309 days Understand female nature to overcome PMO

Exactly, if you wait for another person to make you complete, that’s the very definition of codependency...
I am complete, I am happy on my own, I enjoy my life anyway and a women in my life will be a person to share the good stuff, but i don’t need nobody

 

This is really a great post and at the core of my real problem, but I’m wondering how to not see them as you’re mentioning “angels” are there any steps? I tried many times but I couldn’t stop seeing them as normal people as me , it’s really difficult for me if not impossible, I’m really struggling with that more than with PMO

 

I've been seeing a lot of your posts lately brother, thank you for sharing your wisdom in this forum. I learn something each time I read your posts.

 

I agree. The more time I spend in recovery circles the more I realize women need to get into this recovery thing just as much as us men. Sometimes for the same things, but often for different things.

It's not just about quitting porn or sexual deviancies, it's about becoming people who are loving, joyful, kind, self controlled, hard working, focused, ourselves, etc.

 

Agree 100% and very well said.
One of the best 'underrated' benefits of nofap

 

Below is one of the best advice I ever got when I was younger and would put women on a pedastool all the time. I still remind myself of it, if I get carried away. May it enlighten ya.

Just remember she shits, farts and barfs just like you and everyone else.

 

I totally agree with what are you saying. It seems that we, as men, are more likely to worship opposite gender. That is all consequence of fapping, becouse we f.cked up our brains so hard that we can't clearly see this fact.
I'm not saying that there shouldn't be important women in our lives, but we should give our attention and we should share our love with one's who really and truly care about us. I don't think that promiscuity is right answer too.
Just live your life and enjoy every single breath, learn new language, travel as much you can, share love with people, fill your karma with good deeds, new things, new people and kindness, don't sleep around, dont drink alcohol or do drugs and of course don't you dare to fap haha.

 

congrats dude

 

Also understand that men themselves (men ourselves) aren't all sunshine and rainbows. We are not special in any way. Society will completely distort you in this respect. Women have a hell of a time dealing with grown up children. That is, unfortunately, what P addicts are. We are grown up children (I am in this as well). As an addict the best thing you can do is look within yourself to find a better state of mind, completely. It is noble to want to be in a relationship, but it is an act of great care to make sure that you will not be a problem to any women that you might start one with.

The only difference between a man and a women, fundamentally, is that one has a penis and the other a vagina. You are just one organ away from being a woman, and vice versa.

Some responses are just taking the original post (which is paramount indeed!) a little too far. Calm down, relax, be humble. You still have work to do.

 

Great to see this post. Yes, we should love women in our life with utmost sincerity and respect them. Seeing women as objects of desire is the root of the problem. Our evolutionary mind is fooled by advertisers and marketers where every product is sold with the help of a glamorous lady. We need to see that women are much beyond and much above that..

 

thats a simple yet profound thought man, to let go of the looks when with a girl. Its not easy.