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18 days tried having sex limp dicked her

Discussion in 'Rebooting - Porn Addiction Recovery' started by Akira45, Jan 25, 2022.

  1. Akira45

    Akira45 New Fapstronaut

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    I’ve been rebooting 18 days now, mad urges. I’ve noticed that I’ve been getting hard while talking to a woman at work. We laid in bed for awhile and I was hard for, about the full duration of the hour she was here. That was last week. Anyway recently she came over and we started making out and I ate her out, still maintaining an erection, blowjob, maintaining an erection, condom comes out and she attempts to put it on I go soft. Can’t get it back up. What happened, I know I was nervous, but I was nervous throughout lol. Any advice or commentary please?
     
  2. specofconsciousness

    specofconsciousness Fapstronaut

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    Even though i don't know to help, I wish you luck with this. Stay strong and keep on recovering man!
     
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  3. Could be due to a sensitivity issue. Because of excessive PMO it can become difficult to keep an erection using other types of simulation besides your hand. Condoms can make it especially difficult to maintain an erection.

    How long are you porn free? You might just need to go no PMO for a while, that usually fixes this issue for most guys, including me.
     
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  4. Akira45

    Akira45 New Fapstronaut

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    I was only 18 days porn free. I started having erections at work again and talking to women, it felt great. I’ve never put on a condom before and have had very few sexual experiences, very nervous as well.
     
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  5. fisherman9009

    fisherman9009 Fapstronaut

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    I think it's honestly kind of normal even if you weren't on nofap. Condoms kindve kill the mood and they also take a while to get used to. Id try to meet up with her again. Usually if you are just honest with a chick she will be cool about it if she likes you. Just tell her im not used to condoms and it kindve killed it for me, but we should try again. Eventually you'll get used to it and be hard as a rock with one on. You could also buy some and just put them on at home when youre alone just to get used to the sensation just MAKE SURE you don't start PMO when doing this
     
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  6. cocolin

    cocolin Fapstronaut

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    I think you need more days to recover. Same shoes with you. I got limp dick when i pull out and comdom is a turn off, only hard when raw. But more importantly i still find that i get turn on and rock hard from porn which i dont have when real interact so i think we need to get rid of pmo more to get the result, our brain are so fucked up now. Btw im day 1, new in the forums and so good to know that my journey not alone
     
  7. Warthog

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    Hey, I had this exact same thing when I first started dating my GF. I was all excited and up for it until the condom came out and then suddenly it all went away. I felt really nervous and worried about my PIED that just killed the mood. Good news is that it will go away. If you stay away from PMO then even the condom wont be able to stop you, just give it some more time.
     
  8. reboot_8716

    reboot_8716 Fapstronaut

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    Condoms suck, I’ve had that problem for a long time in general, always easier to get hard without one because it’s one less thing to think about.

    One thing that I found helpful was asking the girl to put the condom on for me so I could keep kissing her. I also tried to associate the sensation of a condom going on as positive. I tried to think about how it felt being slid onto me as a sexual thing as opposed to an administrative task and focused on the sensations of it and it seemed to work a bit better.

    I’m struggling with the issue again now due to a prolonged bout of PIED and the fact that my wife went off birth control for other reasons, which has required us to use condoms again. It’s really frustrating but confident I’ll eventually work through it.
     
  9. SelfControlIsTheGoal

    SelfControlIsTheGoal Fapstronaut

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    Nervous vibes + condoms = limp dong. Happens to the best of us! Not even necessarily cause by PMO.
     

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