22M, GMT+1 UK - Serious, experienced, strict - looking for equally serious AP

Discussion in 'Accountability Partners' started by YoNips, Jun 25, 2022.

  1. YoNips

    YoNips Fapstronaut

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    Requirements (these all apply to me too of course):
    • Male, 18+
    • Speaks English
    • Similar timezone to UK
    • At least 90 days free of porn & masturbation in the past (wet dreams don't count of course), ideally several months. The longest I've gone without porn is 6 months, which I've done twice. Next after that was 4 months.
    • Willing to view weekly reports from my accountability app (screenshots my phone & PC).
    • Willing to engage in regular, honest communication as though we're good friends.
    • Highly motivated in themselves to quit, but is aware that it's a continuous process of recovery and one relapse does not undo all the work prior (incl. the healing that has occurred in your brain due to neuroplasticity).
    • Willing to motivate me, disapprove & hold me truly accountable if I fail so that we can make sure it doesn't happen again (to prevent falling back into addiction).
    • Will hold me accountable for porn & masturbation (in my case, this pretty much requires a visual stimulus, e.g. a girl in a bikini). Porn & use of any visual stimuli is where I draw the line and consider it a relapse (but you may be able to regularly fap without anything, in which case I'll hold you accountable).
    • Tell me as soon as you relapse. We can also share urges if we are able to.
    • Mature and working to improve yourself in other areas of life too (e.g. working out) (don't worry, I'm a very silly person, but I take this very seriously and there's no point for me personally in having an accountability partner if they aren't the same).
    • Remain communicative over the long term, i.e. 1 year+ (we'd video call at least once a week when we're both free, assuming neither of us have any problems). If you're gonna quit or relapse within the first month then you're not suitable, hence experience with NoFap is needed.
    We would communicate through either Discord or WhatsApp, preferably through video call so that we are connected with each other and hence can hold each other accountable.
    If you wish, I can help you set up an accountability app on your devices too. Either way, we should tell each other as soon as we relapse.
    We can talk about other stuff too.
    Obviously we wouldn't beat ourselves up and be hopeless, but we must recognise our personal responsibility for our actions and remind each other of this.
    If you're interested and meet the requirements, please send me a message through here and I will share my Discord or WhatsApp.
     
    Last edited: Aug 13, 2022
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  2. thisisbusiness

    thisisbusiness New Fapstronaut

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    I've gone months in the past but find it very difficult to go past a few weeks now. I'm trying to hit atleast 2 months and am very serious about attaining that goal. Lemme know if you wanna partner up
     
  3. YoNips

    YoNips Fapstronaut

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    Thanks guys, I'm going to chat with a few people at the moment, but I will let you know if I'm unable to find someone I'd work well with.

    In the meantime, if my post felt genuine to you and like you might benefit from my help, and you're interested in more advice on recovery and working on other parts of your life, check out my new YouTube channel, videos once a week (one coming out tomorrow): https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCgEDw_icm8ky-LbJXrAbj0g (Hopefully this is allowed. I seriously just want to reach out to people like me and provide help, because I know I can help now.)
     
    Last edited: Jun 27, 2022
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  4. YoNips

    YoNips Fapstronaut

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    Hi everyone, updating/bumping this to say I am once again in need of a serious, committed AP who will check my weekly device monitoring emails (as I explained in my requirements above), pref similar timezone to UK. You must have had 90+ days of no porn at some point in the past. It wasn't working with my chosen AP; our relationship clearly wasn't gonna work out as our way of communicating differed too much (I personally need you to be open and honest with me). Private message me to request a video call on discord or WhatsApp!
     
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  5. YoNips

    YoNips Fapstronaut

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    P.s. I'm currently nearly 2 months in so not likely to relapse, but I need AP as a safety net.
     
  6. Hey man, definitely interested in a serious accountability partner. Our time zones are off but I'm willing to put the effort in to keep us accountable. I sent you a PM.
     
  7. gera_eb25

    gera_eb25 Fapstronaut

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    Hey man, I'm a 21M also looking for a serious AP. Looking at your requirements, I meet all of them except the timezone. Luckily, in a few more weeks I'll be on a foreign exchange where I'll have a similar timezone to the UK. Send me a message when you have the chance.
     
  8. lamstronger

    lamstronger Fapstronaut

    I'd like to be a part of this
     

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