21 year old gay male, totally new to this and I would like a gay accountability partner

Discussion in 'Accountability Partners' started by PIEDmyself, May 6, 2017.

  1. PIEDmyself

    PIEDmyself New Fapstronaut

    I literally just got into this tonight (this morning actually, it's 3:46am on May 6th as I write this). Haven't masturbated since May 4, 2017. I haven't watched porn since then, I have seen some dick pics on Grindr today and yesterday but I don't know if that counts as porn? I didn't jerk off to them or anything. They were just sent to me.
    Anyway, I think it would be easier to have a gay accountability partner because a gay person would have relevant experiences and advice to my situation and hopefully I could return the advice/experience. It would also be easier for me to open up to and confide in a gay person.
    I have masturbated almost every single day since the first time I masturbated in... I was probably in 6th grade. I'm 21, almost 22. I've missed only a handful of days which is more than made up for by the many many many days where I would masturbate multiple times, sometimes over and over all day. Probably 99% of the times I've masturbated I've also watched porn.
    Masturbation and porn, I believe, have royally fucked my sex life. I haven't had a boyfriend since 2013, I have had very few sexual experiences, practically all have been totally embarrassing and disappointing due to not feeling anything at all (it's literally like my penis is numb, the first time I had sex I didn't even know it was inside him), being unable to be in the moment, constantly losing my erection, and not really feeling any sexual drive or true attraction to my partners.
    Its so hard for me to go without masturbating every day. My balls have ached all day and I just want to do it.
    Someone please help me.
  2. rubbedout

    rubbedout Fapstronaut

    Hey guy: I hear you and am willing to try and help.
  3. abel_pua

    abel_pua Fapstronaut

    Well, I don't know if being gay will make any difference... a sexual trigger is a sexyual trigger. We might not be aroused by the same sex but the biological process remains exactly the same no matter your sexual orientation.

    Something I have realized since i started this nofap adventure, is that there are a lot ofthings much more important in life than having a boy-girl-friend or having sex. In the past few days, I started ready books , re-use my guitar, put more energy into my martial art training and I am much more sociable in general.

    So I will advise you to start having social activities to keep u busy
    moonshapedpool and m.coming.back like this.
  4. Icouldprobablyhelp

    Icouldprobablyhelp Fapstronaut

    you ever think that being gay is overrated??? your not attracted to your partners because deep down you know your not supposed to... you just wanna put your penis in something... have you ever had vagina? or are you technically still a virgin..

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