21 year old and potentially suffering from PIED

sagevapid · Nov 9, 2020

Hi! First post here. I'm 21 and been sexually active since I was 18. I've tied doing it with women and men, all of whom have been very attractive, but only been able to achieve an erection hard enough to penetrate about 2 times out of the dozen or so encounters that I've had. My porn use has been quite high ever since I was 12, and I've been masturbating at least 2 times a day everyday on average over these 9 years.

This Thursday I had a date with a very attractive girl and it went really well, so I was in her room and when we got to intercourse, I realised I couldn't stay hard at all. I was surprised as the last time that I did it, I was able to get an erection and maintain it quite well. My date was quite sad and I know that she partly blamed herself despite all my excuses.

I've recently started to consider that this may not be anxiety related as I've dealt with that problem quite often in my time as an adult, since I've been quite relaxed and confident before going into these encounters.

I will admit, I did develop a bad porn habit as a teenager and I was more and more into deviant stuff, so I may have been desensitised about natural, healthy sex. Moreover, I also seem to zone out while getting intimate with my partner and my mind goes blank instead of being focused on them. I do believe these to be related to my heavy porn use over time. My exercise habits are usually healthy even with the quarantine putting a stop to some of that. I don't smoke anymore but I do drink a considerable amount usually before I'm in someone's bedroom.

I'm starting NoFap today, but I'm also seeing a doctor soon about my potential ED. I'm quite depressed about this whole thing and it's taking a toll on my regular life as well. Are there any other steps that I should consider? Is having ED at 21 a potentially permanent condition? Thanks for providing a voice to my concerns. I appreciate all the input you can provide.

modernstore99 · Nov 9, 2020

sagevapid said: ↑

Hi! First post here. I'm 21 and been sexually active since I was 18. I've tied doing it with women and men, all of whom have been very attractive, but only been able to achieve an erection hard enough to penetrate about 2 times out of the dozen or so encounters that I've had. My porn use has been quite high ever since I was 12, and I've been masturbating at least 2 times a day everyday on average over these 9 years.

This Thursday I had a date with a very attractive girl and it went really well, so I was in her room and when we got to intercourse, I realised I couldn't stay hard at all. I was surprised as the last time that I did it, I was able to get an erection and maintain it quite well. My date was quite sad and I know that she partly blamed herself despite all my excuses.

I've recently started to consider that this may not be anxiety related as I've dealt with that problem quite often in my time as an adult, since I've been quite relaxed and confident before going into these encounters.

I will admit, I did develop a bad porn habit as a teenager and I was more and more into deviant stuff, so I may have been desensitised about natural, healthy sex. Moreover, I also seem to zone out while getting intimate with my partner and my mind goes blank instead of being focused on them. I do believe these to be related to my heavy porn use over time. My exercise habits are usually healthy even with the quarantine putting a stop to some of that. I don't smoke anymore but I do drink a considerable amount usually before I'm in someone's bedroom.

I'm starting NoFap today, but I'm also seeing a doctor soon about my potential ED. I'm quite depressed about this whole thing and it's taking a toll on my regular life as well. Are there any other steps that I should consider? Is having ED at 21 a potentially permanent condition? Thanks for providing a voice to my concerns. I appreciate all the input you can provide.
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Ok I'm gonna give you the good news and the bad news.

Bad news: You definitely have porn-induced erectile dysfunction, or PIED. Watching porn frequently for the past 9 years has altered the wiring in your brain's sexual arousal and reward centers that you no longer get high arousal, pleasure, and orgasm from sex with real people. This is why you can't get hard/finish during sex

Good news: This is not a permanent condition in any way! Totally reversible. What you need is a reboot and rewire. A reboot is an extended period of time without artificial arousal and sexual stimulation. This weakens the neural networks in your brain wired to porn to the point where they eventually die. After that, you rewire your brain to normal sexual interactions by just going out, flirting, making out, and having sex. Eventually, you'll be fucking like a porn star.

I'll tell you my story for comparison. I started using porn around 14 years old, and began heavy porn use around 16 years old. When I got into college, I started watching porn for about 4-5 hours a day on average. After a year of that I tried having sex for the first time, but could not get hard at all or feel any pleasure. I did a hard mode reboot for 90 days, which meant no porn or artificially arousing media/items/situations, and also not touching my dick or letting a partner touch it. After that, I started having sex. I never had sex before this, so my body didn't really know it was supposed to feel good, and would only get about 60-70% hard. Orgasms also felt just ok. However, after about 3 months, my dick was so hard it kinda hurt, and sex was the greatest thing I had ever experienced.

Since you've been using porn for a little longer than me, it might be a good idea to do a 4 month reboot, but you will definitely see great results with just a 3 month reboot. After that, rewiring with real sex is super important, but since you seem active already, that shouldn't be a huge problem for you.

Lmk if you have any other questions

IWantMyErectionsBack · Mar 25, 2021

modernstore99 said: ↑

Ok I'm gonna give you the good news and the bad news.

Bad news: You definitely have porn-induced erectile dysfunction, or PIED. Watching porn frequently for the past 9 years has altered the wiring in your brain's sexual arousal and reward centers that you no longer get high arousal, pleasure, and orgasm from sex with real people. This is why you can't get hard/finish during sex

Good news: This is not a permanent condition in any way! Totally reversible. What you need is a reboot and rewire. A reboot is an extended period of time without artificial arousal and sexual stimulation. This weakens the neural networks in your brain wired to porn to the point where they eventually die. After that, you rewire your brain to normal sexual interactions by just going out, flirting, making out, and having sex. Eventually, you'll be fucking like a porn star.

I'll tell you my story for comparison. I started using porn around 14 years old, and began heavy porn use around 16 years old. When I got into college, I started watching porn for about 4-5 hours a day on average. After a year of that I tried having sex for the first time, but could not get hard at all or feel any pleasure. I did a hard mode reboot for 90 days, which meant no porn or artificially arousing media/items/situations, and also not touching my dick or letting a partner touch it. After that, I started having sex. I never had sex before this, so my body didn't really know it was supposed to feel good, and would only get about 60-70% hard. Orgasms also felt just ok. However, after about 3 months, my dick was so hard it kinda hurt, and sex was the greatest thing I had ever experienced.

Since you've been using porn for a little longer than me, it might be a good idea to do a 4 month reboot, but you will definitely see great results with just a 3 month reboot. After that, rewiring with real sex is super important, but since you seem active already, that shouldn't be a huge problem for you.

Lmk if you have any other questions
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While in reboot I should not play with it at all?
And even if it's not porn I should not even watch any kind of sexually stimulating content? Like just girls in hot dress ,not naked.?

IWantMyErectionsBack · Mar 25, 2021

modernstore99 said: ↑

Ok I'm gonna give you the good news and the bad news.

Bad news: You definitely have porn-induced erectile dysfunction, or PIED. Watching porn frequently for the past 9 years has altered the wiring in your brain's sexual arousal and reward centers that you no longer get high arousal, pleasure, and orgasm from sex with real people. This is why you can't get hard/finish during sex

Good news: This is not a permanent condition in any way! Totally reversible. What you need is a reboot and rewire. A reboot is an extended period of time without artificial arousal and sexual stimulation. This weakens the neural networks in your brain wired to porn to the point where they eventually die. After that, you rewire your brain to normal sexual interactions by just going out, flirting, making out, and having sex. Eventually, you'll be fucking like a porn star.

I'll tell you my story for comparison. I started using porn around 14 years old, and began heavy porn use around 16 years old. When I got into college, I started watching porn for about 4-5 hours a day on average. After a year of that I tried having sex for the first time, but could not get hard at all or feel any pleasure. I did a hard mode reboot for 90 days, which meant no porn or artificially arousing media/items/situations, and also not touching my dick or letting a partner touch it. After that, I started having sex. I never had sex before this, so my body didn't really know it was supposed to feel good, and would only get about 60-70% hard. Orgasms also felt just ok. However, after about 3 months, my dick was so hard it kinda hurt, and sex was the greatest thing I had ever experienced.

Since you've been using porn for a little longer than me, it might be a good idea to do a 4 month reboot, but you will definitely see great results with just a 3 month reboot. After that, rewiring with real sex is super important, but since you seem active already, that shouldn't be a huge problem for you.

Lmk if you have any other questions
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Also this was really helpful. Thanks man.

drkarim · Mar 27, 2021

Thank you

TantraMan · Mar 31, 2021

sagevapid said: ↑

Hi! First post here. I'm 21 and been sexually active since I was 18. I've tied doing it with women and men, all of whom have been very attractive, but only been able to achieve an erection hard enough to penetrate about 2 times out of the dozen or so encounters that I've had. My porn use has been quite high ever since I was 12, and I've been masturbating at least 2 times a day everyday on average over these 9 years.

This Thursday I had a date with a very attractive girl and it went really well, so I was in her room and when we got to intercourse, I realised I couldn't stay hard at all. I was surprised as the last time that I did it, I was able to get an erection and maintain it quite well. My date was quite sad and I know that she partly blamed herself despite all my excuses.

I've recently started to consider that this may not be anxiety related as I've dealt with that problem quite often in my time as an adult, since I've been quite relaxed and confident before going into these encounters.

I will admit, I did develop a bad porn habit as a teenager and I was more and more into deviant stuff, so I may have been desensitised about natural, healthy sex. Moreover, I also seem to zone out while getting intimate with my partner and my mind goes blank instead of being focused on them. I do believe these to be related to my heavy porn use over time. My exercise habits are usually healthy even with the quarantine putting a stop to some of that. I don't smoke anymore but I do drink a considerable amount usually before I'm in someone's bedroom.

I'm starting NoFap today, but I'm also seeing a doctor soon about my potential ED. I'm quite depressed about this whole thing and it's taking a toll on my regular life as well. Are there any other steps that I should consider? Is having ED at 21 a potentially permanent condition? Thanks for providing a voice to my concerns. I appreciate all the input you can provide.
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It's been some months since you post this, how are you holding by now?

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