20+ year old virgin, should I go see an escort/prostitute?

Not a good idea. What you need is real intimacy in my opinion. A loving relationship is much better for your psychologic health.

 

Only if you feel like this is what you really want, and if you don't have any other options left.

 

When you succeed in your life plans, by building a career, earning wealth, finishing school, developing fitness, a great person will be there for you. I promise.

 

Imagine yourself in our place, reading your question and trying to understand you and give you the advice we believe is right. It is not easy at all to give really valuable advice in these circumstances. I think you would believe that the person who is asking this isn't sure about the idea and that it needs some kind of approval or disapproval from unknown people in order to make a decision. This is a dangerous way of making decisions. Enjoy your life, party, drink, get a Vip escort if you feel like, and be responsible for the decisions you make. I wish you all the best!

 

I don't know anything about you but it sounds like you lack confidence. (so do I) Unfortunately you don't gain that overnight. I recommend a consistent workout routine and some hobbies that you can have measurable progress with. Also, take breaks and manage your mental health. We all have disadvantages. But if you work towards your goals and make progress then you won't feel disadvantaged at all and you'll stop making posts like this one.

Maybe it would help to write down a list of the things you want to accomplish, short term or long term. And then build a plan for what you can do, starting now, in order to reach those goals.

Also, if you REALLY believe that sex is a goal and that relationships are a waste of time, then there is literally no reason you shouldn't hire an escort. It's your life.

 

Those are good suggestions. You should listen to this guy, and DO WHAT HE SAYS.

 

Use some skincare products to help clear up the acne. When the pandemic settles down, start working on your game and approach. I've seen plenty of ugly guys get with chicks, you just have to try your best to look as good as possible. Work on your body, start hitting the gym and working out.

 

I'm in my mid forties now and haven't paid for sex in a decade, probably nearer two. So I would have been roughly in my late twenties; single, hopeless at relationships, an alcoholic and intermittent drug user. But I held it all together and just about maintained a career of sorts and a roof over my head. Anyway, sitting here right now, even though I know I can't change anything and I was very different back then, I despair at my past actions, in particular for going for a "massage" As if those women genuinely wanted anything to do with me, they were desperate for money no doubt, and I was desperate for connection. But it's exploitation and I still struggle with this one. So think long and hard before you do anything stupid now that you will regret later in life, and don't listen to anyone who suggests it's a perfectly fine course of action. If anything, if you genuinely can't get beyond your desires, go back to pmo, have a wank and stay home. Even better still, do some serious work on yourself, get clean, keep going on the right path, and you'll still be able to look yourself in the mirror with a clean conscience. Like Gurdjieff is reported to have suggested, life is about dying with honour (no need to get too morbid though Anyway that's my opinion as it stands, and I've been known to be wrong before. We've all got to find our own path, but if I could speak to my twenty year old self this is what I'd say.

 

I kind of agree, that it'd be better to wack than go to the prostitute.
But you don't have to do either.

You can work towards recovery and freedom.
You can become an awesome person who gets a worthwhile relationship.

 

Don't work on your "game". I could list a lot of reasons for this. Be yourself. Try to succeed and reach your potential. It will all come together with a great relationship.

 

I second this. The benefits of good hygiene (regularly showering, brushing teeth, using some deodorant), being nicely groomed (clean-shaven, regular haircuts), dressing well (e.g. business casual) etc. are often very disproportional to the required amount of effort. You may think you're simply unattractive by nature, but this can be vastly improved by adopting these measures (which in and of themselves require little effort).

 

Bro, don't succumb if it's not already too late. Escorts are easy, and easy is addictive. From experience, I said fuck it at age 18 and then shortly after realised that doing that didn't give me any confidence or boost my ability to "play the game". What you need to understand is that, as much as us guys want to fuck/ women want it as much as we do. I am not saying go and say "hey do you wanna fuck" because it's apparently 'disrespectful'. You have to learn the game because as much women hate to admit it, playing the game is just a sugar coated way of asking the same question. Women ain't special.