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Discussion in 'Loneliness' started by ShadowFighter, Jun 17, 2022.

  1. ShadowFighter

    ShadowFighter Fapstronaut

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    What amazes me, is our ability to reset all our senses to fight for ourselves by only choosing so ... will power is such an amazing thing. no?
     
  2. You seem like you are struggling with it, which is good.

    What you might consider is to think about the 90 day hard mode reboot as a time to be less social. I mean, you could probably scare up a chick in a desperate moment. But it's not really a good use of this opportunity.

    Maybe it could be a better idea to work on fitness, career, financial, creative, recovery or maintenance goals and projects. Build out this life in isolation, for better focus.

    If you get a girl right now, it will be a major drain on your life. It will either slow you down or could totally prevent you from becoming a success.
     
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  3. Mr.Tony

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    I feel a strange sort of Anger / Frustration and a weird desire to just sleep and not weak up. It's like my body and psychic consider me a loser, I really don't know why...

    Maybe it's due to 22 days of No PMO, I'm not sure though...

    I have a weird feeling around my stomach, like if it's about to explode, not a psychical pain, but something weird to explain - Is that what guys call urges ? I really don't know.
     
  4. totally agree. one needs to take the time to self develop first for minimum of 1 year (realistically several years) before pursuing girls and not having your self esteem blown to bits. Its the great irony that the more you invest in women, the less you can attract them. And vice versa, the more you invest in yourself, the more you can attract them
     
  5. ResetButton

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    Yeah I guess I could agree on the solitude it hasn't been easy making friends. I was considering suicide because no matter what I do or how much I change, I can't make friends but going back to life in solitude doesn't seem too bad to me. I'm tired of looking for friends and I'm tired of people not liking me even though I'm nice to them it's getting me frustrated. I'm just gonna withdrawal and go about my own life.
     
  6. Totally absolutely 100% relate to this. Every word.

    My belief is that God sets NoFap men aside from society to succeed. The isolation gives you that focus.
     
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  7. I think the attraction thing is really a spiritual matter, rather than something that can be quantified here on earth. I think God gives you a woman if you work hard.
     
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  8. Loneliness and Love are intertwined in our lives as an addict. I feel like I try to cope these emotions which isnt love but an illusion what me wanting instantly get with porn to escape from loneliness. Usually I don't relapse in this emotions during streaks. Boredom, Stress and Hopelessness in real life has become a common pedigree for me to have urges and relapses. When I feel loneliness, I listen to music and songs that somehow increases the chance to confront my feelings of emptiness that is been happening in my life. But if there is hopeless involved then I feel urges to relapse and give up on whatever is happening.
    in real life. The point is I don't want to ever give up, love is the answer I get if I search for this in all my isolation mostly during night.
     
  9. 整列するおとこ

    整列するおとこ Fapstronaut

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    Well, since were venting I'll open up.

    Honestly feel like shit. I haven't been sleeping well for the past week because of my health and being off of work, I feel like I'm currently failing at life, I've lost all confidence and self esteem. Yeah I can't get projects done or a Music career I want to pursue. Feels like I'm out of luck right now plain dry spell in my life.. I'm not even interested to watch tv shows or listen to full DJ mixes which I've been able to in the past it was like ear candy to me. I feel less respected since I'm not working or a genuine friend hell I don't ever really talk to anybody more..

    Yeah It's shit lately.
     
  10. ResetButton

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    I like the idea of more hard work. I lost all my motivation with depression and I'm thinking of reducing my my meds to get less brain fog. I've been exercising for weight loss and it's been boosting my mood. Need a new scale and to reduce my calorie intake when I go out for work.
    Overall doing alright but could be better.
     
  11. ShadowFighter

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    Its great seeing you motived and in action brother, keep going!
    you're going to be very proud with your results soon.
     
  12. ShadowFighter

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    it amazes me what a strong fighter you are brother!
    Do not let your mind keep tricking you intro believing you are worthless and unloved.
    brother you are loved and i bet you are a source of inspiration to many, but people are way to arrogant to come and tell you that you are.
    find something peaceful to do, away from music (dj mixes), away from toxics like books, hiking, yoga, meditation etc. develop healthy habits that helps you calm down inside out.
    but DO NOT give up on yourself, life is shit yes, but we have the power to flush it down. keep going.
     

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