32 year old virgin needs help

I would stay away from bars if I were you. You're more likely to get rejected at a bar and that could really damage your self-esteem. I mean, everybody gets rejected, but when you're inexperienced it makes it so much harder. I'd recommend making an online dating profile and try meeting some girls on there. You said you've lost some weight, so I'm guessing you're exercising. Maybe lift some weights and get in really good shape. That will definitely boost your confidence. You'll gain a lot of confidence after you've lost your V-card, so I'd wait until then to go to a bar. I mean, you could go to a bar and meet a girl as soon as you get there, but I'd advise you wait.

 

Online dating can be tough for people with low self esteem and confidence. Heck it can be tough for people with high self esteem and confidence! It involves a ton of rejection, dishonest and heart break. I do not recommend it for you. What I do recommend is getting out and about in your community first, to get yourself more comfortable just being around women. Make some friends with women and that will allow you to see we are just like you, not scary at all, and you can move forward from there. Do you support a particular cause? Almost double the amount of women volunteer than men. Volunteer for a cause. Try speed dating. Look for a meet up group, join a kickball team,if you are religous attend church events. All of these will help you build up that confidence. But get out there and do it, rather than sitting at home and worrying.

 

Don't do nofap to meet women do it to enhance yourself and your life. Also try new things and different hobbies that give you fufillment other than women. If you pick up new skills you will be more confident in yourself and a more well rounded person.As for meeting women I'm still struggling with that but I'm learning that the bar isn't the most conducive place to meet women in hopes for a serious long term relationship but you can practice speaking to them there. I'm learning through trial and error but I'm not to devastated when things don't go my way because I understand this is a learning process. I find contentment and peace in improving myself and the relationships I do have right now

 

Well I have learned a thing or too in the dating world and have made a fool of myself and wasted my time and thoughts on women who were not that interested but here is a few things I learned
1. approaching women to ask them out shows enough confidence just go up and ask don't over think it with something over the top
2. If she is interested she will agree to go out with you if not she will give dumb excuses like "I don't know you that well" which means she does not want to know you
3. keep it simple remember is she likes you she could are less about your job, height, weight ,social skills, car , were you live
4. if you do get her number don't call her much before a date or at all - this was a huge mistake I used to make if she calls you before the date tell her you want to talk here about what she wants to talk about when you meet face to face at a the time and place you set up
5. if she calls last minute before a date with a dumb excuses without offering another time to meet ditch them if they don't call at least 2 hours before the date, if your already at the location on time and they don't arrive with in 15 minutes get up and leave and lose there number with cell phones that's just plain rude not call someone or text them if your running late or have an issue , if she doesn't arrive at all or never calls you know she is not interested remember if she is playing hard to get what you get isn't worth it
6. Don't talk about yourself much get her to talk about herself be a bit mysterious NOT AN OPEN BOOK
7.THE LAST BUT MOST IMPORTANT DONT HANG AROUND OR THINK ABOUT WOMEN THAT DONT LIKE YOU AS YOU ARE

STAY STRONG

 

Haha this man is spitting that real talk lol I've learned these things as well

 

It comes with going out on a lot of bad dates and learning . If it helps just one person to avoid some of the junk I put up with when I was younger then I am very happy with it

 

Well I do understand that it may seem hard but the advice I give is based on years of bad dates and wasting time on women not interested in me for me. you have to get out of your head as in regard to overthinking this
1. first women don't know your a virgin and cannot look at you and tell that , stop thinking that being a virgin is holding you back every one was once to, women cannot read minds
2. if a women likes you she does not care that you don't have the best social skills eye contact body language have the best stories or realy smooth whatever that means . what I am saying is it doesn't matter your foundation women that like you don't give a shit if your nervous run out of things to say job car living situation women that like you just agree to give there phone numbers meet you without any problems.
3 I have been there on all this I thought I had to look cool tell stupid stories tried to convice women that didn't like me to go out bascilly lie my ass off to get them to go out with me it rarely worked and then I tried to get them to like me on a date. I found out women that like me as i was I didn't have lie to look cool and confident for they didn't really care and the dates were fun and effortless find women to like you as you are
Stay Strong

 

have you read the book 'models, attract women through honesty' from mark manson? you can read it for free i think on pdf .its a very honest down to earth aproach.not pick up like. he s got a good website also , google it

 

Love , oh oh love great subject that everybody speaks their own language you know a movie called: what love is :help me understand a lot what is "love" be youre self be a good listener but just be youre self and know the kind of women you want for youre llife all i can tell you there's a lot of pain lots but is beutiful pain and stop reading books of how woman think as us they evolve learn from the source directly respect them as well luck(carefull the movie has trrigers)

 

You need to experience the world not books.

 

This is a book that motivates you to take action.and how to take action.so just reading it wont do anything thats very easy to see. yes you need to experience the real world that is quite obvious but if u have difficulties doing that just saying you need to experience the world means nothing. A book or a coach or a friend with a good perspective on this things can give u better understanding how things work and can motivate u and provide u an interesting frame from which you can take action. And it is the action that will give you the reference experiences which are the most important.

 

Nice! First of all; don’t overthink this. It’s totally okay that you don’t text her too much, because otherwise you’ll have nothing to talk about in real life. So don’t worry. Enjoy!