31 days completed as of yesterday!!A true upgrade in my life❤️

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  1. Power zeke

    Power zeke Fapstronaut

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    A small note: I would feel really happy if you go through the entire post slowly and provide your feedback/comments. ❤️

    History - First encounter with porn and other effects:

    Even though I watched porn from my teenage(maybe 17) I have never masturbated until I'm 20, I still remember the first time I ejaculated, one evening I was on my bed seeing porn in my hostel room and it just happened. As it is the first time I have done it like 5 times that night itself. Soon got addicted to it and fast forward 3 years I went to a point where I think of sex when I see most girls.

    My initial experiences with NoFap - A complete failure:

    I first tried it 2 years ago(don't remember exactly), I was good for 26 days and then I relapsed and masturbated very frequently the next two days. I told myself all the weird reasons like this is a natural process, it's not going to be a health issue. A few months later I again tried the process and relapsed after 5 days, After a year I again tried this for the 3rd time but again relapsed after a week.

    My life in since past two years, until a month⬆️ago - A summary:

    Even though I look happy I was a very insecure person in these two years and very very insecure around girls, in most cases, I objectified them way too much. But I sincerely loved a girl for who she is but it soon became an obsession and I was betrayed by my very best friend who also started a casual relationship with her. Due to my insecurities, I was not able to accept the fact that she is not meant for me and kept obsessing over her...., one day in Nov 2021 we got into a pretty ugly fight, whatever good opinion she has of me I completely ruined it and that particular incident was completely my mistake. She declared she don't care for me and no longer want to talk to me. Moreover, she warned me(in a very serious way) to not contact her anymore. In these two years, my obsession with porn increased way too much., I masturbated way too much., started reading sex confessions on insta, started getting close to other girls not considering their character which blew back against me.

    THE FOLLOWING TWO MONTHS DEC 2021 AND JAN 2022 ARE A COMPLETE SHIT SHOW.

    Even though I got a new job, I wasn't really happy.

    My first 30-day streak- the first major success I achieved in my life :

    Honestly, It's not like I am very motivated to improve my life or become an alpha male, nothing like that by going on this nofap journey. I just started this because I want to find the answer to the below questions/thoughts. (No offence these are just my thoughts)
    1. Why? even though we decided to do something why we still could not do it?. Are my personality and mental strength that weak so that "I am not able to do something that requires no physical effort"(Think about this action is not required actually for this nofap, It's inaction that you require. (Masturbating, watching porn are actions, not doing them are inactions). So you need inaction.
    2. What?, what is the actual thing I am going to lose by trying this. I don't have a gf, I don't have any commitments whatsoever, I'm still young and got a long way to go. So what I am going to lose by doing this?
    and it was clear to me it's not a matter of motivation. I just got the clarity that there is nothing to lose here and tada!!! I am on my 31 days of the streak.

    Below are a few things I have done in these 31 days(used MDF app for tracking):
    • Disabled insta and started using LinkedIn minimally.
    • 16 mini-workouts(usually two sets of 20 jumping jacks,5pushups,5squats,5heel raises or some walking and stretching)
    • 12 Reading sessions ( started reading emotional intelligence by daniel Goleman and The invisible Gorilla by Christopher Chabris and Daniel Simons). Try to prefer some good general psychology books which give you more insight into your brain and body, unlike stupid self-help books.
    • 24 Meditation sessions (using the Headspace app). Started with the basics, a series of 10 sessions each having a 5 min duration.
    • 21 Cold showers (just plain cool water without any ice cubes).
    Also played ori and will of wisps video game(A beautiful story, give it a try)

    A list of small yet important benefits:
    1. I became very active and my energy levels increased very much.
    2. 7-8 hours of sleep feels very sufficient now. Previously I used to feel very dizzy no matter how much I slept.
    3. Interest in learning new things improved.
    4. Obsession or thoughts over girls, porn and masturbation decreased drastically(let's say 75%). I don't want to lie, I have sexual thoughts and urges sometimes.
    5. Life became a cool breeze, started to enjoy little things regularly.
    6. My discipline and efficiency improved in my job.
    Tips I have found beneficial(Some of them are thought on my own):
    1. For me between days 16-25, there are two many urges but the main tip here is "I think urges requires a huge amount of mental energy, just wait for some time, take a few slow breathes and have a glass of water. The urge will pass".
    2. Don't stress too much over 'not masturbating', 'not seeing porn'. The mind doesn't comprehend the words 'not' 'no' don't'. If you say 'don't watch porn' all you will think is porn. So focus on doing other things.
    3. Exercise helps. Think of it like this, all the energy you have been wasting masturbating, try to use it positively.
    4. Remind yourself daily why you started this journey.
    5. Don't focus tooooooo much on discipline, greek god body, alpha male stuff etc., do something you love and try to get a little active. At least wait for a month before committing to major goals. Just chill for a month!!!
    6. Don't worry that you are at a very low position right now, be happy that you have started this journey and decided to see who you can be❤️
    7. Read success stories of other NoFap users.
    8. Finally don't expect any immediate results, your years of porn , masturbation abuse won't be magically get resolved in few days or months.
    Finally, I feel really happy writing this post. The NoFap platform help me in understanding a few things about this journey.
     
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  2. BreakTheChains

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    You've done well mate. And you know what - you thinking that you failed completely reaching 26 days on your FIRST go is very interesting to me. It tells me you are full of fire when you set your mind to something, but the following rocky reattempts tell of a distrust in yourself which might suggest dwelling on past failure. These are the struggles we watch as we rise and fall again and again, and learn from over time. You're right to remind people that this will take a long time - and it is 100% worth it. Nothing great was ever done overnight, nor alone

    I myself have had to admit I had severe addiction, dark interests and very disgusting preference over porn vs real life. But, strangely - hitting 32 days myself, I barely flinched at the notion of this sombre realisation. I just said to myself "well thats life". Took it like a fucking stoic master, and that acceptance is most certainly credited heavily to NoFap practice.

    At this point NoFap is kinda If You Know You Know. And you simply won't know, until you've walked that path. Keep up the fitness, keep up the growth. Take what's yours.
     
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  3. imfireup

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    Glad to see you brother at 33 Days.
    i noted this
     
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  4. Power zeke

    Power zeke Fapstronaut

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    Thank you very much
     
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  5. Power zeke

    Power zeke Fapstronaut

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    Thank you very much
     
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  6. you_can_UK

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    you gave a lot of hope.I have been relapsing every one-two days from about more than a week.Do you think I will be able to do as you did?I am on day 2 right now.You may give me some suggestions.
     
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  7. Power zeke

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    I am not an expert I will say few things which might not be correct so please think and proceed.
    1.If you are struggling for 1-2 days and continuously relapsing.First thing to do is to write down what exactly is going on your mind.Whatever it is write it down no matter how stupid or horrible it sounds.Do this for few days instead of focusing on NoFap.Observe your writings and learn what is making you to masturbate,seeing porn repeatedly.Understanding yourself is the first step.In my case it is love failure and lot of anger.So know your reason.DO THIS DISCREETLY.
    2.) Be kind with yourself
    3.)Read some strategy on how to approach NoFap.Improvement (PILL) yt channel is a good source.If you haven't read the mini book/guide provided by the nofap website go through it.

    YOU CAN DEFINITELY DO IT.BE KIND TO YOURSELF.EMBRACE AND ACCEPT YOUR CURRENT SELF

    ✌️ ️
     
  8. breadroll

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    That's awesome bro! Here's to another 30. ☺️
     
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  9. Power zeke

    Power zeke Fapstronaut

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    Thank you
    Thank you bro!
     
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  10. Warlockchieftan

    Warlockchieftan Fapstronaut

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    I just reached my 30 days today!! Congrats on all the success to you and on the positives you are experiencing! Onwards to 90, infinity and beyond!
     
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  11. Power zeke

    Power zeke Fapstronaut

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    Thank you man✌️
     
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  12. Bonifácio

    Bonifácio New Fapstronaut

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    Nice post, congrats!
     
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  13. Power zeke

    Power zeke Fapstronaut

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    Thank you man
     
  14. warrior 4321

    warrior 4321 Fapstronaut

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    Congratulations bro and thank you for posting this story. It motivates me. Is it really worth? The benifits that you got after your nofap journey. I would like to hear your opinion. Stay safe and strong .
     
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  15. Power zeke

    Power zeke Fapstronaut

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    Thank you very much bro, One major benefit i experienced is more energy throughout the day.I also noticed other positive changes like a little calmness,doing other stuff other than fapping because of this journey.
     
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  16. warrior 4321

    warrior 4321 Fapstronaut

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    Thanks for the reply bro. All best and keep up the good work
     
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  17. ronkumar

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    Thanks for the post. What's your age now and for how long you were addicted before this 31 days streak ?
     
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  18. lord_nelson

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    Thank you for this post and replies!
    we're all worth the same, do what you really want to do
    be kind with yourself and breathe :emoji_heartpulse:
     
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  19. Power zeke

    Power zeke Fapstronaut

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    I'm 25, addicted for approximately 5 years with fapping
     
  20. Power zeke

    Power zeke Fapstronaut

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    Thank you ☺️
     
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