28 year old handsome ladies man virgin

Sad to hear your story, but it seems it is going good! I had PIED too, and, to be honest, I've not really solved it. I mean, it passed, but I have to be cautious on not start again watching porn and masturbating too much. it helped me a lot to be with a girl, and talk of this problem (after many times sex didn't go). if you want you can check my story. maybe something will help you. at the moment I'm on a relationship, my penis work without problems. only thing is that if I masturbate it starts to not be at 100%, but it solves in few days.
I just read your story. Very identical to me. I cant get hard standing either.
I think your only issue is you try to O too much with a girl aha
I'm telling all these girls to fuck off for 90 days before I try anyhting. Im glad to hear youre mostly healed!
 
Update:
It's officially been 6 days and I got a random boner at work. Still no morning woods but ill take the small wins where I can ahah
I've been doing alot of self reflecting this past week. I realized I spent too much time on my phone, talking to multiple women at once (5-10 girls at least per day). I was just emotionally stressing myself out. This week I decided to cut all that shit out and only talk to a girl if I see a future with them and not just to hook up. It resulted in me going way harder in the gym. I actually got to finish my first netflix show in years - squid games. I went golfing alone one day after work too 18 holes. I'm loving all this extra me time instead of being absorbed on my phone.
I also went on 2 first dates this week with 2 really good girls. They're not the hottest but they're cute, and I'm starting to accept that instagram is fucking bullshit and girls don't look like that in real life. I talked to these women about what they're looking for in life / goals / plans. Before I would just fast forward to hookup. Now I couldn't care less. I feel like I've proved to myself that I can get most girls that I want and it's time for me to settle down and find something serious. Fuck the media for portraying players as something to be desired. It's fucking lonely being a player. Sure it looks fun but gives no meaning to your life.
Anyways, I feel like I've grown alot during my first week of nofap hard mode and I'm excited to see where the rest of my journey will take me.
Bro, wait to recover and after that use these chicks to make the blonde one jealous; you might get her back
 
Bro, wait to recover and after that use these chicks to make the blonde one jealous; you might get her back
Never go back bro. Always bigger and better! I'm currently talking to 5 different chicks. Its just awkward cuz I got to find ways to avoid getting sexual with em to avoid the PIED talk.
Longest 90 days of my life haha I appreciate the support
 
Never go back bro. Always bigger and better! I'm currently talking to 5 different chicks. Its just awkward cuz I got to find ways to avoid getting sexual with em to avoid the PIED talk.
Longest 90 days of my life haha I appreciate the support
Haha lucky and unlucky you! Good luck in your recovery
 
BIG UPDATE:
Day 42 now. I noticed a week ago that my dick and balls have gotten bigger in size. Thought I was crazy but I been keeping track all week and my dick and balls are like twice as big now flaccid.
Before I had a micro peen when I was flaccid.
Super excited as it means my dick is healing from all the years of abuse! One step closer babyyyy
 
Day 49.
Some chick sent me hot nudes last night. Made me so fuckig horny I started masterbating. I stopped myself way before reaching an organization, but mt balls fucking HURT (BLUE BALLS) haha
Next morning my skin on my dick was very sensitive, a little redness, I'm starting to think I've been masterbatinv way too fast and aggressively my whole life
 
Its a type of anxiety. Very dangerous one and it is byproduct of excessive masturbation.
 
Currently drunk, its 1am, I am heart broken.
I started masterbating furiously when i was 12. Started spiraling down fucked up and more fucked up porn. This caused me to be impossible to get hard with a girl in person. I'm fucking 28 and I can't get an erection with any girl (still a virgin). Not to sound cocky but I am a bartender, very social, many girls want me, I tried but I couldn't fuck a single one (tried with over 50 girls). I went to my doctor, got my blood work done, surprise surprise there were no issues. Doctor just prescribed me some blue pill and said I'll get over it. So 3 times i took a 50mg pill, my dick still didnt work. Then I meet this girl who is my type, blonde, blue eyes beautiful, but she says she wants a fwb. I'm looking for a relationship. 3 months of hooking up and no success with getting hard. Finally, I decide to take 100mg of blue pill and get a half boner and managed to barely fuck her. She gets tired of my limp dick and starts fucking some random guys on tinder... So here I am now. Heartbroken, devastated. I want to get my shit together. I am going to try to do a weekly updated minimum. My goal is to hit 90 days of NoFap at the very least. I'm sick and tired of this shit.
don't lose hope brother.

You will definitely come out ahead. At least you have a constant supply of chicks for you. Once you get over this, it will be rock solid game for you.


Although, you will have to have immense restrain, which quite honestly I cannot advise you about because your situaion, my god, its, lets say, would be very challenging for me.
 
Actualmente borracho, es la 1 a. m., tengo el corazón roto.
Empecé a masterbating furiosamente cuando tenía 12 años. Comencé a bajar en espiral jodido y más jodido porno. Esto hizo que me fuera imposible ponerme duro con una chica en persona. Tengo 28 jodidos y no puedo tener una erección con ninguna chica (todavía virgen). No es por sonar arrogante, pero soy cantinero, muy sociable, muchas chicas me quieren, lo intenté pero no pude follarme a ninguna (lo intenté con más de 50 chicas). Fui a mi médico, me hice un análisis de sangre, sorpresa, sorpresa, no hubo problemas. El doctor me recetó una pastilla azul y dijo que lo superaría. Así que 3 veces tomé una pastilla de 50 mg, mi pene todavía no funcionaba. Entonces conocí a esta chica que es mi tipo, rubia, ojos azules hermosa, pero dice que quiere un fwb. busco relacion 3 meses de conexión y sin éxito con ponerse duro. Por fin, Decido tomar 100 mg de la pastilla azul y tener una media erección y apenas me las arreglé para follármela. Ella se cansa de mi polla flácida y comienza a follar con algunos tipos al azar en Tinder... Así que aquí estoy ahora. Con el corazón roto, devastado. Quiero juntar mi mierda. Voy a intentar hacer un mínimo actualizado semanalmente. Mi objetivo es alcanzar los días 90 de NoFap como mínimo. Estoy harto y cansado de esta mierda.
Mi caso es parecido visite un endocrinólogo me hice análisis y mis niveles de testosterona salen por debajo de lo normal me recetó una pastilla y nada porque no tengo deseo nada funciona ahora comencé nofap hace 2 semanas y aver
 
Update:
I went 90+ days NoFap hard mode. Slipped up and jerked off 2 days ago. Back to day 0, yay...

First 30 days I noticed so many changes. From day 30 - 100 I didn't notice any difference... Feels like I need to do hard mode for a long long time fml. Wish I could go to younger me and stop him from fapping like a machine.... FUCK MAN

At day 90+ still no erections or morning woods... I might just get a penis implant and call it a day... Fuck this shit man
 
Hey brother, my story is somewhat similar to you. I'm also called a handsome guy but I've always had a problem with porn. Had PIED once, but my main problem is delayed ejaculation, like no matter what I just can't orgasm, and Ive had to fake it more times that I can count.

I started this journey years ago and I've fallen several times, this last streak my libido seems to be coming back sooner and stronger. Random raging boners, morning etc. Though I'd not everyday, I can see progress.

I'm 34 years old if that helps.
 
First, congratulations on 90+ days, have you tried reading other guys' posts on how they cured it and how long it took?

I don't see any reason why your penis wouldn't work as you're a healthy man, eventually it will work again. Or maybe next step would be to actually try start having sex again?
Thanks! And I used to masterbate like 5 times a day for over a decade so i really think i got alot of healing that needs to be done. 90 days wont be enough i dont think...

Hey brother, my story is somewhat similar to you. I'm also called a handsome guy but I've always had a problem with porn. Had PIED once, but my main problem is delayed ejaculation, like no matter what I just can't orgasm, and Ive had to fake it more times that I can count.

I started this journey years ago and I've fallen several times, this last streak my libido seems to be coming back sooner and stronger. Random raging boners, morning etc. Though I'd not everyday, I can see progress.

I'm 34 years old if that helps.
Right now i wish i had delayed ejaculation. Its so embarassing never being able to get hard. If i stand up while hard i lose the erection too.
You have random raging boners 80 days in?? I was at 100+ and still didnt get them. Oh well I'll try again!
I wish u all the best on your journey as well!
 
Thanks! And I used to masterbate like 5 times a day for over a decade so i really think i got alot of healing that needs to be done. 90 days wont be enough i dont think...


Right now i wish i had delayed ejaculation. Its so embarassing never being able to get hard. If i stand up while hard i lose the erection too.
You have random raging boners 80 days in?? I was at 100+ and still didnt get them. Oh well I'll try again!
I wish u all the best on your journey as well!

Thanks man, I've also had some 100 days streaks with a dead penis, so I've also been there. I notice that in the ones where I work out the most, take cold showers, supplements and meditate I have more luck with erections and libido in general. Best of luck too.
 
Long overdue for an update...

Short history about myself:
  • Chronic masterbater (5 times a day) from the age of 12-28? 16 years of destroying my brain and how I viewed woman as objects.
  • Haven't had morning wood in a decade (only in my teens, stopped in my 20s).
  • Many sexual encounters but unsuccessful to get or maintain an erection.
Porn addiction and snapchat:
  • Started watching very vanilla porn. Then slowly I had to watch more kinky / messed up videos to get aroused.
  • Fast-forward to my mid 20s where not even porn could get me hard. I started to teach myself how to cum without even being erect.
  • I also had an addiction to snapchat. Trying to get nudes from as many women as possible. Also loved to send 10 second videos of me playing with myself (somewhat of an exhibitionist). I was training my body to stay hard for like 10 seconds then would go soft right after.
Doctor visit / blue pills:
  • After I admitted I had a problem I saw a doctor. They did a blood test to check my test levels and other things. Doctor said, "You are on above average healthy male and you have higher than average test. I'll give you some blue pills cuz its all in your head. Don't worry this issue is way more common than you think."
  • It was nice to hear the doctor say he sees this issue alot. Good to know I wasn't alone.
  • Fast forward to a sexual encounter. I took 50mg and my penis was still dead (no response). Second time I took 100mg and I got an extremely weak boner. It was weak but enough to have sex in certain positions.
  • My normal friends say when they take 1/10th (10mg) of what I took (100mg) their penis felt like superman. This made it clear to me that I definitely have pied especially if 100mg of blue pills barely worked.
  • Threw away blue pills, time for NoFap hard mode.
NoFap journey:
  • Hard mode is the only way to go.
  • I quit watching porn in Feb of 2020.
  • Had many streaks but relapsed thanks to girls sending me nudes on snapchat.
  • Longest streak 70 days, 2 streaks for 40 days, and the rest are under 30 days.
  • At first it seemed impossible to quit fapping but now I can go on 2-3 week streaks easily.
  • I broke my most recent streak (42 days) last night since I got drunk and horny and a girl sent me nudes on snap.
Actions I took:
  • Quit porn in Feb of 2020.
  • Deleted all dating apps and snapchat last week.
  • Focusing on gym, family, and friends.
Results so far:
  • My dick and balls have more than doubled in size when I'm soft. Masterbating so much had my dick and balls shrivelled up. This took me 40 days of hard mode to notice this change.
  • More brain clarity, more social, have more energy to do things.
  • Got a better job, and better results in gym (drive/motivation is up).
Goals/Plan:
  • Now that I deleted dating apps and snapchat. I can do a true hard mode with no distractions.
  • Plan is to do hard mode now until I start getting morning wood. Once I get morning woods I'll persue women again.
Mental health:
  • Its been a freaking roller coaster. I have weeks where I am happy as can be. Then there is weeks like right now where I'm just so sad and negative and down in the dumps. But I just take it day by day. Its all you can do.
  • I was dating 2-3 new girls for the past 2 months. To the point I wasn't even excited to go out. It felt like a chore. I just feel so burnt out. Taking a break from everything till I get the morning woods back!
Lets get cured!
 
Thanks for the words of encouragement! Definitely will be hard to not obsess over the "is it working yet" part.

And no literally haven't had morning wood in years... after not being able to get hard with the chick for the hundredth time I tried watching porn after to see if I'm broken and the fucking dick got hard so fast. I was so fucking mad at my brain / dick... Like I had one of the hottest girls in bed with me and it was like bubble gum. Then I see an ugly chick on porn and instant hard on.... FUCK
Its because you have conditioned your brain to get aroused only when you watch porn, so normal girls dont do it for you anymore. Abstain from pmo and within weeks you will see dramatic benefits.
 
Good to see you're still going strong. Is there not any other parameters in your life you have changed recently of stuff that may have affected you?
And any progress with the morning wood so far?
Honestly just the longest flatline of my life. I feel like there's been 0 progression.
My dick is still dead. No MW.
Once a week I have a girl over where we cuddle and watch a movie but I still don't get aroused or anything.
My mentality most days are really depressed. Usually I'm a very happy person. Been tough lately. Drinking alc helps me get through it.

I used to hard-core PMO for like 15 years. I expect my recovery to be 6months-1 year at least. 90 days won't work for meee
 
Really looking forward to seeing the results of this. I get PIED, but nothing like this... I feel for you, this is a severe case. You can overcome it though.
 
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