159 days unhappy but free

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  1. Don Gately

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    I’ll try and come back at some point and explain the story more fully, but basically explaining everything to my ex girlfriend shocked me into not wanting anything to do with porn ever again. I know there’s always some risk of relapse, but this feels sustainable. I still lost the girl. Under other circumstances she would have forgiven the porn use, and maybe even the acting out with other girls after we broke up, but she had already met someone else. I harbor hope still that maybe in a couple years when I’ve changed and worked and continued to improve, we’ll both be ready to revisit our relationship and maybe try it out again, but that’s not what she thinks. She says we’re done forever. So it also could be that that’s that. I’m absolutely heartbroken.

    After all that, I recognize that I’m free in a profound way. I’ve been able to get so much done over the last few months that otherwise would have frustrated me or I would have not been able to get my brain to commit to, and that’s huge. There’s more to do than I have time for, but I’m making progress. I’m glad I got clean but I’m really sad about what it took to get here. 159 days and counting.
     
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  2. Kieran2121

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    Congratulations on your progress. :)
    I know it's hard but things really do get better :)

    You are work in progress and everything has different stages. Letting some people go and detach ourselves can be painful but necesary part of healing.

    In my life, I've had experience that only once you stop dwelling on things/ people and surrender yourself to the process will things start to change profoundly for you.

    Safe journey. You are not alone :)
     
  3. Mr. Monk

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    Nice job! If you pray and still believe for it to happen one day again perhaps it will.. The one thing you can do right now is to just strive your self in a field or hobby to boost your self to the top just like you did in NP. It will make you seem more attractive the next time you meet her. But there may be a better Woman out there for you even, you can show another gal a Wonderful time and have god help you with that. :)


    I’m sorry to say my friend but it seems like she was ready to move on since she already met a guy… Actually I have a huge pet peeve for Woman who move on so quick and leave a guy like you in a sack of dirt. You could have been worse or done escorts. It’s like they don’t give a rats ass to second consider you, it’s like they just want them selfs a Prince Charming.. You never know how it will turn out especially for them.


    Keep you’re streak. If the next time you meet her and she’s finding it hard to believe and you show her you’re Nofap work and it doesn’t spark a single chord. She’s not the one for you my friend. True love understands.
     
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  4. Don Gately

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    It is definitely a work in progress. Looking back, I was ready to commit, but I wasn’t prepared to provide, so now I’m working on that. Either we’ll find each other again or I’ll fall in love again. I know that, but right now I still want to cry or take a nap for a week or something. Thanks for responding, I love hearing from you guys.
     
  5. Don Gately

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    True love does understand. I do pray about this a lot, and it feels like there may be still be something there, but she can always choose something else. It was love but maybe not the lifelong kind, or maybe not for her. Thanks for your support. It does hurt that she moved to someone else so fast, especially because I know he has some things she was looking for in his career and relationship experience that I didn’t have. The Lord will fight my battles, and he will arrange what needs arranging for the future.
     
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  6. Mr. Monk

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    Keep praying my friend. My first girlfriend moved on two days after our break up and I was hurt for a week or two and as I didn’t matter anymore.
     

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