2 Months PM mode: from ED / PE / Anxiety to Sex like a porn star.

Discussion in 'Success Stories' started by Icantcomeupwithagoodname, Mar 6, 2019.

  1. Hi everyone.

    I felt like i wanted to share a personal success story of mine because the last 3 days i had the best sex of my life, which was exactly my goal with quitting P.

    In november i had a short affair with a woman i met on tinder.
    With her, i experienced ED-Issues but at that time i just thought, it was some sort of exhaustion because we already did "it" before.
    In december i have met a really wonderful woman and in the end of january we both engaged in a serious relationship.

    The very first times we had sex i always came within 3 minutes. In another night i could not get it up at all. I thought it was because of the intense workout i had before. But then i started to read more about my issues on forums like this.
    I decided to quit watching P completely since end of december and still am to this day. It is actually quite easy for me. I never considered myself an addict (i stopped watching hardcore P like 2 1/2 years ago and only did M 1-3 times a week to softcore or youtube videos).

    Because my GF has a son, in the beginning i was only able to see her (over night) every other weekend. Each time, we tried to have sex, there was some sort of issue. Most of the time i experienced extreme PE, which means i had to control my self not to cum right after entering her. And other times i could not get hard at all. I told her everything about PIED and promised that everything would get better and i knew exactly what to do.
    She was very understanding every time. But there were moments where i got a really awful anxiety after i left her house after another unsatisfying bed-experience. That was the point where i made this account and this post:

    https://www.nofap.com/forum/index.p...s-and-success-in-sex-now-i-am-anxious.215274/

    Even thinking about sex was like stress to me. But i knew i had to be patient and keep going for it in order to allow my brain to rewire to the real thing. I even visited a doctor but he did not know anything about PIED and could not really help me. I started to take L-Arginine with Pycnogenol, Yohimbine Complex and Cink and did Kegel exercises every day for almost 2 months. I also didn't m without her (just once with her on video-call and another time on the phone).

    Then approximately 3-4 weeks ago i entered a flatline. I could not get aroused whatsoever. I also told her about that.

    I did not know for how long i had to go through all of this and was afraid that i might not be able to satisfy both of us for a very long time.

    But then suddenly something changed! It was like magic.
    The last 4 days we spend together in a wellness-hotel on a short vacation.
    The first night i told her that i did not O for half a month and the act would be very quick. That was the case. But it was a really huge load, i blew. That left her in awe.
    The next evening we tried again. I entered her and again i immediately felt the PONR arriving. I told her to go slow because i am about to O. Again... like almost everytime. And so did i. Then i kept on pleasing her in other ways and said to her that i really wish i could just let myself go and enjoy this a little longer. Told her that my body just doesn't work in my favor.
    I waited for about 20 min. Then started to go hard again. When i was hard enough i went for it again (i kept her aroused in the meantime). And then... once i was inside her, i was going harder and harder... and did not feel ANY SIGN OF PE or even remotely coming close to PONR. I just kept going and going! (Warning: may contain triggers)
    We did like about 4 or 5 positions no matter how tight she felt in any, i could go at any speed and strength, i could dirty talk her, i could do what ever the hell i wanted. She O'd so hard that she started screaming through the entire hotel. I had to place my hand on her mouth. I still kept going and going and even had to pressure myself to O at all. It was absolutely amazing!!
    The next day i got boners by looking at her and being next to her, and started teasing her with it. Next time we had absolutely amazing sex again. It was like a magic switch got turned over. Literally from PE almost everytime to having sex like forever within just 20 minutes!!!!
    I could not believe it.
    The next day we spent the night together at her home. In the morning we had sex.. i did not even last for two minutes. But same story.. i waited 20 minutes or half an hour and did a second round, and it lasted forever with me being able to do whatever i wanted for how long i wanted!
    My gf told me she was getting sore and she would become massively addicted to me if we went on like that.

    I never expected to see success that fast within such an extremely short time span!
    I got butterflies in my stomach and could almost cry because of happiness.
    Quitting P and rewiring to a real woman gave me the best sex experience i ever had in my life. And i know it will be even better in the future!

    I plan on never ever watching p again! If you have the same goal as me (improving your sex life with a real partner) then i would really suggest to allow yourself to have sex and also O with a real partner but don't do it too often and also quit M.

    I am continuing my journey of improving my sex life with the same habits. Taking the right supplements, doing kegels, avoiding P (and M or just do it very very rarely, maybe once or twice a month). And focusing all my sexuality on my gf.

    I hope i can inspire someone to not give up, not doubt in nofap and not getting demotivated by hard times of anxiety, flatlines and performance issues. Just like your success stories inspired and motivated me! It WILL change!! Literally just like magic! You won't even recognize the change, it will just be there out of nowhere!

    Thanks for reading.
     
    Last edited: Mar 6, 2019
  2. SuperSiemka

    SuperSiemka New Fapstronaut

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    Dude You just saved me from going for a relapse by reminding me how great sex with real girlfriend could be that I started experiencing after about 10 days of my recent streak. Congrats and I wish You two the best.
     
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  3. UnfortunateBoi

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    Did you notice that you saw your gf in a different light as you started to ease back on PMO?
     
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  4. phwrancesco

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    thats exactly what happened to me when i reached 80-90 days the first time. Now i'm trying to master the 1 hour performance in first round and quiete often i can make it! At this stage actually i do better performances if i abstain for a quiete long amount of time!
     
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  5. g2stop

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    I don’t understand the title, isn’t sex like a porn star a bad thing?
     
  6. You are very welcome my friend.

    Not particularly.
    It is just that in the beginning i couldnt get/stay hard enough even though i knew she was extremely hot.
    But in the end my best friend down there also agreed with me.

    I get what you are trying to say.
    Mainly P f's our brains by setting unnaturally high standards and expectations to sex that are not based on reality. But let me tell you that it is absolutely mindblowing if you can actually fulfill these expectations by abstaining from watching P.

    My gf in fact told me that she had the best sex in her life with me (or close to) and she has had many guys before me including a 13y long marriage. Hearing something like this is so unreal and skyrockets your ego through the roof. Believe me! It is worth it.
     
  7. RishabGupta

    RishabGupta Fapstronaut

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    Great learn from your experience
     
  8. Moro99

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    Great story brother
    I'm on day 50 hard mode i will made it till 100 day or more
    Can i ask you i have a 14 cm penis Can i satisfy a woman like you doo Can she screaam and say to mee that your the best !?
     
  9. RishabGupta

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    What other ways could be applied to keep her engaged till you get second erection??? Licking is one. I notice that I really lose interest after first round. My inside go gets over.
     
  10. ironmaing

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    What an inspiring story! Congrats bro! I’m hoping to achieve what you have. I’ve been dealing with PIED for as long as I can remember always to different degrees but never understood why. With my ex, i think I beat it but without realizing but I was still using ED pills (another addiction). With new gf, I’ve struggled to get boners and when I do I try to put it in before I lose it that I nut within seconds. With PMO I feel better than ever, but worried about sex. Do you have any other tips? Did you meditate? What did you learn about this recovery i.e. what would you have done differently to speed it up?
     
  11. There you can really use your creativity. Go down on her, cuddle with her, give her a massage, kiss her, watch a movie with her, lie in bed with her and talk to her. It is really up to you.

    All the top tips i can give you:
    -Stop watching P.
    -Workout regularly
    -Take L-Arginine regularly (and maybe zinc and Yohimbine)
    - Do Kegel Exercises (i think this really helps with building muscles down there. I am now at a point where i always get hard for a second round after like 15-30 Minutes)
    -O as little as possible. If you can have sex, don't M at all. If you can't, reduce it to once per week MAXIMUM. Because the more you O, the lower your testosterone levels and higher your prolactine levels are. Both lowers your overall sexual energy and libido.
    -Get proper nutrition.

    In fact i made a post on this forum myself where i asked for more tips, to reduce this so called "refractory period".
    Didn' get any answers yet.

    Good luck and best regards.
     
    Last edited: Jul 16, 2019
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  13. RishabGupta

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    Highly thankful for your reply
     
  14. ironmaing

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    Great tips. Thank you so much. I’ll implement them today
     
  15. ironmaing

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    Which brand of L-Arginine did you take? There are so many. I wonder if there are more efficient ones than others vs overpriced, etc?
     
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  17. deleter99

    deleter99 Fapstronaut

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    I don't know why but i will never trust tablets, only foods that contain zinc and all other minerals needed.

    If your having trouble lasting in sex do this:

    0. Read Kamasutra
    1. Stop porn and anything else sexual like instagram hot girls, tv-shows, music videos or music about sex just completely stop about it.
    2. Start kegel exercises. This will help you 100% to last 30-1h no problem but if you're do it corectly, start holding the muscle for about 10 seconds then rest 3 seconds and do about 30reps daily.
    3. Do penis exercises, you can search them up like jelquing, do them every second day for 20mins, don't forget to warm ur penis up.
    4. Now when you're having sex, NEVER put it in right away, go touching first, kissing, massage, licking, sucking.. At least 5-10 mins get her crazy about how much she want's it ( don't put it when she says you to, complete the first session when your comfortable.
    5. Get a good position that you can easy control, doggy, misionary, standing. These are some positions that you are dominant and you can control her so it's easier to control your orgasm.
    6. Start slow then go faster and harder after. Time will pass by and you wont even notice.
    7. When you're reaching near orgasm PUT HIM OUT and start licking her or fingering while it slows down, never come too close to orgasm that is dangerous. Rest 2-3 mins while intense fingering her.
    8. When you're ready put him again BUT CHANGE THE POSITION. Move around with her set her in laying position, but the best one is doggy while ur standing above her, try it :).
    9. The most important thing of this is that you're trying to please her not you, so when you're having sex go for the G-spot, go for her to squirt/orgasm. And do it as much as you can, IMAGINE THE POWER YOU HAVE WHILE SHE'S SQUIRTING ALL AROUND AND YOU DIDN'T ORGASM EVEN ONCE :).
    10. Finnaly when you see she is done it will pass 1-2h 100% and you are the sex god :). If she want's you to cum just say you cummed whatever fuck her.
    11. Also try to think about other things while having sex or look around what is funny to you or think abut football, music i know it sounds funny but you will enjoy hearing her how she thinks about u like a sex god.

    Wish u all good luck. This is proven and once i had sex about 2h straight and made her squirt 13-14 times :), i don't think im better than you you can do it the same, just research up good luck :).
     
  18. ironmaing

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    NEver he
    Never heard of jelquing, sounds intriguing, but wondering how it may impact my no PMO. I have PIED at the moment and on nofap hard mode.
     
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  19. TheJokerBoy

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    Which Kegels are you doing?
    And are your first rounds within 3 minutes? And after that you have a brake of 20-30min and you look that your girlfriend stays aroused? Then you can have as long as you want?

    I wanna quit PE and I‘m not watching porn and masturbating since 9 days. Furthermore I wanna have sex with my girlfriend.
    Do you think this problem can be solved even if I have sex with my girlfriend? Your Situation is the same I guess.
     
  20. When i am in the car i clench my PC-Muscle very tightly for 5-10 seconds, relax for 3-5 seconds and repeat that a couple of times.
    My first round is somewhat between 2-5 minutes. I consider it a part of foreplay. After i came, i focus on pleasing her.
    And even if i didn't, i could also just re-arouse her when i am good to go again after 10-30 minutes.
    This second round can last over an hour. Sometimes i might reach ponr. But i am highly aware of my arousal state and can then slow down or focus my thoughts until ponr fades away.

    As i said. Just embrace cumming fast at first. See it as foreplay. The actual sex starts with your second round.
     
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