33 year old - Porn addict

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  1. Day Sunshine

    Day Sunshine Fapstronaut

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    Greetings to all of you, this is my first post on Nofap, I am happy I found this website.
    I feel a little ashamed about my story, but it is good to get it off of my chest so I can start building something new.

    My porn addiction started when I was around 15 years old. This is actually the time when the society was able to use internet freely. Did not use it that often then and was a pretty shy boy till around the age of 18. Then my hormones kicked in, and I PMOed on a daily basis.

    The efffect it had on me was not to be expected. I started to become more and more someone who visited clubs and bars on a regular basis to get laid. I transformed from a shy guy to a sort of player. I was constantly looking for new babes to come along and feed my addiction. This really got out of hand. I had quite a lot of short-term relationships and one-night stands. Some lasted longer but I was never serious about it. Was always on the lookout for something new. Just like with porn websites, a new girl is one click away. Next to it I used PMO before sleeping each night, even in relationships. I really thought I was the king of the world and nothing could go wrong. Lateron in life I even started to visit prostitutes since I was hyped about sex all the time.

    Looking back, I feel pretty dissapointed with myself. In younger years I really dreamed of a family and kids and a loving relationship. Most of my friends and realtives do get to this point. Well, this is me now, 33 years old, already single for more than 6 years and mostly living at my parents place. I do have an own appartement, but I dislike the isolation it brings. Especially now the corona virus is present and we work from home. PMO did not stop, after my last relationship ended I kept on doing it since I thought that was not the problem.

    Now I have found this website, I still want to hold on to my dream. I want this porn addiction to end and I want to fall in love with someone, for real this time. This is day 0 for me. It went pretty well.

    Quite a long first post, I am glad I can tell this story since these feelings are buried inside of me for quite a long time. Thank you for reading.
     
    Last edited: May 11, 2020
  2. Welcome to the community :) glad you could join us, anything we can assist you with let us know, best of luck on your journey.
     
  3. We are happy you joined this community man. We are here to help you, and you are here to change your life. ;)

    YOU WILL SUCCEED. YOU MUST SUCCEED.
     
  4. Day Sunshine

    Day Sunshine Fapstronaut

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    Thanks for the support guys! Really appreciatie it!
     
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  5. Hey, welcome to the NoFap community
    : )

    It's nice to see you here fighting the good fight alongside us!
    First let me go ahead and drop some helpful links for you:
    Getting Started Guide / Forum Rules / How to Use the NoFap forums/ Glossary/ NoFap Panic button/
    Set up your day counter /
    Rebooting Resources/
    Accountability groups (new!)/
    About NoFap/ Support NoFap

    Here is just some advice:
    First and foremost please take a careful look at each section in the forum, there may be something(s) you will find to be of big help to you.

    Secondly I advise you to be active on your profile(as there a few active people in the profile section). Please start by choosing an avatar and then begin posting frequent status posts to show you're active and needing support/encouragement.
    The forum has got a neat little feature that shows freshly posted statuses for all users to see.
    People will find your profile and give you support.

    There’s a portion of people who love communicating in the profile section..(it should be and is )mostly spportive talk but it doesn't hurt to deviate from supportive conversations. It would be great to have you join in and become part of the team!
    We support others in the threads, profile posts, and journals/reboot logs.
    Once you receive some support, please be sure and be grateful to the member for the help/support you received and consider giving some in return to anyone you wish.

    Thirdly, you should highly consider creating a public journal/reboot log (in the appropriate sectionfor you) to write about your days in depth for us members to follow along on your journey and offer support to you on.

    Please start your journal in the correct section and with that, also try your best to post in the correct sections as it is mandatory and would be helpful to the mods who organize the forum. : )

    Last but not least: Good luck on your journey here, make sure to really give it a try with all your heart!
     
  6. invig2020

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    Welcome abroad. I am 35 and started this journey end of last month. Now I am on Day 7 which is a world record for me!

    It's definitely worth it. Have you started to identify you triggers emotional especially?
     
  7. Day Sunshine

    Day Sunshine Fapstronaut

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    Hey mate! Did not identify or experience any triggers yet. It's my first time of restricting myself from PMO. Am on day 1 now. Still stable, but triggers soon to come I think.
     
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