So, as of about 2 hours ago, I'm now officially past the 30 day mark. Prior to this my streaks only typically lasted a week because I basically went the "NoFrequentFap" route rather than trying to avoid PMO for any longer period. This time I decided to do things differently, and in this thread I'll deal with the results of that. So first thing's first, let's deal with how I managed to reach 30 days. Prior to this streak, I reached 8 days, and then reset, so how did I get a whole 22 days further this time? Simple: Accountability. I made myself publicly accountable by starting my journal here at NoFap.com. Prior to this I had no journal and so the only person judging my results was me, and I was always good at convincing myself I had a reason to reset. This time I knew I'd not just be letting myself down, but the people reading my journal too. I also told some of my friends about NoFap along with my day count, so that I'd know that if I reset they'd know when I mentioned my new day count. Large goals. There was a study my friend informed me about, where kids were all given some time to learn an instrument, and they were all split into different groups. One group of the kids committed to learning the instrument for a month, another group for a year, and another group for life. The group who committed for life, were able to better learn to play the instrument in less than 1/30th of the time that it took for the other groups. The same principle applies to NoFap, if you make a long commitment, it's easier to go further with it. So I set myself a 90+ day goal. Finding other things to do. The number one cause of PMO isn't temptation or desire, it's boredom. Most people these days are bored. We live in a world full of instant gratification, so if something isn't constantly feeding us those nice little dopamine hits, we get tired of it quickly. As a result, we then turn to PMO, drugs, and other vices to try to retain that fix. So in order to avoid PMO, you need to find yourself new healthy habits to keep yourself busy. For me it was a lot of working out, meditation, facing my anxiety, books, and a little video games. Having an emergency plan. Urges are temporary. They arise in an instant, and they only usually last 2-3 minutes at most, rarely ever longer, but what gets us with urges is that we typically don't wait them out, and act impulsively as soon as they arrive. So I had to have a plan to allow me to ride out urges until they faded. For me this involved deep breathing, laying down, or distracting myself with comedy on YouTube, or in a worst case scenario, imagining terrible violence and other disgusting things that would completely turn me off and kill any urges in a heartbeat. Blocking porn. I see a lot of people on here saying they want to get serious, but then they won't even block porn. If you're trying to stop watching porn, you have to block it, simple as that. It's not like if you decide a few months down the line that you want to watch some porn with your girl or something and that it's okay, that you're going to struggle because of the blocker - no, they're easy to uninstall. The point is that they provide a much needed barrier during those times of urges, that the uninstall process itself will take longer than the urge itself will usually last, meaning you have a chance to see what you're doing and stop yourself before it's too late. For me rather than K9 or anything of the sort I simply added all of the porn sites I use to a block in my hosts file. Seeing the other side. I learned a lesson about addiction a long time ago. As an ex drug addict, I quickly learned that addiction can only truly be beaten by finding something new and positive that you care more about than the habit you're trying to remove. Trying to simply run from a habit, full of guilt, shame, and regret, will get you nowhere. You'll have a lapse of momentary weakness, and you'll be back at it again in no time. No, to truly quell a habit, you need to see the "light at the end of the tunnel", some bright future that simply leaves no room for that habit, that you love even more than your hate for the habit. For me with NoFap, this was confidence and the ability to socialise easier, since I've always had trouble with severe social anxiety. Alright so now that we've dealt with how I made it to the 30 day mark. How did it go? Was it worth it? Was it hard? Let's talk about all of that. How difficult was the process? Honestly, the first week was one of the hardest weeks of my life. It's funny, along the NoFap process, I've told a lot of other people about NoFap, and many of them find the idea silly, but when asked how long they could go without PMO, most of them would agree that even 24 hours would be a difficult feat. PMO really does have quite the death grip of its own on us, and it can be very hard to shake. The first week was really quite hard indeed, but because I had my journal and didn't want to tell you all that I slipped up and didn't even make the 8 days I'd made prior this time, I forced myself to stick through it. After the first week was up, things gradually got easier, and honestly here at the 30 day mark, I rarely think about actual PMO. My sex drive is through the roof, and I'd totally be down for real sex right now, but P or MO? No thanks, not on the menu right now. Was there anything negative during the process? Anything that perhaps made NoFap not worth it? Honestly for me the only thing even close to being a negative about the whole process is that I'm a naturally really flirty person and so I had to watch myself on the arousal front and be careful it didn't lead to PMO urges. That's about it, and I'm not sure if I should really even consider that a negative since it gave me more self control. What can be done to get more out of the process? Well, I'm big on details and information. In my past as a drug addict, I was also quite the drug nerd. I studied their pharmacology intently, I could tell you the interactions any of the drugs I tried had with different receptors or systems in the brain, or how they were metabolised. Information for me was a mental turn on, I liked knowing how things worked, and using that to get the most out of something. NoFap was no different in that regard, I read all the studies done on abstaining from masturbation/O, and on sexual exhaustion, porn addiction etc - and using them I formulated a plan. You see, orgasm is a funny thing, because it's actually very similar to that old addiction of mine, opiates. Opiates provide a brief glimpse of a pain free world, but in return, they cause a whole host of side effects, one of which is damage to your androgen system (your testosterone etc). Orgasm, also releases an opiate, beta-endorphin, one of your brain's natural opiates. So it too, causes trouble for your androgen system, and basically down-regulates the androgen receptors, meaning even if you have naturally high testosterone levels - there are less places for that testosterone to bind and take effect, making it less effective. So, NoFap will help allow those receptors to recover, but was there more I could do? Well as someone who works out, I'm well aware of different supplements used to help your body produce testosterone. "ZMA" is one of the most popular, it's a combination of three basic vitamins: Zinc, Magnesium, and B6, that are all involved in the process of testosterone synthesis. If you're deficient on any of those, your testosterone levels will suffer, so I supplemented with those throughout the whole process. I also added D3 and Calcium to that stack, for similar reasons as both have also been shown to help with testosterone levels. Then finally, I added an interesting plant to the mix. Tribulus Terrestris. It's infamous in bodybuilding circles because of a study that was done that found that it didn't elevate testosterone levels in people, and so after that point its reputation suffered. However I've done my research, and the primary use of protodioscin, the active component of Tribulus, is not to directly raise testosterone, but to increase expression of androgen receptors, where that testosterone binds. In other words, it directly promotes healing of the same system damaged by PMO - when I realised that, I had to add it to my stack, and it has certainly helped the healing process along. I've also worked out roughly 6 days a week, made sure I ate plenty of good fats and good cholesterol (as a veggie, this basically meant: eggs, heaps of eggs), since both help with testosterone levels, took cold showers, and more recently, started intermittent fasting (eating all my meals in an 8 hour window each day, and then going 16 hours without food). What about the pros? Did NoFap have any benefits? Well wow, where do I even get started? If you read my journal linked in my signature, you can see the differences from post to post. Day 1 I rated my energy level a 5 out of 10, but by a couple of weeks in, I was already getting to the point where my 1-10 scale was no longer sufficient for the increased levels of energy I was feeling, as they were way beyond what I'd have previously rated as a 10. I eventually just had to scrap the scale entirely because my energy levels got so high. Perhaps one of the most noticeable of all the effects was the clear-headedness. I saw a lot of people talking about PMO causing brain fog, but I really didn't know what anyone meant, until I saw first hand just how much clearer my thinking got after abstaining from it a while. A few days ago, I had a brief moment where I woke up in a brain fog, and I quickly realised that was exactly how I felt during my PMO habit.. and suddenly I could see just how far I'd came. The brain fog is not only clouding the thoughts, but it also made me feel like some anxious shy little rodent wanting to hide away from the world in the walls somewhere. Now I feel like a lion. Health-wise, NoFap pushed me to workout much harder than I'd ever done before, since the renewed energy and drive made me push myself to my limits. I also started eating healthier and tracking my protein and calories. So in my time on NoFap, I've lost around 4-5lbs+ of fat, and put on muscle too. My willpower muscle has also grown in that time. I still remember back when addicted to drugs, that addiction had such a hold over me that I was convinced I'd be stuck with it for life. After beating it, the sheer willpower I gained from such a feat, completely turned all areas of my life around, and turned me from someone going nowhere, to someone finding success in every avenue. For me part of NoFap was once again about flexing that willpower muscle and helping it to grow. I've gained a lot of self control, and become better at the things I do. I teach self-improvement/self-development stuff via YouTube and written books etc, and one thing I noticed is that I'm able to work harder and better at that now, because I have more self control. I've cleaned up my appearance. This one is a weird unexpected side effect of NoFap. I'd been growing my hair for around 8 years, and after conquering my drug addiction I was left with such a high level of social anxiety that I couldn't even get myself to the hairdressers to finally get it cut. My hair was unhealthy, looked bad, and needed a change. Shortly after starting NoFap I summoned the courage to get it cut, and I look much better as a result. I genuinely like seeing myself now when I'm editing my videos etc, whereas before I didn't. I have more natural vitality. I mentioned just now seeing myself in my videos as I'm editing them, and one of the more noticeable things for me is that I just seem so much more "alive" in my newer videos recorded while doing NoFap. In my latest video, I recorded the whole thing while I was really nervous about some IRL things, and I thought I was going to be looking all glum and down - and I looked at the video and I looked happier and more alive than even the most energetic of videos I'd recorded in the past, and this was me during a "low" part of the day - so it goes without saying during the high parts I appear to have even more vitality. By far perhaps the most important benefit, is what NoFap did for my anxiety. I mentioned earlier the "light at the end of the tunnel" anyone looking to conquer any bad habit needs, and for me this was the idea of conquering my social anxiety once again. Now I can't say NoFap is a miracle cure, my social anxiety is still there, and there's a long journey still to be had, but I have made some major leaps and bounds in this last month towards that goal. For one, that trip to get my hair cut. Two, I forced myself to go out to the bars and clubs, spoke to strangers, and have a good time socialising. Yesterday, I also faced a perhaps even greater part of my social anxiety: phone calls. I dread phone calls like an animal dreads the slaughterhouse. It's irrational and silly, but I find it much harder to talk to someone over Skype or the phone than I do face to face, just thinking about it makes me queasy. Yesterday I was in a Skype call with a new friend for a good 5-6~ ish hours total over multiple calls and I felt genuinely comfortable talking to her and had a great time. Then there's magnetism. I read the reports about this before, but genuinely I thought it was just people kidding themselves. You know which reports I mean, the ones where people said after going on NoFap suddenly all the ladies were turning their heads and giving them attention. I never thought I'd be the one to be confirming this effect, but well, I am. When I went out to the club no NoFap, it really felt like I was in some AXE commercial, I got up on the empty dance floor, and just by being there and dancing I was soon surrounded with 5-6 hot girls who were ALL trying to dance with and talk to me. Female friends gave me more attention and indicators of interest during conversations. I was naturally more flirty and seductive. NoFap, or the retention of that sexual energy, certainly does wonders for your personal magnetism. As a little last side note, although I guess maybe this could be slightly triggering to some so just in case **SLIGHT TRIGGER WARNING** - NoFap of course increased the size of my balls since they were full the whole time, but interestingly I also experienced a significant increase in the size of my penis when flaccid, along with a significant increase in girth while hard. I also had new patches of hair spring up around my body, random boners all day like when I was a teen. The effects on my testosterone system were quite noticeable, particularly after I added in the Tribulus. So to summarise: NoFap helped me face my anxiety, get more attention from the ladies, be more confident, have more energy, workout harder, lose fat, gain muscle. In this last month I've experienced a lot of growth. It's been quite the journey. I highly recommend others to take up the challenge, at least for a month, you won't regret it, I guarantee it.