2 Years Of NoFap & keep on failing

Discussion in 'Porn Addiction' started by BillyBobBoBoBo, Jun 19, 2019.

  1. Naranja Mecánica

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    I feel in a similar situation as you but on a small scale. I've only been here 4 months. I have been keeping track of everytime I reset my counter and made a post keeping a record and analysing every single relapse. I think this has helped me a lot. You can check that in my content or just message me if you're interested.

    Regarding will power there's a lot of ways. Constant cold showers (like, everyday for a month), keeping a routine (sleeping early and waking up early every single day at the same time). Making your bed, keeping a clean and organized environment, never letting for tomorrow what you can do today, and really anything else you can think of that is good, productive and that you're usually lazy or scared about. I would say going to the gym but I find that it might be better to practice a sport, especially martial arts. I would recommend you go to some sort of martial arts teacher and explain that you want to train your will and discipline. Always be on time for your clases and do your best everytime. Don't set fat percentage or weight goals. Set fitness goals in terms of like "doing 10 more push ups than last week" or "running a longer distance in the same time/running the same distance in less time".

    And even if you're not a believer, follow the catholic approach to this issues. Touching yourself in any way shape or form with the objective of finding pleasure in it is a sin. So don't. Edging is one of the most dangerous things I've encountered in this journey. Keep your mind pure and say no to every inappropriate thought. Another thing is, don't do it for the "benefits", do it because it is your duty. You're meant to be a better person. We're all called to be the best versions of ourselves. So work hard on it everyday. And keep in mind that it will never be easy, you're going to have to fight until your last day.
     
  2. xxmemel0verxx

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    You are right, can you give me some advice on how to stop the cycle of relapsing because I'm really getting frustrated too. I use to fap only 1-2 a week, now I'm doing it 1-2 a day. I don't know what happened, please give me some advice I'd appreciate it.
     
  3. Fenix Rising

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    You should not try just to abstain from PMO. You have to find another goal to pursue that you LIKE and focus your attention on it. That's the most effective way I could find to beat this addictive compulsive behavior.
     
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  4. xxmemel0verxx

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    Can you give me a description of what you focused on?
     
  5. Fenix Rising

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    You should find your own goals. Mine are a bit specific as I have been battling with depression/anxiety in combination with PMO addiction. But here you go, maybe you can find some useful info in it for yourself too:

    There are the steps of program I try to follow:

    1. Physical Activity (Exercise)
    2. Omega-3 Fatty Acids
    3. Sunlight
    4. Healthy Sleep
    5. Anti-Ruminative Activity
    6. Social Connection


    You can find more details in my journal, but again I'm battling with multiple problems. If you have only problem with PMO, you don't need to follow all these steps.
    https://www.nofap.com/forum/index.php?threads/hopeless-case-searching-for-hope.187822/
     
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  6. Thomas Babcock

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    I’ve been trying and failing for like 2 years. Currently on an 11 day streak, but this feels like the highest chance of succeeding, because I’ve also quit weed and I’m working and working out all the time, and I’m shattered so when I get in I go straight to bed.

    But I feel like the firsyb2 years of trying did reduce my overall porn consumption which has ultimately made it easier this time.

    Just keep trying, you’ve only failed once you’ve given up completely.
     
  7. I guess I just don't know what to do with myself when I am feeling horny and don't have my girlfriend around or when she an't in the mood, as of either both of us feeling exhausted after the day or her not feeling connected enough and feel it is just me wanting sex and nothing else. Because I feel at times I worry I just want sex and worried how I'd go about it in an unhealthy way.
     
  8. And so what is your plan to deal with your "hornines" with a healthy way?
     
  9. So I have to ask, what is Silva's Ultramind? Is it a book, a video or an audio thing? AH okay fair enough, I guess the issue is just not going for more the sex and more of the easier masturbation, as it feels the connections my partner and I doesn't feel like it is there most of the time, though it being me being in a miserable state at the moment and feeling sorry for myself, which I am annoyed about, as know it's not going to help me get out of it, but not having a strong motivation to change and getting addicted to masturbation for the high to forget my own issues for only a short bit, with the only thing I seem to be motivated to do is to exercise and eat healthy, but not doing anything to want to boost a career for myself or change more about my personality, yearning for the days back when I was sleeping with prositutes, as feeling like I am struggling in the relationship, though not being her fault, as she is very understanding to what I am going through & feel like a scumbag because of those desires. Which makes me wonder if I have a Hypersexual Disorder, or just soo addicted to porn so much it is distorting my views a lot on relationships, because of not having constant sex with a lot of kinky stuff going on like in the pronos. This is all making me angry with myself as I know I can do better with myself, but feels like I am choosing not too, as comfortable with the misery, which sickens me that I am like that at this point in my life.
     
  10. That's the problem, I do not know at this point in time. Was thinking on doing the whole transfer sexual energies into other pursuits when not having sex with my girlfriend, but no idea on how I am going about that.
     
  11. I actually started the year with that, though half way of this year I gave up on it as writing the same thing over and over or nearly nothing as forgetting what or not bothering as seeing it becoming a list of failures and of apathy near the end.

    Well in regarding to the good old Jordan Peterson "Clean your room", I really need to, every one is complaining about it, but lack the motivation to actually do the damn chore till really needing to do it and of making the bed as I use to do it, but now i hardly bother. For cold showers, as in the morning or every time I get a boner, as I have a mix of hot/cold shower before going to bed.

    I already exercise doing a callisthenics routine nearly every day and work on a diet routine every day, though don't seem to do it with other matters in my life, which is something I want to do, though I am curious to to try and learn either martial arts or a fighting sport. Though my exercise goals in of me increasing my rep range of my close handed push-ups and close grip chin-ups with at the moment working on controlling my form and position, with keeping the rep ranges at 5, to work on mastering my form, positioning, mind to muscle connection and muscle activation.

    Though not a religious man, I can understand the values, as working on being a better person does help in not giving into the addiction.
     
  12. JedWiley

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    I hear guilt, shame and pain. You deserve love brother, you deserve a change also. When you are low and sad try to think of people in worse situations and get some perspective. Your brain is working against you right now, your brain is saying if your gonna do Nofap I'm giving you hell. You should be angry, that will drive you, it is your fuel. You are hypersexual, you are right, but knowledge is power. The Ultra Mind is a collection of mind altering techniques, everyone should use it, it takes you above urges and you can focus. You must also stay present, it takes your willpower too, it will always take that until you recover. Try to forget all the negativity, focus on what is good and what you are doing right now
     
  13. JedWiley

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    Change more habits than just Nofap. Stop playing computer games, stop having sex, stop smoking weed if you do - you can have sex after 3 months, but only sex never P, never M. It is a big ask, there is a price to pay for glory. Remember the homeless that have a lot more problems than me. Buy Lemon Balm and Valerian root to calm your mind. Use Jose Silva's Ultra Mind, the 3 scenes technique, the long Relax technique. And remember life will pay you any price you ask of it, you have to ask, you have to be ready to take it there. Revel in the fight and focus on only what you are about to get right.
     

  14. You are depressed, and your outlook on life is reflected in your avatar, no offense.
    Take some mood stabilizing supplements for few weeks, like StJohns Wort and L-tyrosine once you will feel better then you can begin making changes.
    Depressed individual can not succeed, have to pull yourself out of depression first then you will be able to deal with what you want to deal with.

    As usual with supplement recommendations - if in dobt check with your doctor.
     
  15. ReclaimedLife

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    I have had my first time having sex with a girl at the age of 31. And most of the time, except for some special occasions, i couldn't stay hard for longer than 3-5min if i was lucky.
    Never want to go through this bs ever in my life again, no matter how difficult it will be. And if quitting porn and stop touching myself helps with that, i am willing to never masturbate again, ever.

    On the plus-side, all the weird shit i used to need to get aroused are slowly leaving my brain. That's just a bonus, from my brain is tries to rewire while simultaniously trying to get me back into porn on regular occasion, and may do so for the rest of my life. So far, i am strong enough to resist, and it doesn't feel like a struggle anymore at least not for 90% of the time
     

  16. I understand, though I have to say But comparing is a robber of joy, as comparing my situation with others will only make me feel like more like crap, as feeling I should't be complaining, as I appear to be spoiled, feeling like what I am going through is invalid. Though I do understand and I am trying to work on it now, as been listening to a lot of audio frequencies to help with my physical body such as these;








    I decided I need to find ones to help me work on my mental state as well, as using these;





    https://youtu.be/cZW_Q7VTkZE

    https://youtu.be/m74xiIc6o8A

    https://youtu.be/2CjNTmhez0U


    So putting my faith in these to see if things will go differently in battling with my porn addiction.
     
  17. Yeah I guess I am. Though how can you tell with the Avatar I had chosen, just a random picture I decided to use to fit with my Username, as use to watch it when I was younger. well I am taking L-Tyrosine from my protein powder, but haven't heard about the other one, will look into that one, as well listening to the frequencies I have listed at the top above this comment.

    Yeah though I don't want to be on anti-deppresents as of hearing how people get so dependant on them and concerned if the same will happen to me.
     
  18. Never went through that, but I understand, as with porn I keep stroking for hours with out humming and lasting that long, in actual sexual occasions, I don'y last that long & that really pisses me off that to doesn't transfer, despite what people say.

    That does sound like a good thing, which is also what I want to work on as well, as some of the stuff I see makes me question a lot as in am I actually into it or is it the porn, causing a lot of doubt within ones self of knowing who you are.
     
  19. ReclaimedLife

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    The first time i had went on for around 20-30min. But that was an exception for two different reasons that actually make all the difference for me.
    1) I was 100% comfortable myself, and it wasn't forced. I did whatever the fk i wanted without asking for any permission and it was pretty rough actually. But we both enjoyed it a lot.
    2) She was totally my type, and we had a similar sexuality. That makes a big difference as well.
    Everything just felt right.

    The girl you are with makes all the difference in the world, and whether it feels forced or just natural and beautiful.
    Having good sex for me is just about finding the right girl.
     
  20. Themadfapper

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    If you are edging you are not rebooting. It's not about just skipping the orgasm. You got to stop watching pornographic/arousing stuff and stop wanking as well.
     
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