30 day success

Discussion in 'Success Stories' started by Milind, Sep 1, 2015.

  1. Milind

    Milind Fapstronaut

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    Hi guys i am day 30 today.after a period of 3 months i have come to this strek.my previous best was 54 days in may 2015.i am thankful to NoFap community for this.otherwise i could mot last this long.this 30 days have been very difficult for me.i was on the verge of relapse many times.but i did not relapse though i watched porn here and there.withdrawal symptoms were very tough.somehow i managed to overcome them.some days were good while others were very tempting.i was starting to see the benefits but as i stumbled on porn during the last few days i was back to my previous self.though i did not masturbate but i was edging continuously and this made me feel like loser again. I advice everyone not to edging.edging is very bad.it is exciting to the brain.that is why once we edge we want to do that again.on 27 i edged and then continued for the next 4 days.this made me realise how powerful this addiction can be.as maria robinson said in one of articles it is like playing with fire.i promise not to edge again.but time and again my mind goes to there.one thing leads to other and eventually i fall back on porn. Now i have uderstood why i have not been able to do NoFap.it is because i was still viewing porn and its substitutes during my streaks.i have to completely eliminate porn so that i can be free.during my porn viewing i realise that while watching porn we lost our reason and logic and want to just gratify our urge.during that moment we are not in control of ourselves and that is why we relapse.therefore it is necessary to completely avoid porn.we see a woman being fucked and we feel like fucking her but in actually she is being kissed,her body is being kissed and fucked by another man and not by us. But our stupid brain thinks that we are fucking her.but she is being fucked hard by another man.he is the alpha and we are the beta.we are the loser and we will not get to touch her in real life and infact we are making our life worse.we are doing self rape by watching porn because its negative effects can be devastating. Also i want to say that fapping causes many deficiency in us in terms of knowledge ,personality,confidence etc.my confidence has been shatered due to excess fapping.because it brings guilt and shame and i am not able to make eye contact with anyone.
     
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  2. GorNite

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    All the best ahead, bro!
    Really, it enters with a needle and comes out as plow. Retracing becomes an issue! I think we need some strong physical exercise,meditation or introspection in the moment of high dopamine.
    Also, focusing on my goals and giving some other healthy break also had helped me in past.
     
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  3. Milind

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    Thanks bro i wull follow your advice
     
  4. Real_OGH

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    "my confidence has been shatered due to excess fapping" that's so true. I have 0% confidence cause of fapping :(
     
  5. GorNite

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    You don't have to see the whole staircase, Just take your first step!! - A famous adage!
     
  6. sirfapstinence

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    @Milind not to discourage you but in order to reboot you need to do this hardmode. Not fapping won't be enough. What we're all struggling here with is porn addiction and the high you get from the release of dopamine everytime that you view something sexually exciting. It's that dopamine release which is equally detrimental if not more than fapping. So unless and until you quit porn completely, just not fapping is only half the battle won.
     
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  7. Keemo

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    You will get it back. And if we succeed on this journey, not only will our confidence be back, but I believe it will be even stronger than ever because we would have EARNED it with our sweat and tears.

    Be strong, brother!
     
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  8. Asgardian36

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    Wow man! You could not have been any more precise than that! Continue your present streak, which started on my B'day lol!
     
  9. KUSH89

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    Absolutely true bro,,the observation is exactly true..we have to shackle our bonds to be free.
     
  10. Vadel79

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    Very good! It's almost the same time for me!
     
  11. sirfapstinence

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    I just want to remind everyone that it's important that you spend sometime on yourbrainonporn.com to really understand what it is you're struggling with. There is evidence to show that MO isn't as destructive as porn itself. Not that I'm advocating that guys should MO but so far, guys have shown a decline in sexual performance when ONLY exposed to P without MO however the same was not true the other way around.

    You could be watching porn throughout your 90 day reboot and not touch your dick but you're still lighting up the same neural pathways and giving the brain it's dopamine kick which is where the addiction really comes into play. Also, anything that excites you sexually, even if it's non-nude images click after click but gives you a sexual high and creates fantasies is enough to give you the dopamine rush. So really it comes down to - if she's real then go for it but if it's fake or on screen no matter how 'harmless' just walk away. You're not going to heal if you continue to do so and that's what makes this hard. Not impossible but extremely hard, yet doable. You just have to be persistent.
     
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