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20 days and still has hard times.. share your thoughts please

Discussion in 'Rebooting - Porn Addiction Recovery' started by Lawolf, Jun 25, 2019.

  1. Jun 25, 2019 #1
    Lawolf

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    Hi guys,
    i manage to be fre from PMO for 20 days, it was hard at the begining be it became more easy as the days goes by. Also Mindfulness meditation making the whole process alot easier :)
    At my work i manage to control myself and not to lok at women in pervert way and look at them as a person.
    !!trigger warning!!
    But today i was at the mall and saw a realy skinny busty teens which i had hard time not look at them. i was fighting with myself and at the end i was watching for severlas seconds at there cleavage.. :( . eventually i managed to not look anymore but thoughts are kicking in my mind and some visions i dont want to imagine
    I am not counting it as a relapse, but is there will be an end to this? to look at women like that and see only my fantasies?
     
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  2. Jun 26, 2019 #2
    Lawolf

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  3. Jun 26, 2019 #3
    wheelgauge

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    It's normal to look at it, because you're a man. The only thing that really matters is what you're gonna do about it. Will you M after seeing it? Will you feed unreal fantasies? As long as you keep yourself on the steering wheel, everything will be fine. And, please, don't keep staring that much at them because, if they see it, they're gonna feel uncomfortable with it, and it won't be a pleasant situation. So try to limit yourself while staring... I know it's tough to don't stare, but doing this you won't look like a desperate dude.
     
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  4. Jun 27, 2019 #4
    Lawolf

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    Sorry i didnt mention , i am married man.
    I think that there is a problem watching another women when you are married. The love between a man and a woman should make them not even interest in looking on another people body.
    The problem with us ( who addicted to PMO) is that when we start looking in woman body, its can lead us to think about them in an inappropriate way.
     
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  5. Jun 27, 2019 #5
    wheelgauge

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    Yes, actually there is... When you do it, you're having lustful thoughts about other women, and this is not good for your relationship. But this can be minimized with the reboot, so keep strong to it.
    Sure, it can. Because we've been into this objectification for so long that we just can't help ourselves. I recommend you to ignore these thoughts, and fill your head with others. I'm doing this too as well, and I'm fantasizing less and less throughout the day. This sets my mind in the reality and, in consequence, I feel more confident and sociable, since I don't keep thinking about people in a sexual way all the time.
     
    wheelgauge, Jun 27, 2019
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