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30day challenge but 1 major problem!

Discussion in 'Rebooting - Porn Addiction Recovery' started by Aran, Sep 4, 2015.

  1. Aran

    Aran Fapstronaut

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    Hey guys.
    Im gonna try again to hit 30 pmo free days. My personal record is 17 days.
    I'm gonna keep a journal so you can keep an eye on me.

    But there's one major problem.
    After I pmo there is no shame, no guilt, no insecurity, nothing.
    So there is no wake up call.
    And on top of that I am a person who sees everything brighter then they really are. So I do not ackowledge that I have a real issue and that to me is bad.
    Is it that i have become numb to the shame feeling because i pmo so much? Is it a lost cause?


    I want to stop and start building a pmo free life!

    Aran
     
  2. Icyweb

    Icyweb Fapstronaut

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    It probably is because you are desensitized to the feelings of regret. Don't waste time trying to shame yourself though, that just leads to depression and self hate, which lead back to pmo. You need to forgive yourself, not tell yourself what a terrible person you are. You're here, so obviously you know that pmo is bad. What do you see as the worst parts of it? How does it negatively impact your life and the lives of those around you? Even when you don't feel shame you have your thoughts and mind to tell you it's wrong.
    Try sitting down and thinking about these things. Develop a mental list you can recite whenever you feel urges. Maybe even write the list down.
    There's no such thing as a lost cause, especially when it comes to yourself.
    Good luck.
     
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  3. JoeinUSA

    JoeinUSA Fapstronaut

    Okay, disregarding any absence of shame, guilt, or insecurity - believe it or not, these may not be required - Is there anything else that makes you want to quit? Does the whole shitty thing disgust you in any way? There has to be some aversion somewhere, else you'd be fine with it and not want to quit. Can you articulate this?

    I'm actually of the opinion that one cannot really quit this addiction unless one grows to find it truly disgusting (making one want to vomit even):

    See my comments that I just posted on another page at:

    http://www.nofap.com/forum/index.php?threads/journal-of-the-boz.46392/

    And, actually, just becoming numb to guilt and shame might be another good disgusting reason to add to the list.

    Best wishes, guy!
     
  4. Aran

    Aran Fapstronaut

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    Thanks!
    Making a list like you said is a really good idea and i am sure gonna try it!
    Thanks for the support
     

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