8 years of my youth. Im on day 9 BTW and I'm trying yo reboot/refuel and repair my mind. But on a real dont watch porn or wank. Wanking drains the fuck out of you. My legs are weak. I used to do boxing I was good at it by 8 years of PMO almost everyday has weakened my body. I don't even have any footwork anymore.
Click to expand...
I know how it felt man. My addiction was never porn, I never watched porn but I did fmo (fantasy masturbation orgasm) which is nearly as bad. Anyway I will post another success story each month good luck :)
 
Clean4life said:
I know how it felt man. My addiction was never porn, I never watched porn but I did fmo (fantasy masturbation orgasm) which is nearly as bad. Anyway I will post another success story each month good luck :)
Click to expand...

Its not nearly as bad because if you never watched porn, you dont have the pathways in your brain that fantisizing about porn will activate therefore its not as bad
 
Clean4life said:
The first type of happiness is hedonic. This type of happiness leaves one less satisfied after doing the action that created the happiness than before. This type of happiness has a chemical formula and is not essential to life. Examples of this would be eating a chocolate bar, fapping, drugs etc. If you were to get hooked up to opiates for the rest of your life for free you would not feel satisfied at all and would want to come off because they are not making you truly happy. The second type of happiness is eudaimonic this type is long lasting hapiness, well being and comes with a sense of satisfaction, this is TRUE happiness. This type of happiness is high up on the list of human psychological needs and can be achieved through hard work for example getting results in the gym, taking cold showers, meditation and quitting addictions.
Click to expand...

What you write here about happiness is very astounding, given your young age. You have deep insights which others have much later.

And yes: the second type of happiness is in fact the real true happiness. To me, it is the meaning of life.

You could also say this:

  • The first type of happiness comes from outside. You are always seeking for something outside of you, to give you a thrill. Like porn pictures, one night stands, loose contacts, a new car ... Or think of such widespread behaviou like consuming, watching facebook, watching tv, drinking alcohol, etc.

  • The second type of happiness comes from inside. It comes when you are doing things which you deeply like by yourself. Here, the motivation comes totally from inside of yourself. This builds up a long-lasting happiness, which is glowing inside of you, and which is giving you the feeling of being centered in the world. You are truly yourself.
 
@Clean4life

I also like your saying in your avatar: "When you are depressed, you live in the past. When you are anxious, you live in the future. When you are at peace, you live in the present".

That's totally right. And this is also connected to the second type of happiness you wrote about.

As I say, the meaning of life and true happinesss is really to live always in the present. And when you experience strong emotions - either bad or good - then still just take them as is. Don't carry them on. That means:
  • If you experience something bad, then let it go by. Don't get upset about it. Don't carry it on in your memory. Don't think about revenge.
  • And also when you experience something great and pleasant, then also just enjoy the moment and be grateful. But don't expect that it will last forever. Don't derive any future plans from it (you will likely be disappointed) , or don't expect that it will come again. Luck is often only a one-time-memory.
 
SnowWhite said:
@Clean4life

I also like your saying in your avatar: "When you are depressed, you live in the past. When you are anxious, you live in the future. When you are at peace, you live in the present".

That's totally right. And this is also connected to the second type of happiness you wrote about.

As I say, the meaning of life and true happinesss is really to live always in the present. And when you experience strong emotions - either bad or good - then still just take them as is. Don't carry them on. That means:
  • If you experience something bad, then let it go by. Don't get upset about it. Don't carry it on in your memory. Don't think about revenge.
  • And also when you experience something great and pleasant, then also just enjoy the moment and be grateful. But don't expect that it will last forever. Don't derive any future plans from it (you will likely be disappointed) , or don't expect that it will come again. Luck is often only a one-time-memory.
Click to expand...
Totally agree with everything there. Great explanation. I have problems quitting sugar as you may know, when I end up eating sugar it usually goes back to me being disconnected with the present moment. This is really important. good luck :)
 
Clean4life said:
So this has been the absolute best 30 days of my life and I am can't thank this website and the people on here enough. So first I am going to list the benefits I have got and the reasons I believe why they are here, the short answer is EVERYTHING IS SO MUCH BETTER. I would like to mention that this is not my first NoFap streak but it has been my best one and is going to be the longest.

I am more motivated/less lazy
I am more present
I am way more confident and I don't really give a shit what people think
I don't have anxiety and I am good in social situations
I just look better I love what I see if I look in the mirror
My life is more in order
I feel more energetic and happy
People are more attracted to me (I have made more friends and get a lot more looks from the opposite sex)
And finally I have learned so much about myself

Having more motivation has come from feeling more energy and feeling better about myself. I believe the motivation also comes from having a life which is in order and feeling confident. Having this motivation has made me push myself in all aspects of life, especially in kicking my bad habits and doing things which create discomfort, for example going to the gym which I have got more muscular from, especially in the last 30 days. Being more present allows you to enjoy life much more and can be achieved greatly through meditation. Being more confident comes from all of my good habits that I have made and having more energy and not wasting my life force for a shitty dopamine hit and instead using it to get closer to my goals. Being better in social situations and having less anxiety comes from being more confident. Looking better comes from having higher confidence and optimised hormones that you get from abstaining and the good habits like cold showers, weights and eating healthy. Having a life that is in order comes from everything else. Having more energy comes from semen retention and good habits. And people being more attracted to me comes from all of the other benefits which all stem down to abstaining.

So from this you can see how all of the benefits you experience link to each other. I believe the benefits stem down to doing NoFap but you still have to push yourself in every aspect of life. A lot of the changes are all based on having different levels of neurotransmitters.

My best tip is to realise that pmo, fmo, mo or whatever is bad. You have to really make the association in your head with relapsing and feeling bad and abstaining and feeling good. This will either happen by you feeling good abstaining and you will not want to go back or hitting rock bottom and never wanting to relapse again because you have felt the agony. Here's what you need to understand: Addictions are caused by instant gratification (pleasure that you do not have to work for) and the main thing about instant gratification is that it is hedonistic happiness. First I will tell you about the two types of happiness for you to have a deeper understanding of what I am on about. The first type of happiness is hedonic. This type of happiness leaves one less satisfied after doing the action that created the happiness than before. This type of happiness has a chemical formula and is not essential to life. Examples of this would be eating a chocolate bar, fapping, drugs etc. If you were to get hooked up to opiates for the rest of your life for free you would not feel satisfied at all and would want to come off because they are not making you truly happy. The second type of happiness is eudaimonic this type is long lasting hapiness, well being and comes with a sense of satisfaction, this is TRUE happiness. This type of happiness is high up on the list of human psychological needs and can be achieved through hard work for example getting results in the gym, taking cold showers, meditation and quitting addictions. So basically when you get an urge to fap remind yourself that you are not going to feel any better afterwards and that in five minutes time the urge will be gone, it's really not that hard to resist is it? Fapping is instant gratification which leaves you unhappier after the act than before. It comes with a short ridiculously strong dopamine rush meaning it creates addiction. So remember when you next have the urge, the urge only lasts a short while and when you resist you will become happier and every time you don't give in you are a massive step closer to being free from addiction which is pure bliss which I am yet to experience. Here is a video to improve your understand even more of the types of hapiness.
good luck y'all :). Also I would like to say that this is only the start of my journey and I have far to go. Check out my reboot log to follow me and maybe meet some new people and create a good sense of community, I post daily and have interesting insights and stuff to talk about self-improvement related. Thanks for taking the time to read this :)
Click to expand...

Nice job on making it to 30 days. You are doing outstanding!! I watched the video on happiness and some of the stuff it said suprized me. Most of what I previously thought was true happiness was only in the middle 1/3 of the spectrum and the top one third of the spectrum was really obvious but i forgot it or left it in the back of my head before watching this video. Thanks for posting this video out here. You give me tons of motivation from your success stories and the videos the you post. Here and in your log. Thanks and keep going!!
 
Harry Maclad said:
Nice job on making it to 30 days. You are doing outstanding!! I watched the video on happiness and some of the stuff it said suprized me. Most of what I previously thought was true happiness was only in the middle 1/3 of the spectrum and the top one third of the spectrum was really obvious but i forgot it or left it in the back of my head before watching this video. Thanks for posting this video out here. You give me tons of motivation from your success stories and the videos the you post. Here and in your log. Thanks and keep going!!
Click to expand...
I know what you mean. The top 1/3 comes from inside. I'm glad I have helped you bro keep going !:)
 
Wow, you definitley know something. And this at your young age. I'm really impressed.
Keep this thing up man! You will be a very fulfilled young man with a lot of beautiful girls around you!

Wish you the best & thanks for sharing this great post! :)
 
Clean4life said:
I have problems quitting sugar as you may know, when I end up eating sugar it usually goes back to me being disconnected with the present moment.
Click to expand...

Do you mean sugar literally, or as a subst for porn?

Anyway, sugar is similar to porn: It gives you a quick rush, then you fall down into a hole.

If you want to quit sugar, then I recommend you to switch to oat flakes.
Mix them with water (not milk).
The carbonates in the oat are digested slowly and give you a long-lasting energy.
 
SnowWhite said:
Do you mean sugar literally, or as a subst for porn?

Anyway, sugar is similar to porn: It gives you a quick rush, then you fall down into a hole.

If you want to quit sugar, then I recommend you to switch to oat flakes.
Mix them with water (not milk).
The carbonates in the oat are digested slowly and give you a long-lasting energy.
Click to expand...
Yes i do mean sugar literally. I do have oatmeal with unsweetened almond occasionally. As i have said before I never used porn, i was addicted to masturbation. Thanks for your advice bro, stay strong.
 
You must log in or register to reply here.
Back
Top