28 virgin male

Discussion in 'Loneliness' started by Talalelsayed, Apr 18, 2019.

  1. Talalelsayed

    Talalelsayed Fapstronaut

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    Does this sounds normal?
    I was masturbating for half of my life, now i am thinking if i need a girl or not. I am afraid of what problems should i expect if i started having a relation.
    N.b i never had a relation with a girl.
     
  2. fapequalsdeath

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    no it's not normal, even asking it in this forum and being not sure if it's normal is not normal. idk what your situation is but it sounds like there needs to be done a lot of work on urself. all the best.
     
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  3. lirider

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    I was a virgin until 26. Got my heart broken, drunk, then lost my virginity to some 40ish old lady. This was all before my laptop and high speed porn back in 1999. 45 now and PMOd since then. My point is that I always saw "problems" with relationships. Friends wives divorcing them, taking their house, money. My uncle having his trashy wife call the cops on him and claiming domestic abuse. Lies. I feel better now because I saw the root of SOME of my problem ie. PMO. After my 90 days I'm going to make a concerted effort to find a nice girl. NOT that it will all happen after 90 but I definitely am not OK. Still fighting urges. I have to try though and so should you. Best of luck.
     
  4. Talalelsayed

    Talalelsayed Fapstronaut

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    I think you have a point of view. My addiction was very bad, i believe i should have more time to get rid of it. The problem is not when to begin a relation but how this relation is going to be.
    I wish you best of luck in finding the right nice girl.
     
  5. lirider

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    I too was very bad. I agree, while fap made us give up on real life relationships I did have a time before P that I was confident, willing to live, share, had girl-friends so I knew what a good nice girl could do/be for me. BUT I also know sex without emotion (a one night stand one time in my life) really sucks. It made me feel even emptier than PMO. So let's reboot and not settle. Best of luck to you too.
     
  6. DonDraper

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    I'm curious as to how long you have been PMO'ing up until now? What would be your age range?
     
  7. 24 yo virgin and onlly began fapping at 20. sex has nothing to do with PMO, its all baout looks sadly
     
  8. delhiboy

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    27 male, emotionally virgin, never have sex with a girl i really love...

    But its ok i think
     
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  9. Kiz Whalifa

    Kiz Whalifa Fapstronaut

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    You don't need a girl. Learn to love yourself first. You'll find out that your inexperience/virginity doesn't really matter, if they really love you. Take your time.
     
  10. TimeToQuitNow

    TimeToQuitNow Fapstronaut

    You won't know the problems you'll face till you get into a relationship
     
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  11. aliasghar1378

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    you are lucky , You are rookie i think most of man started 11-12
     
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  12. i would be lucky if i wasnt a virgin
     
  13. yyz33

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    I would try it out. You might like it. We are human beings after all. I would explore it if you want. We are all going to die anyways. Why not. you will probably regret it if you dont give it a go. what would your life be like if you had a cool relationship with a women you wanted?

    I started late as well mostly because of pmo. first relationship was when I was 24. Had 3 relationships since then. im 28 now. Encountered some good times and bad times with em. But that is life. Here are some of the challenges i encountered.

    1. judging the quality of the women you are with and putting enough significance to her character. I just wanted sex at 24 and had a relationship with an alcoholic, but put up with the drama because the sex was consistent and that brought me back.
    2. acting needy: sending long texts when the girl starts loosing interest.. etc.
    3. I wasnt good at dealing with the emotional ups and downs in the relationship (arguments, fights, jealousy, etc.)
    4. I also wasn't good at respecting myself in the relationship. Standing up for myself. Prioritizing my time/ goals, being an independent person rather than a codependent person.
    5. not taking her emotional swings so seriously. Being the rock in the relationship. I wasn't good at understanding her. I acted pretty selfishly and dumb at times by making it all about me. rather than observing the situation for what it is and being a rock.


    The challenges don't really matter though, you will have problems in your life with or without women. you might not encounter the same challenges i had or any for that matter. who knows. I experienced many positives during my relationships. help you grow, help you understand and relate to people, lots of fun. excitement. sharing experiences. laughs. sex. among many others.. it's pretty cool. I would try it out if you think there is a chance it something that you want. [/QUOTE]
     
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  14. Freeddom_Taker

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    I'm not American but who the fuck make those cuck laws that a woman who divorce you has to take your belongings. That's absolutely absurdity if you ask me.
     
  15. TimeToQuitNow

    TimeToQuitNow Fapstronaut

    It's not the law. The courts are just biased towards women. That's why it's hard to change. Because technically it's just as possible for a man to do this as a woman. But the women end up winning over 90% of the time in the divorce courts
     
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  16. skull67

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    the fact that you are at 45 and still face this problem makes me shit bricks, i just dont want oto be in tat posotion, and somehow, i feel my PIED will eventually take me there, i hope i dont go through this, do you have any tips for me, i am 27 years old btw and also a virgin
     
  17. BigOne79

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    That's the way I was man. I keep seeing all that same stuff around me with divorce from different cousins, a lot of family friends saying DON'T DO IT (marriage), another cousin after having a couple of kids is like, 'yeah, it's okay but not everything we make it out to be." Marriage and children are work and you have to be an adult emotionally and control your feelings for the better of the whole family and your marriage. I am not sure what I want at all.
     
  18. BigOne79

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    Yep, same with me. Masturbated and now that I am rebooting do I need someone at all. Some days I do and some days I don't I guess.
     
  19. skull67

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    no, i am not concerned about the fact that you have become aversive to marriage, i totally understand that part, especially if you are from a country where the divorce will fucking drain your money into half. iam more intrigued about the fact that you still have pmo problems, and want to know how dangerous is the possibility of having a pied in front of woman, because i just imagine it and dont really know how it is going to impact me.
     
  20. lirider

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    Well start by being humble. Realize you have an issue which you obviously seem to have grasped. The thing is I didn't. I was a kid in a candy store but it took it's tole. Other than that work on yourself career wise, be kind to others, pray if you're religious. Masturbating does ruin your confidence so stop and let a glow shine from you. I say work on yourself because it's hard to attract quality women when you're out of shape with no money. A faker. I've relapsed out of boredom but I'm taking new positive directions in my career. 27 feels like yesterday to me but obviously it isn't. Time is one thing you can't get back so start NOW.
     

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