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Discussion in 'Rebooting in a Relationship' started by EmtOmari, Mar 21, 2020.

  1. EmtOmari

    EmtOmari New Fapstronaut

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    soooo im starting nofap because well ive tried before to quit pm before but have never been truly successful, my addiction i believe started after my time in the navy during dont ask dont tell being a gay black male on active duty i didnt have much choice but to use porn to get my rocks off and tbh i havent stopped since its now to the point i have online clouds of porn folders and while dating i would go through extremes to try and hide just how much porn i saved / used. i knew i had an issue when actual sex would make me upset because it was more work then self pleasure. now ive met the man i wanna marry and spend my life with but my addiction to porn makes him have reservations about our relationship and his worth. so im starting nofap to prove to myself i can, as well as reassure my lover that he was never the issue in anyway.

    when i tried nofap before i honestly didnt even know there was a whole movement... well no im here and i wanna get 90 days under my belt make nofap a habit/ lifestyle. and hope i dont ruin my marriage before it begins
     
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  2. The Free Bird

    The Free Bird Fapstronaut

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    Hi and welcome to the community

    I would recommend you to stay in touch with members and read their success stories. You may also learn tricks to avoid the short-term pleasure and to face the temptations.

    Be AWARE of your habits and control what you see and what/who you spend your time with.

    It's also important to limit the usage of social media. In addition, never be free! Use your free time as much as possible and do sports, exercise, attend classes, etc.


    This video contains everything that you need to know about porn addiction. Lastly, here is a collection of ways to deal with the urges which worked great for me.

    ֍ You got this my friend ֍
     
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  3. Hi there... :)
    Welcome to the community!
    Good luck!
     
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  4. Hey, welcome to the NoFap community : )

    It's nice to see you here fighting the good fight alongside us!

    Allow me to go ahead and drop some helpful links for you:
    Getting Started Guide / Forum Rules / How to Use the NoFap forums/ Glossary/ NoFap Panic button / Set up your day counter / Rebooting Resources/ Accountability groups (new!) / About NoFap/ Support NoFap

    Here is just some advice:

    First and foremost please take a careful look at each section in the forum, there may be something(s) you will find to be of big help to you.
    Secondly I advise you to be active on your profile(as there a few active people in the profile section). Please start by choosing an avatar and then begin posting frequent status posts to show you're active and needing support/encouragement.
    The forum has got a neat little feature that shows freshly posted statuses for all users to see.
    People will find your profile and give you support.
    There’s a portion of people who love communicating in the profile section..(it should be and is )mostly spportive talk but it doesn't hurt to deviate from supportive conversations. It would be great to have you join in and become part of the team!
    We support one another in the threads, profile posts, and journals/reboot logs.
    Once you receive some support, please be sure and be grateful to the member for the help/support you received and consider giving some in return to anyone you wish.


    Thirdly, you should highly consider creating a public journal/reboot log (in the appropriate section for you) to write about your days in depth for us members to follow along on your journey and offer support to you on.


    Last but not least: Good luck on your journey here, make sure to really give it a try with all your heart!
     
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