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20 yo guy has trouble in sex

Discussion in 'New to NoFap' started by bulmalovesdota, Jul 5, 2018.

Can I intimate with my girl friend during the reset time from masturbation injury?

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  1. bulmalovesdota

    bulmalovesdota Fapstronaut

    Hello guys, I'm into to NoFap because I have trouble in sex. :(

    I'm addicted to fap and porn for a long time and it impacted to my sex life now. I can O whenever I want when Fap but I've never O when having sex. I have a girl friend and she is the 2nd person I had sex with. My total sex in my life is under 15 times. So I was worried and searched my issue on Internet and I can tell I cant O when having sex because my bad habit on M. I decided to reset my button by stop PM for 1 month and Im on my way to do it.
    I read this on a article: Engler actually suggests a similar treatment to the study: "If the guy were my patient, I'd have him hit the reset button by not masturbating at all for a month or 90 days if there is also an addiction happening. Then have your partner retrain his body by only masturbating in a way that is more similar to intercourse.''
    Does it mean I cant intimate with my girl friend during the reset time?
    Please help me guys :(:(:(
     
    Last edited: Jul 5, 2018
  2. Septimus

    Septimus Fapstronaut

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    Welcome! I'm glad you're here.

    No one decides on your course of action but you. The idea of the "reset" is that you give yourself a complete break, so yes, that means all sex.

    I hope you keep coming back. If I can help, let me know.
     
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  3. bulmalovesdota

    bulmalovesdota Fapstronaut

    Thank you, Septimus, I've checked your blog :D your are 40+. I started last Sunday, no PMO but still fantasy about my girl because she is back to her country for 2 weeks. She will be back. Im really worry for my situation (DE) but scare if I dont intimate with her, she will disappointed and break up :(. what about oral and hand job for her? allowed?
     
  4. Septimus

    Septimus Fapstronaut

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    It's not a question of "allowed." If you are asking a moral question, I can answer that, but I think that's not what you're asking. I think you're asking, how far can you go while not disrupting your own recovery. There's no exact science here, but what makes the most sense to me is to give yourself a complete rest for 90 days. That means no sex.

    And think about this: if your relationship is at risk if you and your girlfriend aren't having sex regularly, that sounds like a problem. Consider: if you and your gf don't have any sex for a period of time, what will you do? Maybe you'll talk, and enjoy each other, and grow closer? Or, maybe you'll discover that apart from sex, you don't have much that holds you together.
     
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  5. bulmalovesdota

    bulmalovesdota Fapstronaut

    Im clear now. I've checked some stories. And Im sure that I can do it. Go Vu. Thanks you for your comments. It helps me a lot
     
  6. Hopefulgirl

    Hopefulgirl Fapstronaut

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    As long as you are present with your partner AND NOT THINKING ABOUT PORN WHILE YOU O you will stregthen neural connections towards Oing with a real woman. If you think about porn while with her, you are using her as a masturbation aid and strengthening your porn neural circuits.
    The best idea when rebooting with a partner is karezza (slow sex with no O) IMO.
     
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  7. bulmalovesdota

    bulmalovesdota Fapstronaut

    Thanks you @Sadgirl for your advise. Can you read my update post of mine in the rebooting with a partner for more detail? I always do Karezza with my girl friend but at the end I want her to feel good so I speed up and made her come :(
     
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