2 Week update...

jason1142

Fapstronaut
So it's been a little over 2 weeks since I quit porn, after the initial bout of anger my wife and I are back to good terms, actually better than we have been in a while. We had a talk about my progress in the car while we were out shopping and one thing led to another and we both ended up with unzipped jeans driving down the highway helping each other out. It was like that the entire time we were out shopping and driving, we couldn't keep our hands off of each other. When we got home we continued the teasing until later than night when we had sex, I lasted a whole 2 minutes before I had to pull out and had the largest ejaculation I've had in a long time, large enough that she had to take another show afterwards.

Hopefully this continues, I can say I have zero urge to go back to porn for now, the porn blocker has been working good so far on my network and I use a VPN on my phone that also blocks porn so I'm double covered. I've been keeping myself busy by going mountain biking before work (live in the mountains) and since my wife is a fitness freak, she has a pretty stocked home gym that I've been using following a bodybuilding plan, I'm still sore, but getting back into it slowly. I just blast some metal or techno music and block out all the crap and just work out.

But this also bring up a question. My wife and I work opposite shifts, I work 2-10, and she works 9-5, by the time I get home at 11 (hour drive each way to work) shes already asleep and I'm still sleeping when she leaves, so we only see each other on weekends and the occasional holiday. She said she doesn't mind if I masturbate when shes not there, she just doesn't want me using porn to do it. Would this be ok to do if I get the urge, or should I fight it and wait for her? Also, my wife and I made quite a lot of our own porn, mostly just her and I, but some with her alone. I assume this would also be bad to use to masturbate to if I have the urge? Or is it not?
 
So it's been a little over 2 weeks since I quit porn, after the initial bout of anger my wife and I are back to good terms, actually better than we have been in a while. We had a talk about my progress in the car while we were out shopping and one thing led to another and we both ended up with unzipped jeans driving down the highway helping each other out. It was like that the entire time we were out shopping and driving, we couldn't keep our hands off of each other. When we got home we continued the teasing until later than night when we had sex, I lasted a whole 2 minutes before I had to pull out and had the largest ejaculation I've had in a long time, large enough that she had to take another show afterwards.

Hopefully this continues, I can say I have zero urge to go back to porn for now, the porn blocker has been working good so far on my network and I use a VPN on my phone that also blocks porn so I'm double covered. I've been keeping myself busy by going mountain biking before work (live in the mountains) and since my wife is a fitness freak, she has a pretty stocked home gym that I've been using following a bodybuilding plan, I'm still sore, but getting back into it slowly. I just blast some metal or techno music and block out all the crap and just work out.

But this also bring up a question. My wife and I work opposite shifts, I work 2-10, and she works 9-5, by the time I get home at 11 (hour drive each way to work) shes already asleep and I'm still sleeping when she leaves, so we only see each other on weekends and the occasional holiday. She said she doesn't mind if I masturbate when shes not there, she just doesn't want me using porn to do it. Would this be ok to do if I get the urge, or should I fight it and wait for her? Also, my wife and I made quite a lot of our own porn, mostly just her and I, but some with her alone. I assume this would also be bad to use to masturbate to if I have the urge? Or is it not?

I used to say the same thing. It lead to him using P when I wasn’t at home. And then every morning when I was home. Solo pleasure changes out chemistry. Changes our pheromones. Depletes libido. I personally don’t think it belongs in a relationship. Which I am guilty of and used to think it was healthy. Trust me. Your relationship is better with no M at all.
 
I trust the rule “it’s not a problem if it’s not a problem.” For most of us this stuff tends to be a problem because we prioritize solo activities over intimacy.

I will say that if you abstain you might be more motivated to change your schedule or find a different way to coordinate intimacy with your wife. Maybe a change of jobs is practical, maybe it isn’t. That’s something you alone would know. But I think it’s helpful to not just solve the solo question (should I masturbate) and focus on the intimacy question (how can I spend more time with my wife). Even outside of released and sex, you may find that intimacy and shared time together rewarding. Or if not you may be more jazzed up for the weekend. I pray that you find what works for you (and her.)
 
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