I met a girl at a local dentist office. She works there as an assistant to the doctor and she was very cool and nice to me. She's cute and so I decided to leave my number with the woman in the front to give to her (I'm awkward so it wasn't smooth , but so what--she called me!). This woman has a tough exterior and puts her guard up (kinda bossy) but she is very sweet to some people. I visited her yesterday evening at her 2nd job (I think she's a workaholic) which she is a manager of. She really does run the show at work but gets very bored during her downtime. So I was keeping her company and we talked for a few hours. She seems like a great woman and we actually talked about everything, including my porn addiction. Based on our conversations about the topic (particularly, failed short term relationships because of my porn addiction), she doesn't quite understand this addiction and she told me that she watches porn herself (once a week on average). She's a non-addict to porn. She'd watch it and still be a very hardworking or driven person and committed to relationships, jobs and goals. She also seems ok with just masturbating. That's not me. PMO is a drug to me; and with the chaser effect, I always succumbed to it with more porn. The social anxiety that I have oftentimes, I think I use it as a personality quirk and it somehow makes me more social but under the fapping spell, my social anxiety is a deterrent and crippling, and that part is porn-induced. Not to mention, my sexual dysfunction (PE), which I also believe is porn-induced. We touched on issues of her past relationships and it really does seem like relationships mainly ended because of an addiction (weed addiction) that her exes had. I really think porn addiction and weed addiction should be talked about more so people can be aware of the impacts and consequences it may have especially on us men as it is more common with us. Anyways, we're both bad at saying good bye because we couldn't seem to find a way to finally depart from each other as we were by our cars in the parking lot. So, she reached in to kiss me! She later apologized through text in case the kiss was too much but I'm grateful that she did that because now I know I can kiss her every time I see her haha. We are going to the movies tonight to watch Avatar 2, so I'm happy we got a lot of the talking out of the way before watching that 3 hour long movie . She's 28 (good age for me, I'm 32 although I think she is a tad bit more mature than me). No kids, which is surprising to me. Good height (she's 5'4 and I'm 5'10). And she's pretty. So I'm hoping it works as I am determined to stay rebooting. If there's any tips or advice anyone would like to give me, I'm open to it. Thank you.
Hey man! How is it going with the girl? Best tip I would say is to be yourself. From what you have said, it seems like it has been working so far. You also seem confident, which is also good! Keep it up and good luck !
Wow. You managed to talk about your porn addiction on the first date? How? And girl is still interested afterward? How? My mind is blown... congratz though. Was she was more vulnerable and revealing then you, that is the only thing I could think off that would make sense
That sounds really healthy for you to have already discussed this. Having experienced the destruction that porn can cause in my own sex life I would feel bad that my girlfriend thinks she needs to watch it. It's like if I knew a girlfriend smoked. I would feel bad that she's killing herself with the cigarettes but that's her deal. Just don't smoke in the house!
Forget the porn for a second the workaholicism is a big problem! One of my exes was a workaholic, which is why she is now my ex. It may seem not so bad at first but give it a year and you're realise how much of an awful addiction it is.
Shit man, you put it all out there so you don't have to have THAT talk. Go slow. No need to rush things. Be a gentleman. You pay for everything even if she offers or insists. Don't overthink it. She sounds like a pretty cool gal.
