18 y/0 newbie

Discussion in 'New to NoFap' started by the general, May 28, 2020.

  1. the general

    the general Fapstronaut

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    Hey everyone. Very glad to finally have the courage to create my first thread in the community. To be honest I joined the forum when I was 17 years old. I just used to look at the posts as they would motivate me from quitting my 7-year porn addiction. However, I realized I must journal because it means I have a grip on my journey. It has been a seriously rough journey with some nasty impacts. I nowadays feel quite insecure and anxious. Furthermore, thoughts of not having a non-lustful relationship with women always come through my mind because I can never see them the same way ever since I watched porn. I also get emotions of always being watched by someone and everyone. I've always wanted to get out of this dark pit but every time I decide that I will stop I rationalize my way through by "testing myself with porn" which I find quite irrational right now. By journaling my journey daily I think it will help me to finally get out for the better. I have read the success story of others and even though my journey to recovery is at day zero and I currently feel quite sad about it. I know by posting my experience it will encourage and help someone who has the same fear I had of posting my recovery to post his or hers.
     
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  3. Welcome to the community :) wish you all the best on your journey, if you have any questions or concerns please dont hesitate to ask us. Take care.
     
  4. LoveIsAllWeNeed

    LoveIsAllWeNeed Fapstronaut

    Welcome to this forum. Your insecurity and anxiety, your lustful looking at women and your mindtricks are part of the 'normal' PMO-addicction. They will fade away as time passes by. You will feel stronger, start looking at women less as sexual and more as human beings and stop feeling watched. You can let go of your sadness since your past is behind you and your future is looking better than ever before!

    Be vigilant regarding your mind. The fact that you see the "testing yourself" as a mindtrick is extremely important. There will be many more of these crazy thoughts that will try to make you think PMO is okay and if you're not on top your game you will relapse. Never think you've conquered your addiction or it will bite you.

    A journal is a very good idea and reading and writing regularly helps you stay focused.

    I wish you a great journey.
     
  5. Pajda

    Pajda Fapstronaut

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    I am in a similiar situation like you, but I wasn't even a member of the community up until now. Today I have made my first thread as well. Lots of luck to you, although you may be thinking that you're "too addicted" to stop after all those years, I am sure you can find the inner strength to do so!
     
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  6. keepitinmybriefs

    keepitinmybriefs Fapstronaut

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    Welcome to nofap!

    My suggestions:
    * Wear briefs (not boxerbriefs) instead of boxers. This keeps everything secure, and not flopping around where you can be tempted/distracted.
    * Keep a schedule for your day and don't have unstructured time where you can be distracted/tempted. Make sure you're reading, or going for a walk, or talking to a friend, or getting some work done, and not just lazing around.
     
  7. the general

    the general Fapstronaut

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    Thank you very much. I personally have a planner in which I plan my day to the detail
     
  8. keepitinmybriefs

    keepitinmybriefs Fapstronaut

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    You're welcome! And that's a good start!
     

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