Sonnylan99
Fapstronaut
Hello guys.Im a member since quite some time and i love this community and i want to thank all of you helping me go through this.I basically experimented with myself and yes, it did change my life.
See what happens with the brain is that it changes its pleasure source from pornography to the real world, and it doesnt just happen like that, i think you have to overcome some type of 'levels' to achieve real life as a pleasure source.
First you abstain from PMO.It no longer gives you pleasure.Then you abstain from, lets say video games or internet addiction (youtube,different websites, etc.).Then you abstain from TV (you watch tv from time to time but not because it excites you or is a high source of pleasure).Then you abstain from fast food and junk food, Then you abstain from 'potato couch syndrome' or 'living inside four walls' addiction, meaning spending most if not all of your day inside home or closed environments, AND SO ON.
After some time, you start experiencing the pleasures of real life which include friendship, relationships, adventure, creation, goal achievement.Then, after this continues on for some time something strange starts happening .. Suddenly from all this life of full happy living, sudden thoughts come to your mind, certain events happen which catch you unprepared. We think that abstaining from pmo is the only thing needed to approach 'reality'. After some time all the girls and your social circle and everything start getting their effect a little bit down. And, as i mentioned earlier certain events will happen with the passing of time and what i mean by that is reality will hunt you down, namely you have to confront your fears, and by that i dont mean talking to some slut or how to be the "alpha" in the room. No, you get to confront real deep down instilled fears from childhood,fears you ignored.You abstain from nofap but what do you do? Ok, you get girlfriends and improve your social life and go out more, but youre still on the same job, maybe not maybe you changed 3 or 4 or 10 jobs but what are you doing with your life. Just squandering around like a lost. Whats something crazy that you would like to do that even if all your social circle and family would make you a laughstock because of it but you'd still do it? Open a business? Maybe move out on your own? Maybe talk back to your boss or movig out in a whole other country.It could be taking over a whole tv company and becoming the ceo or being involved in some cause or some group where you can execute strategies into real life and actually have an effect out there. I mean, see compare it to the 80s and 90s for example.All this excitement all this fire in the youth, you had rock bands that sung flr freedom and breathing in every little small breath from life. There was no individual, there was the community. Today its all about the individual all about me me me me and me. Were all slaves we go to the same jobs and we all go black friday shopping and we all wanna buy this new car to make our neighbour jelaous. You have no idea how much ideas and experiences can be lived when you embrace everyone as someoe special, as something unique that nobody else has.You dont think anymore, "how can i go into the room and dominate the whole thing how can i be the center of attention etc etc." That just shows how much of a complex you have.How you need everyone to support you and be on your side and give you attention. A true , what you call an "alpha" doesnt give two shits about how to impress others or how to get attention. He just doesnt care. He doesnt care if he loses it all, if all is against him.He welcomes life as what it is.But you dont get to see these people in your city or collar jobs.They live in the 'hood' in america right now, in the 'favelas' or somewhere in russia or third world countries.They existed much more in the past but you dont know anything about this. Because you believe what you see in the movies, because you accept whatever the movies give you, like 'this is what i have to be to be a man' , this is the ideal.
See what happens with the brain is that it changes its pleasure source from pornography to the real world, and it doesnt just happen like that, i think you have to overcome some type of 'levels' to achieve real life as a pleasure source.
First you abstain from PMO.It no longer gives you pleasure.Then you abstain from, lets say video games or internet addiction (youtube,different websites, etc.).Then you abstain from TV (you watch tv from time to time but not because it excites you or is a high source of pleasure).Then you abstain from fast food and junk food, Then you abstain from 'potato couch syndrome' or 'living inside four walls' addiction, meaning spending most if not all of your day inside home or closed environments, AND SO ON.
After some time, you start experiencing the pleasures of real life which include friendship, relationships, adventure, creation, goal achievement.Then, after this continues on for some time something strange starts happening .. Suddenly from all this life of full happy living, sudden thoughts come to your mind, certain events happen which catch you unprepared. We think that abstaining from pmo is the only thing needed to approach 'reality'. After some time all the girls and your social circle and everything start getting their effect a little bit down. And, as i mentioned earlier certain events will happen with the passing of time and what i mean by that is reality will hunt you down, namely you have to confront your fears, and by that i dont mean talking to some slut or how to be the "alpha" in the room. No, you get to confront real deep down instilled fears from childhood,fears you ignored.You abstain from nofap but what do you do? Ok, you get girlfriends and improve your social life and go out more, but youre still on the same job, maybe not maybe you changed 3 or 4 or 10 jobs but what are you doing with your life. Just squandering around like a lost. Whats something crazy that you would like to do that even if all your social circle and family would make you a laughstock because of it but you'd still do it? Open a business? Maybe move out on your own? Maybe talk back to your boss or movig out in a whole other country.It could be taking over a whole tv company and becoming the ceo or being involved in some cause or some group where you can execute strategies into real life and actually have an effect out there. I mean, see compare it to the 80s and 90s for example.All this excitement all this fire in the youth, you had rock bands that sung flr freedom and breathing in every little small breath from life. There was no individual, there was the community. Today its all about the individual all about me me me me and me. Were all slaves we go to the same jobs and we all go black friday shopping and we all wanna buy this new car to make our neighbour jelaous. You have no idea how much ideas and experiences can be lived when you embrace everyone as someoe special, as something unique that nobody else has.You dont think anymore, "how can i go into the room and dominate the whole thing how can i be the center of attention etc etc." That just shows how much of a complex you have.How you need everyone to support you and be on your side and give you attention. A true , what you call an "alpha" doesnt give two shits about how to impress others or how to get attention. He just doesnt care. He doesnt care if he loses it all, if all is against him.He welcomes life as what it is.But you dont get to see these people in your city or collar jobs.They live in the 'hood' in america right now, in the 'favelas' or somewhere in russia or third world countries.They existed much more in the past but you dont know anything about this. Because you believe what you see in the movies, because you accept whatever the movies give you, like 'this is what i have to be to be a man' , this is the ideal.
