This is my 30 day review of NoFap. Before I started this journey I have never seriously tried to quit. I started this journey alone and unintentionally when I realised I was heading towards 7 days of NoFap. When I reached 7 days I decided to use my own willpower and focus to try for 14 days. This second week was the absolute hardest and 14 days was the longest I’d ever managed before (but even this was only due to travelling and no real use of willpower). By the end of my second week I knew I would fail.. perhaps I was subliminally intending to reward myself with a Fap at the end of 14 days and this was what was getting me through. I knew I needed to do more to overcome this. This was the gear change for me, I opened up to the NoFap community. Having access to a forum of likeminded people in similar situations to mine really helped. I picked up some techniques to deal with my urges and was able to focus on fighting each and every one day by day. Through weeks 3 and 4 I managed my urges well and things were never as bad as the end of my second week. Reflecting back on the past 30 days I am so glad to have overcome the first two weeks and comparing that to the following two weeks I have to say things have gotten easier and more manageable. Things that have worked for me. You will have heard these all before but this combination below has set me up in a routine and I can implement one or all of them to get over any urges now. An Accountability Partner. This is the single biggest difference I made this journey from any feeble attempts I have made to quit before. I know I am lucky to have found an AP at the same stage as me with similar interests and goals. We speak everyday and he’s always there to chat on the phone if we need to talk. Just having someone there to share my journey with has really helped me open up about my problem and I know we are helping each other through this journey. I can be 100% honest with him and tell him everything about any troubles. Exercise. Sounds simple enough but whenever I get a strong urge at home, I have learnt to just stop what I’m doing and workout. Even if it’s just a set pushups it can really take away urges. I am currently treating this as a punishment for getting these urges but this is a real area of refocus that will turn into a positive part of my routine. Cold showering. For the past 3 weeks I have been cold showering daily. Sometimes I’m pumped to blast myself with cold water to suppress an urge I’ve got but some days I do dread going under the water. It’s been a good punishment to any urges I get and I feel really good after showering. I sometimes follow a cold shower with a warm one, for the main aim of making myself extra clean. I find cold showers do not make me feel as clean as a normal one. It’s also like a little reward for myself if I’ve had a good day. Meditation. I would say this has been the least beneficial of the techniques I use but I have been meditating every morning and it’s now become part of my routine. I was never a big believer in meditation but it has gotten easier the longer I’ve done it. The app I use is called Balance, they gave me a free year subscription which I’m taking advantage of. They have a specific meditation set for breaking habits and they focus on urges. If I have a really strong urge and nothing else is helping I put that on and listen. The technique used in that meditation is to acknowledge that you have an urge (which I was worried about doing seeing as I was close to busting a nut whilst listening). But the key is to acknowledge the urge, give it attention (no hands obviously) and I just tell my brain why I’m not giving into this urge. It takes real focus but it’s weird how it actually works and the urge just goes away. I wouldn’t trust this technique in isolation but if I have nowhere else to turn this can really help. The obvious things like keeping busy help too but these 4 things have been the main things I’ve focussed on over the past few weeks. The longer I keep to these points the easier they become part of my routine and help me on my journey. Moving forward. My focus is now going to be on the next 30 days. I still think it’s important to have these short term goals in mind on my journey to a full reboot. I ultimately refocus of my urges onto positives in my life which can replace the need for fapping. I definitely think I am getting there with this. Increased physical activity and working out has become a good distraction from my urges and is being built into part of my routine. I shall be exercising more and getting out and about on my bike more in the next 30 days. We currently in lockdown here in the UK and I am a furloughed worker so I have a lot of free time to fill. I am starting to look into investing and any potential gains I can make in the markets. I’m at the very early stages of this but hoping it will give me another focus during lockdown and while I’m out of work. My longer term aim, and I suppose the honest reason I want to focus on this reboot, is to move towards dating again. I am not in the right frame of mind to move onto this yet and luckily the lockdown is helping me resist any urges here as I am not thinking about or meeting any new women. Ultimately I am looking forward to getting into a healthy sexual relationship that doesn’t involve any PMO on my part. Once I get to 90 days, the lockdown has hopefully eased and my mind is reset I hope to focus on this goal. Other points I would note at this stage. Still not had a wet dream on this journey. I was conscious of one or a few to come during my first 30 days but nothing has materialised. I have become less and less concerned about having one now and will just accept it if it happens. Physically my body has changed due to more exercise. During this journey my energy levels have increased noticeably which has helped build up my routine. My hair seems to be fuller and thicker. My skin has gotten healthier and smoother. My junk now feels replenished and in good condition too. Mentally I am now in the frame of mind where I know I am not going to quit and everyday is just another notch closer to a full reboot and better way of living. PMO is just not an option for me and it’s just a matter of time. A recent development for me was an urge to fap, I imagined how I would actually feel if I did it and the thought made me feel really dirty. I just couldn’t imagine myself going through with it after this thought. I think it was a sign that my brain is finally starting to move away from any short term benefit of fapping and I am realising the long term gain of removing this habit from my life. It will be interesting for me to see how my management of urges will be once I am back into my normal routine of working and socialising (I’m hoping that will be soon). I am hoping that with less free time stuck indoors I should be able to manage my urges even better. Finally. This has really helped me reflect on my current position and where I want to go. I know I still have a long way to go but I hope I have inspired you guys to join me on this journey too! Feel free to ask me any questions about my experience. Stay strong guys!