20 day challenge [join me]

Discussion in 'Events & Challenges' started by bigboibez, Jan 16, 2019.

  1. bigboibez

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    Back at it again.

    Many of you might have noticed i have put together some gold streaks as of late.

    Although i have relapsed, i am still seeing some benefits of nofap. Namely, i am getting brutally strong libido and morning wood. This isnt to say that relapsing doesnt hurt you, because it does.

    However, if you simply slip and watch some P and MO, youre NOT back at square 1. I am living proof of this. Just end it quickly (dont edge) and do NOT beat yourself up. Get back up and stay positive.

    But ultimately nofap is about a mindset change. Until that has happened, nofap isnt completed. It is very hard to see the brutal negatives of PMOing but after failing so many times you get sick of trying. You either give up and go back to PMO (which i tried briefly but after 1 PMO session i felt awful and realised id never actually enjoy going back to this regularly) or you just stop. Youll get urges. You need to commit to changing your life. Instead of sitting still and having a mental battle, go and do something. Make sure youre tiring yourself out from exercising.

    But porn addiction really just highlights a hole in you life. Once you have a relationship and regular sex, a good diet, plenty of exercise, sleep and a decent income, it would be hard to even want to PMO. Something is missing from our lives fellas, we need to tackle and naturally porn will fall by the wayside.

    Of course there will be urges but a good idea is to identify when they come about and see what emotion youre feeling when you get that urge. I personally have a journal and have told my family about my issue, and this whole nofap shambles seems more like a doable challenge than an impossible mountain. I also stopped hating myself. It does nothing for you except increase the problem in your head.

    Good luck gents
     
  2. BillTchmer

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    its 11 days now.

    i am getting married in next 3 months. Will not PMO again.
     
  3. BillTchmer

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    slipped once again after 12 days.

    Starting again today.
     
  4. BillTchmer

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    In last 40 days, I PMO twice.

    Just want to quit this bad habit.
     
  5. Iwilldefeat

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  6. BillTchmer

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    welcome bro to this NoFap community. together we can and we will beat PMO.
     
  7. porsche4life

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    Day 4 guys. I'm 1/5 of the way to completing the challenge again. Once I hit day 20 I'm going to let that really motivate me. Because the longer the streak the more I feel like I'm leaving this addiction and becoming more normal.
     
  8. BillTchmer

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    good job done
     
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  9. porsche4life

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    Day 7. Had a strong morning wood. Because of my previous streaks and since relapsing doesn't necessarily make you lose progress, I'm getting morning woods earlier in the streak and very often. It's getting hard, I just wish I have a wet dream to relieve the tension.
     
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  10. BillTchmer

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    great move
     
  11. bigboibez

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    Alright guys after trying the willpower method so many times i have come to the conclusion that it doesnt work. Deep down inside me something still wants porn and it will push and push me further into depression and desperation until i give in, at which point i just feel empty, hopeless and quite frankly scared.
    I finish exams in 11 days and start work in september. Between these two dates i am going to have no internet access. Hopefully i can finally come to terms with not having porn in my life. While doing this I will read books and try and figure out why i like pmo and how to get rid of it. I am also starting therapy soon. Its getting pretty desperate though. The thoughts are taking over my mind.
    Good luck to all those who are trying. The main thing is never give up. Keep adjusting your strategy and eventually youll find a way.
     
  12. BillTchmer

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    its 16 days now and I am getting married after the next two months.
    I am abstaining from PMO as I have to develop a physical relationship and that's stopping me from PMO.
    I hope these 90 days abstain from PMO will help in recovering from damage done to my body and brain by PMO.
     
  13. DRPJav

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    Hey guys, been a while since I checked in, been keeping busy; got a better job, been reading a lot, met a cute girl from work. Unfortunately, I do succumb to urges from time to time and I feel mindful of it throughout the day though I keep a cool and humorous facade. Each time those urges pop up you have to keep in mind that it’s just not worth it.
    “to be self-controlled is the greatest of excellence.” -Heraclitus of Ephesus
    I’ve found fulfilling my purpose (being my greatest self and inspire others to do the same), following my passion (achieving self mastery) and sticking to my values help me feel much better than any amount of PMO. I’ve been addicted for most of my teenage years and that affected my social skills and self image, though now at 21 I’ve changed my life for the better. It’s a long battle but it’s definitely rewarding if you stick it out till the end. Exercise helps, establishing healthy relationships with others based on face to face interaction, practicing mindfulness.
    “Knowing is not enough, we just apply. Willing is not enough, we must do.” - Johann Wolfgang von Goethe
    Time to overcome this addiction.
     
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  14. DRPJav

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    Barely finishing day one, no urges and I went to bed early and woke up early feeling good. Gonna tackle the day and stay productive. Be better every single day, even if it’s just by 1%.
     
  15. The Paradon

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    I am in as well. I can't just escape the 15 days mark. Let's kich these unhealthy and devil type of addiction out of world.
     
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  16. Iwilldefeat

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  17. BillTchmer

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    I am done with 20 days challenge. This is second time i am here
     
  18. The Paradon

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    Hey guys,
    I have just started my journal..
    Here's link to my Journal.
    Hang in there, we'll fight this shit and defeat it together.
    ⬇⬇
    Conquest of Life
     
  19. Amazing Athest

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