30 days - smashed it

Discussion in 'Rebooting - Porn Addiction Recovery' started by ifthisislove, Jul 17, 2015.

  1. ifthisislove

    ifthisislove Fapstronaut

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    I'm only a third of the way through my 90 day challenge, but if you told me a few months ago that I could abstain from PMO for half of those days, I'd have laughed at you.

    But here I am - 30 days. I have had urges come in waves and peaks but I've managed for the most part to subside them without even edging. There have been tests, there have been tribulations and there have been girls wearing and leaving little to my imagination in my day-to-day life whilst walking the streets. I have peeked a little on social media by accident once or twice and I edge didn't whatsoever. The whole point of this exercise was to stop PMO and this is just another step in the right direction.

    Now I don't want people barking at me at comments below being like 'Oh you peeked you gotta reset' because anyone I find bringing me down like that, doesn't deserve a bit of success that comes their way. Let me remind you all that we're here to support one another. This is not a competition, nor is it a place for egos.

    But I digress - I feel great, have a positive vibe, loads of energy and have bags of confidence. I've not felt like this in years! And I hope that the best is yet to come.
     
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  2. Saoirse

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    You're a few days ahead of me - let's keep it that way! :)
     
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  3. ifthisislove

    ifthisislove Fapstronaut

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    Try and catch me....if you can.. ;)
     
  4. feo1966

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    In regards to seeing girls on the street, here is one thing to try.

    Try looking away from girls. Do NOT stare at their behind after they walk by. Force yourself to not ogle even real women.

    I find this "keeps me on my toes" for not falling for triggers. It is sort of like training the mind to automatically look away from triggers. So if you see a sexy ad on facebook, you have sort trained you mind to avert your eyes.

    I am find that this helps stop the cycle of escalation. (sexy girls on street --> Sexy google images ---> Sexy videos on youtube --> P ---> M ---> O)

    Although it is normal for a normal man to look at women, for us it is a small trigger. It's like a cocaine addict seeing something that reminds him of cocaine. That little reminder may escalate to using drugs.

    Oh.... and congratulations on your streak
     
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  5. ifthisislove

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    Thanks Feo, I intend to take your advice on board.

    I should at this point say that I nearly faltered today, not because I was outside but rather because I spent all day indoors. Or rather, all day in my room. The devil makes work for idle thumbs it would appear. I know what very nearly went wrong today and I plan to rectify this by getting out of the house tomorrow morning as quickly as I can.

    As for being outside, averting my gaze to the female figure is the next step. I have a particular thing for a particular part of the body which makes it doubly difficult. Or to put it another way, to look at dat ass tho. Sorry.

    And thanks for congratulating me too.
     
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  6. Gsmith93

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    Congrats man that's a big step Im on day 8 and I already feel better I hope I can make it to day 30. I felt the same way about how u said you would have laughed if somone told u that u could do that. And iv been doing what the guy said about looking away from girls and it helps I catch my self slip but It just makes me try harder.
     
  7. ifthisislove

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    It wasn't so long ago that I made a post here stating 'I managed 4 days'. From there I kicked on and did 8 to 10 to 18 and now a 31 day streak. I will keep saying the following until I go insane: it is all a process. Heck, I'm not even expecting to go to 90 days to be honest. I have zero expectations. I just do it and see where it all leads.
     
  8. Gsmith93

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    I feel that way to ifthisislove bout how I don't expect my self to do the 90 days but like u said it's a process and everyday is a new day. Anything can happen
     
  9. Saoirse

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    Wednesday is going to be my Day 30. Sounds easy - but I know I will tell myself 'NO' a lot during the next four days.
     
  10. Masquerade

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    Well Said
     
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  11. Saoirse

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    Three hours away from 30 Days. Same as the first three hours: keep your mind on the goal.
     
  12. Chintan

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    Well done brother. i am on day 9 and i am determined to not watch porn again. it doesnt matter you peeked as you see nudity almost everywhere (media, billboards, music videos, movies). the thing is to train your mind not to have a dopamine rush while watching all these. the point of rehabilitation is that if somebody puts a drug in front of you which you were addicted to and not use or take it.

    People who demotivate you are bunch of egoistic turds. the point is that you feel happy and determined. Rest can all eat ass.

    Keep going and keep supporting one another.

    Peace
     
  13. Awesome work! You've likely seen the worst as far as urges go. Just don't get over confident and let your guard down, keep doing everything you've done to get this far and should be able to keep right on going. (And yeah def don't even think about edging)
     

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