26/F/USA In need of some guidance or a mentor.

Discussion in 'Accountability Partners' started by omalleytac, Mar 26, 2018.

  1. omalleytac

    omalleytac Fapstronaut

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    My relationship is at stake and I dont want to lose my soulmate.

    I should mention that I am not addicted to porn I'm addicted to cheating.
     
  2. kevinfine

    kevinfine Fapstronaut

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    Hi @omalleytac , Cheating involves a lot of work to get to the point of being with someone else. What 'reward' do you feel you receive from successfully cheating?
     
  3. omalleytac

    omalleytac Fapstronaut

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    Idk. I feel in love. I feel those warm fuzzy feels.
     
  4. kevinfine

    kevinfine Fapstronaut

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    I can relate to those feelings - I did it many many times. I do however recall that those feelings only last a short while and then you're alone again with the only constant being the partner your with.
     
  5. Mandelbrot

    Mandelbrot Fapstronaut

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    Hi @omalleytac

    I have the same problem. My porn addiction is really sex addiction. I use porn in a way to calm my urges, but I really want real sex and I looking for it all time.

    I love my gf, seriously, she is an incredible woman. I feel very bad about my behavior and I feel "warm fuzzy feels" too, with women... It's really difficult stop cheating. But I'm changing, is necessary. I you're looking for AP I could be. Stay strong :)
     
  6. Champ OK

    Champ OK Fapstronaut

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    Cheating has its days.

    I was engaged once, a few years back. Yes, I loved and cared her. She touched my heart in non-explanatory ways. I loved her parents and other siblings. 2nd family.

    But I'm a cheat too.

    I search for high-class escorts. I crave sex with the younger female population. I watched porn, masturbated and the O.

    It impacted my behaviour and mood towards her and everyone. I became really cold and irritated. Non-communicative at times. I also kept away from my former fiancee for long period. When we were in touch, I covered my guilt and faked my honesty.

    She gullibly bared all the shit.

    At work, I am constantly grumpy and felt the whole world was against what I feel is right about my ideas and leadership.

    Two things occurred.

    Had a terrible argument with my previous management on a matter which if I would recall now is - arguably stupid. I resigned hurriedly. was threatened with a legal suit. Bad reference in the resume.

    My whole world came crumbling. Jobless for 7 months relying on my previous savings. Nearly had my car taken by the bank

    Oh yeah.. the last straw broke the camel's back. Engagement melted. She married a different man last year.

    Cheating has a compounding effect. The same for PMO.

    Be true to yourself and to everyone.
     
    Last edited: Mar 28, 2018

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