If it's really killing you, just see an escort
If it's really killing you, just see an escort
I don't care.Bad advice. No offense.
It’s not the end of the world, if your a virgin. Just write down 10 things you are thankful for in your life. Go take a walk into the woods. Observe the beauty that’s in our world. Look after your mental health. Do a technology detox (Ex: Internet, Social Media, Video Games.) Just because life is challenging, doesn’t mean you can’t make it bearable and livable.I have been masturbating on porn since I was 14 yrs old .. after I was around 18 yrs my academic and mental health was very much affected of which I decided to quit this thing . Was masturbating like 6-7 times per day that time . I finally had put this on a hault on this . But I started experiencing many urine infections which around took me 2-3 yrs to get back on track. Then I some how got my focus and everything back and started my college days . This again started there for a year or two . Then again I put this on a hault . I remember my max was 30 days . Although during my prof exams I never use to masturbate but it was unconsciously done as was busy . So never thought so hard on this . And my main trigger at that time was lonliness . I am social awkward even now . Had many crushes . 3-4 girls have before proposed me but I use to loose interest in them after a month . Was busy masturbating . Really lost the contact of real world . No real friends . Had finally one girlfriend that too stayed for 2 months and then got cheated . So had a break up . This is the time I have to react for my career . Heard about NoFap from one of my friend . Read many articles on this and all matched to my symptoms and behaviour I was facing . So decided to give it a try but as days passed I realised I was àddicted to it and this was the reason behind everything I suffered since my whole childhood . It's my 31st day on NoFap pmo hard mode . Ànd I feeling lonely and the fact that I am still a virgin is killing me and the urges are on peak . Please help . I want it to make through 200 days . I am working on it .
I have been masturbating on porn since I was 14 yrs old .. after I was around 18 yrs my academic and mental health was very much affected of which I decided to quit this thing . Was masturbating like 6-7 times per day that time . I finally had put this on a hault on this . But I started experiencing many urine infections which around took me 2-3 yrs to get back on track. Then I some how got my focus and everything back and started my college days . This again started there for a year or two . Then again I put this on a hault . I remember my max was 30 days . Although during my prof exams I never use to masturbate but it was unconsciously done as was busy . So never thought so hard on this . And my main trigger at that time was lonliness . I am social awkward even now . Had many crushes . 3-4 girls have before proposed me but I use to loose interest in them after a month . Was busy masturbating . Really lost the contact of real world . No real friends . Had finally one girlfriend that too stayed for 2 months and then got cheated . So had a break up . This is the time I have to react for my career . Heard about NoFap from one of my friend . Read many articles on this and all matched to my symptoms and behaviour I was facing . So decided to give it a try but as days passed I realised I was àddicted to it and this was the reason behind everything I suffered since my whole childhood . It's my 31st day on NoFap pmo hard mode . Ànd I feeling lonely and the fact that I am still a virgin is killing me and the urges are on peak . Please help . I want it to make through 200 days . I am working on it .
30 and still a virgin too.
Some days it kills me and then others I don't care. The worst thing is that I haven't at any point actually tried to lose it, even though for a long time sex was all I thought about I just took care of that with porn or my own imagination.
I've also built up sex in my head as being this impossible task, it's all so alien to me now that I wouldn't know where or how to meet a girl or even how to talk to one.
Its ok she wasn't meant for you , you'll find a better understanding one, meaning better first-time sex .. i had chances to have sex but i declined cause it didn't feel right i wasn't readyI'm 25 and am in exactly the same situation as you.
Iv'e always had a PMO problem which hasn't helped things but my only girlfriend cheated on me about 6 years ago because she was "tired waiting on me" because I didn't fee ready.
I'm pretty scarred from that and have no idea how i'm ever going to have sex if
1. I can't get it up
and
2. I'll have zero experience
My friends chat casually about sex and i'm sitting there thinking how alien they all are
I would rather suggest you to consult a specialist or a psychiatrist rather dealing this erectile dysfunction by yourself and taking med before sex as it will not solve the purpose . You haven't thought about it . Actually it seems it's in the head nothing else nor pathological to have medicine for it . I think mild psychotherapy and counselling with a good psychiatrist will do . So avoid hesitation and consult .A big problem is "self-fulfilling prophecy".
Like even if you are PMO-free for many months and successfully overcame the 90 days, your brain is so afraid of PIED and failing at getting an erection at the first time that it will automatically lead to a self-fulfilling prophecy. It's a vicious cycle we need to break out of.
I'm also wondering how to solve this problem for myself, even though I'm not a virgin anymore. After my last relationship I had one instance of PIED and it scared the shit out of me. Since then I didn't even try to initiate anything with women, cause I don't want to experience that again. But of course that's not solving my problem. It's just avoiding/postponing it.
So far, I only see 2 solutions:
1. Either tell the girl outright before sex that you are nervous about your erection. (I don't know how women react to that? Any experiences? Are women understanding when it comes to that?)
2. Take Viagra 30-45 min before sexual activity and don't tell her. Only for the first time. Your self-confidence will explode and you won't need it a second time again. But it needs some timely planning.
If it's really killing you, just see an escort
Yes you are right . I totally get what you are trying to convey . Thanks a lot brother . It's my day 103 of nofap hard mode . And felt a lot of changes in my mindset in these past days . Although I am still fighting for existence and wet dreams too but still I have hope . Thanks againStay on track man. If you can stay away from porn for long enough you'll feel better everyday. I can attest to this fact.
We are different though and I won't pretend to know what it's like to be you.
I wouldn't worry about the virginity thing too much. You're 27? You are totally fine. Let's say, for example, that you lose your virginity at 30. If you are a guy who takes his health seriously, works hard, saves money, eats right, goes to the gym... you can sleep with attractive women until you are at least 50+. That gives you 20 years, or more, of enjoying intimacy with women.
And what do you have to show for being a virgin at 27? No kids. No sexually transmitted infections/diseases. No child support payments. No custody battles...
I'm 44 and let me tell you, there are many girls who stay fit and attractive into their 30s and higher. So many girls now exercise and take care of themselves. You have decades of sex ahead of you after Hard Mode is complete (and any other NoFap goals you have).
When our brain stops objectify them as females and take them as a person the hesitation and panic behaviour will vanish automatically . And that will be achieved by nofap . There is no other way I guess .I almost had a panic attack when an attractive girl was walking towards me down a narrow street, honestly I think my heart would have been racing less if I were about to jump out of a plane. Maybe it's because I'm hitting the withdrawal stage again so situations like this become heightened but it just makes me feel so depressed and hopeless. If that's what I'm like just walking past a girl how am I ever going to talk to one, let alone get to the point of having sex. When I was 15 I would hang out with girls all the time but now at 30 I'm scared to death of them ... God I have a long road ahead of me.[/QUOT