25 y/o virgin, got ED when finally got laid

Discussion in 'Rebooting in a Relationship' started by plsv, Jan 29, 2019.

  1. plsv

    plsv New Fapstronaut

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    Hello, all my life I couldn't talk to women very well as I wasn't used to being around them. Recently I left my moms and moved in with two girls which helped me quite a bit. At one point I noticed it's been like 1.5 months since I did PM so I decided to keep going. Worked on myself and started dating a girl (she's also virgin). When we got to bed, to my horror I noticed that I couldn't keep it hard and couldn't even make her lose her virginity..Only now I realized the terrible consequences of watching porn since I was 15. It's been like 4.5 months already since I'm on PMO mode and for at least last 3 months I haven't felt any urges whatsoever. I believe this is called flatline. I got partially erected during the first "sex" but the next time I felt nearly nothing. What should I do now? Should I just get more comfortable around her without forcing/thinking about it? Or should I avoid sexual contact completely? How long does this flatline stage takes? Please help!
     
  2. Trappist

    Trappist Fapstronaut

    You might consider NoFap academy?
    I would go big in recovery to get an understanding of Ps effect.

    After that you can continue where life leads as you wish you could now.

    Live and learn, your in the right place.
     
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  3. Rehab101

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    Took me 4 tries. U r fine. Same situation as u previously.
     
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  4. Welcome to the community and congratulations on how far you have gone already.
    Our minds can do all kinds of things, along with past pmo you could also be nervous, anxious and worried.
    Try working on bonding and intimacy.
    Talk, soft touch, look in each other's eyes and connect. Focus on you and her and things will start to flow naturally.
     
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  5. plsv

    plsv New Fapstronaut

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    Thank you for encouraging words!
     
  6. plsv

    plsv New Fapstronaut

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    That's what we pretty much do, but yeah. Will stick to that and hopefully it will get better. Thank you
     
  7. Rehab101

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    Yep took 4 tries to put in without getting soft all the way. Couldnt even feel good until like the 10th times. This is classic case even for the people that dont pmo.
     
  8. modernstore99

    modernstore99 Fapstronaut

    I literally had the same exact problem as you. First 2 times having sex I couldn't get hard and it was the worst. Watched a lot of porn back in hs. I did a 90 day reboot, I did it right, and now I have sex twice a week with 100% percent erections and it's the best. Trust the reboot, do it right, and you'll be chillin
     

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