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28 year old newbie - I want to be a MAN

Discussion in 'Rebooting in a Relationship' started by AlesaK, May 2, 2020.

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  1. May 2, 2020 #1
    AlesaK

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    In order to solve a problem, we need to admit having one.

    So here I am. 28-year-old young man, deciding to quit this crap once and for all. I admit that I had been dependent on masturbation and on porn for as long as I can remember. I want to be a better person. I want to be a MAN. I have a girlfriend that loves me and knows about my problem ... I know I'm lucky to have her by my side. But just to give you a hint of how porn messed up my mind, I was convinced that she wasn't good in bed or that her body wasn't "enough" for me; enough just being not a porn-star sort of body. I decided to quit porn for me, for her, and for our future. I've been lurking for quite a while now, but I decided to join this amazing community of Heroes to embark on a journey that will change me as a person, to become a Man.

    Tomorrow I'll be on day 30 of NoFap and I want to make it my lifelong habit - I know I can do it. It has been hard, man oh man, during these 30 days. I've been so close to relapse many times but I was able to fight the urges.

    I'm experiencing all the upsides of NoFap you guys have been talking about on this forum: from more mental clarity, to increase in creativity. Also, I started working out: I'm a pretty skinny guy and my idea is to start doing 10 abs each urge and if the urge doesn't go away, 10 push-ups, then again 10 abs, then again 10 push-ups. It may sound silly, but I found that exhaustion, complete and utter exhaustion of my body, kind of pushes away the urge to PMO or to M alone.

    I'll be here guys. On your side, anytime you want to talk. And I'll try to intervene on this forum as often as possible. We are soldiers, my friends, we are freaking Spartans covering their heads from the enemies spears, we are fighting an Enemy that is underestimated by everyone; an Enemy that the World doesn't even acknowledge as an Enemy while it destroys relationships, families, and ultimately individuals, one by one.

    Sorry for being so verbose... I probably needed to talk about this to someone. Talk to you soon,

    Alesa K.
     
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  2. May 2, 2020 #2
    Emileo Delcarme

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    Proud of you for reaching 30 days buddy. And glad to hear that you really want to change your life. Keep at it bro.

    What benefit to us is something that makes us feel ashamed? This question I ask myself about pmo.

    Also try cold showers. It really helps with urges and will power.

    Good luck on your journey brother.
     
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  3. May 2, 2020 #3
    BreakingBenjamin

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    Looks like you are on the right way, Dont give up, in the end you`ll be very happy that you fought all these urges and managed them all like the true MAN were destined to be.
     
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  4. May 2, 2020 #4
    PopularLoner

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    Fucking Spartans!!!!
     
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  5. May 2, 2020 #5
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    Welcome to the community, best of luck on your journey, anything we can assist you with let us know
     
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  6. May 3, 2020 #6
    AlesaK

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    I agree with you...
    I tried cold showers, they work too! :)
     
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  7. May 3, 2020 #7
    Kingfisher

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    Welcome! Good luck at your journey :).
     
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  8. May 5, 2020 #8
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    Hey, welcome to the NoFap community
    : )

    It's nice to see you here fighting the good fight alongside us!
    First let me go ahead and drop some helpful links for you:
    Getting Started Guide / Forum Rules / How to Use the NoFap forums/ Glossary/ NoFap Panic button/
    Set up your day counter /
    Rebooting Resources/
    Accountability groups (new!)/
    About NoFap/ Support NoFap

    Here is just some advice:
    First and foremost please take a careful look at each section in the forum, there may be something(s) you will find to be of big help to you.

    Secondly I advise you to be active on your profile(as there a few active people in the profile section). Please start by choosing an avatar and then begin posting frequent status posts to show you're active and needing support/encouragement.
    The forum has got a neat little feature that shows freshly posted statuses for all users to see.
    People will find your profile and give you support.

    There’s a portion of people who love communicating in the profile section..(it should be and is )mostly spportive talk but it doesn't hurt to deviate from supportive conversations. It would be great to have you join in and become part of the team!
    We support others in the threads, profile posts, and journals/reboot logs.
    Once you receive some support, please be sure and be grateful to the member for the help/support you received and consider giving some in return to anyone you wish.

    Thirdly, you should highly consider creating a public journal/reboot log (in the appropriate sectionfor you) to write about your days in depth for us members to follow along on your journey and offer support to you on.

    Please start your journal in the correct section and with that, also try your best to post in the correct sections as it is mandatory and would be helpful to the mods who organize the forum. : )

    Last but not least: Good luck on your journey here, make sure to really give it a try with all your heart!
     
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