27 Male Christian in Ireland looking for AP 30days hard mode

Discussion in 'Accountability Partners' started by Kungfuman432, Apr 10, 2017.

  1. Krackjack1

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    Somewhat similar kind of thing happened with me...I used to check a lot of facebook and while doing so I used to get stumbled upon articles with pics of beautiful girls or related to sexual content...That was igniting my inner feelings and I fapped everytime it happened...
    So I have filtered my facebook and have liked lots of inspirational, informational and self help pages that give me positivity and daily motivation....
    Now, I have reduced my dependency on facebook and even when I do open it sometimes it makes me happy to gather some useful information.
    I have started meditation and I think it has helped me reduce my dependency on such stuff...
    I think you should read book - The Power of habit by Charles Duhigg...I am reading it nowadays...
    Or you could listen to the audiobook... It provides some great insights about how to break a bad habit...It would help in the challenge as well as with your other problem...
    Just like the famous saying " a knife in a doctor's hand is a lot different than a knife in a butcher's hand as it all depends on how we use it"
    What I want to say with this quote is that technology is not bad or good...all that matters is how we use it...So I would recommend you to like pages on facebook- success magazine, success sayings, addicted 2 success...as these will help you in your journey..
    I hope it helps as it has helped me a lot..
     
  2. Krackjack1

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    Third day completed fapstronauts.....I am feeling great already...I feel like I can make it happen...I can complete the challenge....
    Hope you are all doing well too....
     
  3. EL88

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    Yeah, it's going ok! Nice to hear you get so much energy from abstaining PMO! Have a good evening
     
  4. Krackjack1

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    Guys I am into the 6th day....Feeling the urges today are a bit stronger...but I think I can pull it off...
    Also I think we should try to know each other better....that would make the posts a bit more interesting as we share more with each other....
    I am an engineer....currently working on railway projects...Also suffering from social anxiety and currently I am not even trying to fix that because I have realised that if you try to do too many things at the same time your willpower gets exhausted and you fail at everything.
    I find tv series interesting and have watched friends, the big bang theory, HIMYM, prison Break, Sherlock and I watch anime too- my favourite one is DBZ..

    I have realised that @Kungfuman432 has stopped posting...What is the issue buddy...Did you relapse? Even if you have don't feel bad to share about it as we all have a tendency to relapse...Just stay with the group and we will together make it to the end...
    I feel like i will have to try a lot harder today as the urges are strong....
    Good luck to you all
     
  5. Krackjack1

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    Hwy Fapstronauts today I landed on 2 videos which gave me a lot of motivation to continue with my challenge....
    Here I am sharing the links with you guys...plz do watch them they are awesome...I just want to thank those guys who posted these videos...


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    There is some very useful info in these videos...
    Also day6 of the challenge completed...Almost relapsed but somehow held on to it bcoz of the challenge...I am happy that I controlled myself at the right time

    Have a great day guys....
     
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  6. EL88

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    Hey, yeah, I can relate to that. Since I'm on day 11 without happing, I approach even one month without porn in a couple of days, which makes me very proud. But: In the last days, the urges to watch porn have been growing steadily - don't know why... Like my brain finally starts to detox but my "inner devil" wants to mislead me: He whispers: "Just one time, buddy, watch some stuff - only once a month - still a great success..." So I'm struggling.

    Allright. I'm a teacher, I'm 29 btw and that's my story:
    In my young ages, when I went to elementary school, I had some male friends, that lived in our street (but oddly enough, I didn't relate to them as I did to girls, whom I liked to talk to much more. They boys played soccer and so on... I never did that.) Later, I lost nearly all of my male friends due to change of schools and never found anyone until I moved to the big city to study.
    In secondary school, especially the first four years, it's been horror. Bullying, being excluded from other groups, have been labeled "gay" because I didn't like to speak about women in an insulting way and so on... It was always hard for me to fit in a "man's world" - I didn't feel quite manly either. And you're completely right, at least for me, that this process led me to compare myself to other men (especially in porn, but in real life as well) - I always was looking (and still am) for "how to be a real man". (I can't grow a beard - that's also something, that really bothers me.) Actually, I'm still deeply moved since this is a topic I think about each and every day and which burdens me quite a lot.
    And... forgot the hobbies: I like TV shows as well (House of Cards, Sherlock, ...)

    Now you know more about me ;)

    Yeah, I get that - but, @Krackjack1: You're definitely not failing at NoFap: You seem strong, you keep motivating each other, you're just approaching your first PMO-free week! Keep fighting, man!
    And thanks for the videos btw!
     
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  7. Kungfuman432

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    Hey guys. Sorry I have been a bit lax.. life has gotten a bit crazy recently. @Krackjack1 yea man. Been reading through the forums you're doin awesome man keep up the awesome work.
    I had a great weekend but tonight I just got lax and slipped up. Back on the wagon right now! None of this back on tomorrow nonsense I back and motivated to keep kicking this grotesque habit.
    A bit about me?
    I have been a christian my whole life. Dad is a preacher and as I grew up I just wanted to follow his footsteps. I never saw (or even now really see) myself as a leader but apparently everyone else did. People in my church started nurturing the gift they saw in me throughout my teenage years which I'm really greatful for. I first saw P images when I was 13years old. That image is burned into my brain :/ I remember all the things they told me in school about puberty but now it was real and I wanted those feelings again even though I knew something was horribly wrong with them.all through my teenage years I'd be goody christian in public and horny boy whenever I was alone. I felt so duplicitous. I hated being 2 people and I was ashamed of everything in me. And every PMO cycle had the same lies of I will never do this again and I will clean myself up so God will accept me.
    Finally one day one of my teachers (also a christian) told me that I didnt have to be twofaced. I didnt have to be filled with shame. I didnt have to clean myself up before going to God. He would wash me clean of all unrighteousness cause that's His job, not mine. I went on to run the youth group of my church.. and then went to be a minister at another church while I studied theology. I still struggled with PMO and all the shame but I felt less 2 faced. More like someone trying to run with his shoelaces tied together. I met my girlfriend and last year we moved to Ireland. I still struggle but I continue my fight. I have to, to be the best for my girlfriend but also to be the best I can be for God. I kinda feel like God is waiting patiently for me to work through this PMO battle so he can take me further and further into His journey for my life. Thats my motivation keep going.
    Also I love the Marvel movies, DC tv shows and star wars :)

    You guys are awesome and I want to keep growing. Now I have you guys behind me I definitely feel stronger to keep going.
    Remember: It is not our mistakes that define us. It is how we persevere inspite of our mistakes that shows others our character.
    God bless you all and keep up the good fight
     
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  8. stanistheman

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    Hey guys this is my first post on this fourm i just wanted to say how encouraging it is too how you guys work together like brothers its actually so awesome a good scripture i think at least that is good too keep in mind is
    Proverbs 24:16
    "for though a righteous man falls seven times, he will rise again, but the wicked stumble into calamity"
    Im not perfect no one is but if you trust in god im sure we can all make it through these tough times! keep strong friends keep fighting don't give up!
     
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  9. Kungfuman432

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    Hey man. You have no idea what good timing you have. I was really tempted this morning but that post came just at the right time. I am determined not to fall again today!
     
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  10. stanistheman

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    Haha im glad i could help bro! i hope you guys dont mind me joining in on this it'd be nice to progress to a better man with others support!
     
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  11. Kungfuman432

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    Absolutely brother. Welcome to our merry band of misfits :) basically we try to keep posting updates every few days just to check in on each other I am a christian and so are a few of the others here but there are some who arent so just keep that in mind. Be respectful of others, we're all about grace and encouragement. Everyone here has punished themselves enough and know when they have done the wrong thing. I set up this thread to lift people up and encourage them not to give up on the things that will bring them life
     
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  12. PaulTheRoman

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    This particular thread seems full. Can I still join the accountability group? I'm a Christian too and would like some accountability :/
     
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  13. EL88

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    Of course, you can! Welcome, @PaulTheRoman ! Are you new to NoFap? Tell us a little bit about yourself - especially your motivation to become PMO-free! :)
     
  14. Kungfuman432

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    Brother it may be filling but its always got room for more. You are more than welcome here and always drop us a line if you need support or encouragement :)
     
  15. PaulTheRoman

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    Thank you! I'm a 20 year old male university student from Puerto Rico, and currently I'm in a relationship as well. I truly thank God for my girlfriend, as she has helped me greatly with my loneliness. However, that being said, I've been addicted to PMO'ing since I think I was a pre-teen, and have struggled spiritually because of it. She also has had similar problems as well, and though we try to help each other not to do so, it doesn't work that much (I mean, you know, we are attracted to each other.) She seems to have much longer abstinence streaks than me. Much, much longer. So I believe that she's alright. That's not the case with me, I MO pretty frequently, at least once every day or two, and now I am PMO'ing. Maybe my streaks become longer, but not by much. She's very accepting of me and my MO'ing, and my fear is not that she will reject me (though she obviously pushes for me to stay PMO-free), but that I am a bad influence to her :( . It is a terrible feeling knowing that you might be helping a person sin. Not only that, but I don't feel good when I PMO. I haven't told her of it, and though I believe she will also be accepting, I don't want to sadden her nor be a bad influence. In addition to all of that, I dislike looking at other women naked, or hentai (which is what I go to as well). Sinning is bad in itself, but when you know you might hurt someone else because of it, the badness of it is just compounded by a lot. I am sorry, I feel like I said more than "just a bit", but I felt like my reasons were pretty complicated. So yea, basically I want to stop sinning in this particular vice, not be a bad influence to my girlfriend, and stop PMO'ing so that I don't hurt her and badly influence her even more.

    Just so you have some more context that might be helpful, we're in a long distance relationship.
     
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  16. Kungfuman432

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    Hey man those are great reasons to turn from this evil evil vice. I'm pretty sure everyone here has much similar reasons to stop. You're not alone and we will stand with you in this. You got this man. For God's princesses and for our right to reclaim our charscter and manhood. I march with you
     
  17. The Errol

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    Evangelical guy over here! Glad ot help any other brother in the faith and in the struggle fap represents! Well, I'm not sure if I can join, since the challange started days ago, but well... I'm in. Stay focus not in celibacy or abstinance, rather in other things.
     
  18. Kungfuman432

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    Hey man welcome :) its ok. Everyone is welcome and we have kinda pushed past the 30 day challenge to a more general accountability group which you are welcome to join in with
     
  19. EL88

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    Men, how was your day?

    Personally, my mind is filled with "fog" these days: Lots of stress and every ten seconds, my hand wanders down in areas it's not supposed to. With nearly 30 days without P, I observe a rising urge of watching - even more than fapping. Don't know why. Little confusion here - unable to stay focussed.

    I hope, it'll go away soon.
     
  20. Kungfuman432

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    Hey man. There are other ways to clear your head. I totally understand what you're talking about. Do you go for runs or walks or anything?
     
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