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Discussion in 'Events & Challenges' started by Philosophical_Dad, Oct 11, 2019.
Nothing special to say about today...it's been a good day, that's all
Today's been a great day! I did a walk in the woods with my girlfriend for the first time in two months and.... I know, a walk is nothing special, but it sounded to me like a wonderful experience to do with my gf after so much time!
today's been bad: i can't concentrate on anything.... I saw a movie but nothing more. Moreover this morning I was very closer to edging, so..... yeah, very bad day.
Broke down over the week-end. Once in eight days is a little more than I'd prefer but not terrible. Better than I was doing before NoFap.
You'll only get better from here on. The important is never losing your goal: detroy your addiction. No matter how long it takes, as long as you never give up
Today I edged. Not exactly on P pics/videos, but still 3x material. Sorry @Philosophical_Dad , I failed you.
Should I restart a new challenge or I should put 21/30 (so my streak remain the same, less this day)?
Haha, I definitely wouldn't put it like that. You went 21 straight days without porn--more, actually, since you didn't even use P pics/vids. Isn't that much better than before? I'd call that success. We can't let the perfect be the enemy of the good.
As for how to number it--totally up to you! Maybe see if you have any sense of which approach might work best going forward.
Thanks for your comment, @Philosophical_Dad ! Unfortunetly I've relapsed today too, so I think for me it's better to start a new fresh challenge.
I start doubting if my desire to trasngress sexually is an induced-PA effect or if simply part of sexual nature. I've very little experience in sex field, but still....
What do you think, @Philosophical_Dad ? Do you ever wish you were doing something sexually insane (like, for example, going in a Club Prive or something similar...)?
Tbh, most of my fantasies are fairly vanilla. But I don't see anything wrong with "insane" fantasies. Nor do I have any issue with "insane" sex acts as long as they're consensual and no one's getting hurt. These are just my personal sexual ethics. For me, the problem with internet porn is that it's constantly available and the variety is endless. This often leads to over-use, which takes time away from more meaningful activities and worsens real-world romantic relationships. My guess (I could be wrong!) is that it will be hard to control what fantasies pop into your mind. What you may have more control over is how you react to those fantasies (for example, do they keep you on porn sites late into the night when you should be sleeping).
I relapsed yesterday too. But honestly, 11/13 days without porn is pretty good as far as I'm concerned.
Thank again. After relapsing for two days I'm feeeling fresh and ready to start a new challenge. I thought about my fantasies and I've come to the conclusion that I should avoid them even if they're part of my sexual interests. Going in a privé would mean cheating on my GF and I don't want that...
Ok I wasn't really ready... I relapsed today too
Definitely makes sense. I think it's generally (maybe not always) best not to do sexual stuff our significant others wouldn't like without their knowledge.