I just finished 21 days without porn and M to O. I abused porn for the better part of 30 years, and ruined my first marriage partly due to my inability to understand the problem. This milestone is important to me because I have always heard it takes 21 consecutive days to form a new habit—or in this case lose a bad habit. I’m not sure how many years it has been since I went 21 days without porn—I’m 49 and started in my teens—but MANY for sure. Life is too short to waste any more of it. I am in a loving relationship again with a beautiful woman with a high sex drive, and I have had sex to orgasm several times in this 21 day time frame. My approach to this process is slow steady growth, measuring progress through our sexual experiences. My main goal is to permanently cure my PIED, DE, and intrusive, distracting thoughts of porn during sex. I want to have more authentic and intense sexual relations with my SO. We are already experiencing the benefits and the results are very encouraging; this is my “why.” I don’t want to hurt my SO any longer, she’s the best thing has happened to me in a long time and we deserve better together. I’ll use this as my place to relay observations as I progress. 21 days is the first real milestone I have been shooting for. I have no intentions of regressing on porn use, and thus far has been “easy” so to speak. The damage I have done to myself and others, once I put 2 and 2 together, has been too devastating and embarrassing to ever go back to that way of life. As my mind becomes free of this obsession, it is perfectly clear to me now that PMO has been the root cause of so many problems and failures. It feels great to finally be on the right track, and I am excited for what is yet to come.