24 old male looking for AP

Discussion in 'Accountability Partners' started by zzben123, Jun 21, 2018.

  1. zzben123

    zzben123 Fapstronaut

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    Thank you for your words of encouragement. After going through a lot of stress and then a sudden relief from all of it I had little willpower left to motivate myself to NoFap. Life is getting back on track again so I'm definitely much more up to the challenge than two weeks ago.
     
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  2. getitrightt

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    Going 9 days strong, lets keep this up!!!

    Great job guys!!
     
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  3. getting better

    getting better Fapstronaut

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    One day at a time....

    Once I get to this period (about 6-8 days clean) I convince myself that I'm over PMO and don't need to have my guard up as much. This has always failed me in the past which is frustrating! I need to learn to congratulate myself for the streak while still maintaining my vigilance.

    Good luck through the weekend gentlemen! It's nice to know that there are more people out there going through the same stuff. 90 days here we come!
     
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  4. zzben123

    zzben123 Fapstronaut

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    I could not have put it in better words. At this phase it's so easy to let your guard down. I almost masturbated at bed before going to sleep but saner minds prevailed. A big part of keeping my discipline had to do with this forum. Thanks for supporting each other!
     
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  5. zzben123

    zzben123 Fapstronaut

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    Two weeks into Nofap. The first week into NoFap I felt an immediate relief from the low energy caused by the over-stimulation from porn. I feel as though my mind is covered by fog in the days after watching porn. It's difficult to focus and the stimulus from porn makes me unable to be aroused by women or feel excited about my work or other areas of life. After a week of NoFap I feel that I've recovered from the initial withdrawal symptoms of porn.

    Beyond a week the benefits of NoFap are not so linear. Sure, my mood has lifted a little, but it's hard to say whether that's from NoFap or from just living a more active lifestyle in general. I see NoFap beyond the initial stages as more of a lifestyle change than a mechanical abstention from P&M. The major benefit of NoFap has to do with the re-wiring of the brain into feeling more aroused by women in real life than the seeking of stimulus from porn, and this can be extended to other areas of ones life as in increased productivity and motivation. These major changes will probably take months or years to take place.

    While I am excited about the prospects of getting better, my experiences from other changes in life habits like exercise and diet pin me to the realistic understanding that NoFap will probably not grant superpowers in a matter of weeks, but rather plays a part in a overarching desire to get better. This process can be accelerated by jotting down my thoughts with people who are in this together (aka you!). A thoughtful account of what I'm going through for me is much more meaningful than blindly attributing all my successes in life, e.g. dating hot women, feeling more motivated, better mood to NoFap, which more times than not is confirmation bias over bona fide benefits.

    In the upcoming posts I'll try to be as specific as possible in the thoughts I'm going through, and encourage y'all to share your stories as well. Here's to another week of NoFap!
     
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  6. jojosun

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    You lot mind if I join? I'm 24 / agnostic / lived & studied in the UK.
    Starting on a 90 day reboot after many failed attempts.

    Exectly that. I start feeling happy and a bit proud and then - bang I relapse. Any ideas on how to figure this one out are welcome.
     
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  7. groovykeys91

    groovykeys91 New Fapstronaut

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    Hey man I would like to be you AP. Am new to this site and don't know how it works and how to get an AP. Help? Let's get this going! :) I'm 26 and have decided to end this devilry for good! Cheers mate!
     
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  8. getting better

    getting better Fapstronaut

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    Welcome to the party, good luck on your nofap journey!
     
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  9. getting better

    getting better Fapstronaut

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    I was traveling this last week (which actually made it easier to abstain from PMO, it is hard to watch porn when I'm sleeping in my sister's living room) and saw an interesting t-shirt at the airport last night. "Porn kills love" was the text and is sold by fightthenewdrug.org. I hadn't heard of them before but I just looked them up today and they seem to have a lot of info in addition to nofap about the negative effects of porn.

    There have been a couple days recently where I've felt extremely horny and wanted to masturbate to relieve the sexual tension building up... I am happy to say that I haven't given into the impulse and feel good about where I'm at.

    I hope to continue in this journey and to make it to 90 days. That will be the longest time I've gone without masturbating or looking at porn since I hit puberty ... Best of luck to us all in reaching our goal!
     
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    getting better Fapstronaut

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    Had a wet dream a few nights ago... Is that something that you guys experience after abstaining from PMO? I never/rarely would have one when I was masturbating regularly.

    This morning I woke up before my alarm clock and came very close to masturbating. I was fantasizing about some of the girls I've been with.. Thankfully I didn't give in and am excited to keep the streak going!

    How is everyone else doing?
     
  12. jojosun

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    I too went on holiday for a week with my family. A good time to abstain because all the activities took my mind of PMO and the lack of internet was a plus. My sexual energy and urges were incredibly strong though. I started fantasizing and even edging just before falling asleep but never succumbed. I had a semi-conscious wet dream in the morning hours yesterday. Still I'm going strong and equally excited to keep going!

    I've nearly finished this old book I had standing around called "The power of the subconscious mind". A lot of it is about positive thinking, convincing yourself of being successful, and visualizing your goals in order to achieve them. I'll try and incorperate some of these aspects into my reboot.

    Keep it up you lot!
     
  13. getting better

    getting better Fapstronaut

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    33 Days in feels like a lifetime... I have stopped thinking about porn but find myself fantasizing about past sexual encounters and other women I see/ meet. I'm hoping that will slow down also. I feel like there is a lot of sexual energy building up inside of me that wants to be released but I am hoping to direct that energy towards other positive pursuits (creative, exercise, etc).

    I just moved this week so I am dealing with some change and spending a lot of time applying for jobs. I hope I don't have so much down time that I will fall because of my boredom and having the time and the empty house to do so.

    Have a great weekend everybody and good luck on continuing the NoFap journey!
     
  14. getting better

    getting better Fapstronaut

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    It feels surreal to have just passed the 7 week mark! I'm thankful for getting this far and optimistic about continuing the streak. Last night I had my 2nd wet dream of this journey which I think is a good thing. I hope that my body's natural way of releasing some of the tension that has built up will allow me to stop thinking about sex as much.

    On the other hand I am just over 1/3 of the way to my goal of 90 days. There is still a lot of work to be done and day in and day out I need to consistently choose to live above PMO, regardless of how everything else in my life is going.
     
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  15. jojosun

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    Well done! Having you two weeks ahead of me is great inspiration to keep going.

    Just passed 1/3 and while I'm proud of that I agree completely that a lot of work is still to be done.

    I've been through a flatline which was actually kinda nice because it made not thinking about porn and sex easier. The urges are returning and I sometimes find the tension building up very strong but I'll keep going. I posted a more comprehensive write up of how it's been going on my reboot log for those interested.
     
  16. getting better

    getting better Fapstronaut

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    Glad to hear you are still going strong.

    A couple nights ago I had my 3rd wet dream over the course of this attempt at rebooting. After about the month long mark I think I noticed a change in how often I fantasize about sex or even just fantasize about masturbating. Which when I take a step back is pretty pathetic to fantasize about pleasuring yourself but I digress...

    In the bathroom where I live one of my roommates left a magazine laying around. It started flipping through it and came across in article which described the results about a recent study about the sexual habits of millennials, I'm embarrassed to say that I read it through, twice, and became extremely aroused through reading the article. However, I'm thrilled to say that I didn't play into temptation and actually masturbate.

    One of the times in the past that I would feel like masturbating is during periods of sadness or boredom. Those feelings are going to come from time to time throughout my life and I need to find ways to engage in fun, chill, relaxing activities that can bring me back to my happy place.

    What ultimately happens when I masturbate is I fall into an even deeper depression afterwards until I manage to pull myself out of the habit for a week or so.

    I've been masturbating regularly (at least once a week) since I was 16 years old and have been feeling very guilty about it for the past 5 or so years since I turned 20. I can't wait to see what my life looks like moving forward and I hope I can continue to keep porn and masturbation out of it..
     
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    getting better Fapstronaut

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    Back to zero. Thankful for 64 clean days which I believe is a new record (my previous record was 61 days) but at the same time feeling pretty disapointed in myself. After the fall which happened a few days ago I have masturbated around 4 times... I haven't watched any hardcore porn but have looked at instagram pages which I substitute for porn and also read erotica to arouse myself...
    Starting over. Not giving up.
     
  18. jojosun

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    Ah my man! Fuuuck I can't believe it. Same here, back to day 1. 70 Days clean, absolutely a new record for me. So close and so unecessary! I had to travel all night so was super spaced out the next evening. On my own, I ended up reading elit and later masturbated while falling asleep.
    The thing is, I'm still pretty proud of coming this far. And in the grand scheme of things, reading some smut and masturbating before going to sleep wouldn't be a problem for me once I had made it to day 90. But obv not ok during the reboot. Still, I've definitley changed in the process and I'm further from being addicted to porn than I have been for a long time. So, no reason to give up. As you said, starting over.
    I'm on day 1 now. In 90 days it's Christmas. I'm going to give myself the best present ever.
    Stay strong out there!
     
  19. jojosun

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    How are you doing bud? I'm hanging in there ok atm. Came very close to resetting two days ago but I'm getting better at sticking to my helpers and habits for now.
     
  20. getting better

    getting better Fapstronaut

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    After the initial fall I stayed down in the dumps for a couple days. I actually watched real porn and masturbated to it which sucks.

    My main challenge time is in the morning right after I wake up. It's too easy to just grab the phone and start scrolling through things that don't matter, come across something arousing, and before I know it I've masturbated.

    I'm hopeful that I'm turning over a new leaf now. I'm starting a new job next week which I think will be a great opportunity for me to break the bad habit. 90 Days here I come! One day at a time!

    Funny how we both fell around 65 days... I wonder if that is common. Let's get this reboot completed and move on with our lives!
     

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