29 yr_Never had a GF_PIED during sex_Time to take the problem by its horns!

Discussion in 'New to NoFap' started by I can be better_I'll be better, Jul 20, 2019.

IYO, how long you need to do nofap (PMO), to have no more PIED?

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  1. 40 days

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  2. 60 days

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  3. 90 days

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  4. 130 days

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  5. 180 days

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  6. 240 days

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  1. Hi :emoji_hand_splayed:
    New guy here. Happy this community exist!:emoji_pray:

    :emoji_pensive: The problem:
    Since my 14th i'm fapping and increased more with porn since my 17th.
    So I have trouble in social interaction and maintaining relationships.
    As I learned over time after some soulsearching this was due to Porn and Fapping.

    1. Due to brainfog my memory is shit now and when in conversation with old friends, I can't remember lot of key moments we experiences together.

    2. Due to anxiety, I never really was there in the moment with others, and over time I didn't develop the same social skills my peers have.
    Because of my lack of social skills, anxiety and low self-esteem I never had a girlfriend.

    3. And all the times I got to have sex, I had trouble with PIED.

    :emoji_relieved: Turning point:
    - I realized my mind is overstimulated. Now when I'm think about it in hindsight when I got tipsy/ drunk when going out, I was countering my overstimulated mind.
    Then I was present in the moment and had some really amazing memories with friends. But I also had lots of brainfog due to to much drinking and this is just not sustainable longterm.

    - Last year I came in contact with the nofap idea. I gave it a try. And I reached a no PMO streak of 4 weeks. This was the first time since my first fap I achieved this! And I was in a state where I was naturally more present, less anxious, where I'am genuine grateful to be alive. A state where I'm happy of 'being', instead of going after things that think will make me happy. A state where I found inner peace but also the driver of self-motivation. This streak was the real eye-opener! Some of my friends even mentioned I was more open and more talkative.
    > unfortunately, i set a goal to fap after 4 weeks as a reward. But this was a mistake. I went to old habits. I know now Porn and Masturbation can never be the reward...

    :emoji_punch: Goal: Trust the Process

    my goals:
    - no PMO 90 days
    - learning more social skills by reading more and practicing in real life

    Personal goals I already mastered (to minimize stimuli):
    - Morning cold shower
    - I don't have TV/Netflix
    - Facebook deleted
    - Instagram 5 min attention reminder

    This is me
    If you took the time to read my story, thanks a lot!
    What was your reason/goal to start your journey?



    The people I interact with deserve better
    I can be better, I will be better.
     
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  2. Tiger uppercut!

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    Hello and welcome! :)

    We are glad to have you as a part of our community. Here are some quick links to get you started.

    Getting Started Guide | How to Use the NoFap Forums | Panic Button|Day Counter | Rebooting Resources|Forum Rules | Glossary

    If you wish to keep a journal of your progress you can do so in the appropriate section found here

    There are plenty of wonderful, friendly and knowledgeable people here to help you along on your journey to a life free of PMO. I wish you nothing but the best!
     

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