35 and older accountability, Group 2

Discussion in 'Accountability Partners' started by persona2903, Nov 13, 2019.

  1. Monkey Monko

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    TIL it was illegal for men to be topless on US beaches as late as the 1930's (huffingtonpost.com)

    submitted 7 months ago by shobyontogz

    [–]Boo_R4dley 1 point 7 months ago

    My grandfather was arrested for wearing a topless bathing suit when he was in his late teens or early twenties at one of the beaches in Chicago. As a kid that story was the absolute weirdest thing I ever heard.
     
  2. Monkey Monko

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    However, breasts are still considered a very sexual body part, one that is not to be shown in public. Some people have even said that it’s unrealistic for a woman to go shirtless and expect not to be sexualized, but Gary disagrees: “Objectification is just a passage, it’s just a moment enough for people to get used to [topless women].” Gary points out that women were once objectified for showing merely their ankles, and before the 1930′s not even men could go topless. In 1935 on a beach in New Jersey, 42 men were fined $82 collectively for removing the tops of their bathing suits. “Well, if men are crossing the line, why can’t the women?” Gary argues.
     
  3. Monkey Monko

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    A girl bought an iPad. When her father saw it, He asked her "What was the 1st thing you did when you bought it?

    "I put an anti-scratch sticker on the screen and bought a cover for the iPad" she replied.

    "Did someone force you to do so?"

    - "No"

    "Don't you think it's an insult to the manufacturer?"

    - "No dad! In fact they even recommend using a cover for the iPad"

    "Did you cover it because it was cheap & ugly?"

    - "Actually, I covered it because I didn't want it to get damage and decrease in value."

    "When you put the cover on, didn't it reduce the iPad's beauty?"

    - "I think it looks better and it is worth it for the protection it gives my iPad."

    The father looked lovingly at his daughter and said,

    "Yet if I had asked you to cover your body which is much more precious than the iPad, would you have readily agreed???"

    She was mute.....

    ~ Dear Girls, always do remember that, Indecent dressing and exposure of your body reduces your value and respect.
     
  4. Monkey Monko

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    PREFACE

    "^

    When I took up my studies on semen in 1944, on behalf of the

    Agricultural Research Council, I became painfully aware of the

    fact that information on the physiology of semen, its chemical

    aspects in particular, is rather difficult to come by; the older

    observations and records being hidden away in books and

    journals not readily accessible in any but the best equipped

    libraries, and moreover, scattered throughout an exceptionally

    wide range of publications, which embrace disciplines as far

    apart as say, agriculture, urology and cytology. Judging from

    numerous requests for information, received from fellow

    workers in the field, biochemists, clinicians, zoologists and

    veterinary officers alike, the absence of a fairly comprehensive

    and up-to-date treatise on the chemical physiology of semen

    must have proved a serious handicap to many in their scientific

    and practical pursuits. Therefore, I accepted gladly the invitation

    to write this book; having agreed to produce but a 'little

    book', I have often found it rather irksome to condense the

    vast mass of data into the allotted space; had it not been for

    the encouragement and ready help of colleagues—my wife not

    least among them, the task would have been even more

    burdensome.

    Biochemistry of semen is a relatively modern, but rapidly

    expanding, field of physiology; consequently, many of our

    present views, particularly as regards the biological significance

    of various chemical constituents of semen, may have to be

    revised or modified in the near future. That being so, I like to

    look upon this book, or at any rate, those parts of it which

    deal with the newer, still fluid concepts, as something in the

    nature of an Interim Report, designed to furnish information

    and to convey ideas emerging from the state of knowledge as

    available at the time of writing, however imperfect that may be.

    In presenting the recently acquired evidence, I have tried to

    render justice to developments in the sphere of mammalian as
    well as non-mammalian physiology, selecting examples from

    species as far apart as man and the sea-urchins, and occasionally,

    introducing plants as well. I have done my best to distinguish

    between established fact and tentative hypothesis, and,

    as far as possible, have refrained from the tendency, currently

    prevalent among workers in this field, to assign to every newly

    discovered chemical constituent of semen a major role in the

    process of fertilization.

    I wish to acknowledge gratefully the help of those who gave

    me permission to reproduce plates and figures. In particular 1

    wish to extend my thanks to Dr. C. R. Austin (Sydney), Dr.

    J. L. Hancock (Cambridge) and the Cambridge University

    Press for Plate I, to Prof. L. H. Bretschneider and Dr. Woutera

    van Iterson (Utrecht) and the Nederland Academy of Science

    for Plate II, to the Royal Society for Plate III, to Lord Rothschild

    (Cambridge) for Plate IV and for reading the manuscript,

    to the Royal Society of Edinburgh for Fig. 2, to Dr. E. Blom

    (Copenhagen) and the Skandinavisk Veterinartidskrift for Fig. 3,

    to Dr. C. Huggins (Chicago) and the Harvey Society of New

    York for Fig. 5, to Dr. L. Jacobsson (Goteborg) and the Acta

    Physiologica Scandinavica for Fig. 11, and to the Cambridge

    University Press, Messrs. Churchill and Messrs. Macmillan for

    permission to reproduce Figs. 6-10, 12-14 and 16, from the

    Biochemical Journal, the Journal of Agricultural Science, and

    Nature, and Plate IV, from theCiba Foundation Symposium on

    Mammalian Germ Cells. I should also like to thank Miss P. A.

    Northrop for helping me in the preparation of the typescript.
     
  5. Monkey Monko

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    Brothers! I would like to share lot of info! All relevant!! Please caution me if I am going overboard!!!
    I feel overwhelmed because the situation of human society is "out of control". 2 legged animals!
     
  6. Nila_S

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    Guys, a couple of questions i have. I tried abstaining numerous times before and the challenge for me is always in the second week and past that. I can do a week easy but starting from the second week things get tough. My questions would be. Are there any tips for the period passing the first week? And the second question is, do the urges start to become less intense after a certain period of time and when is that ?

    Thanks in advance.
     
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  7. IveBetterThingsToDo

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    Sorry... I just realized I was posting to a wrong group [ACCOUNTABILITY GROUP FOR PEOPLE ABOVE 30 Y.O.]
    thinking it was this one. No wonder I was not in the Scoreboard of the other group. Please don't kick me out of this group (if you haven't already) as I need to do regular updates in this group.

    That being said, I had a big blow up this week. Relapse after around 56 days of being clean of PMO on Tuesday night. I let anger and then not dealing with it, and then not doing my recovery practices because of high work demands get the best of me. I was so tired that I just decided to give in to PMO for the stress relief I knew I would get from it no matter how temporary. Since the Tuesday blow up i have been clean only one day (Friday). My PMO actions are full on binges.

    Today, I pick myself up and choose to do my recovery actions. I have spent the morning in meditation and journaling, then more prayer and meditation to get to the bottom of this. I have dug out my affirmation and scripture cards as I had given up this habit, this very positive practice in my life that I had let slip.

    Please let me know if I am still part of this group. Thanks for listening. I think I will go and update my counter now to show i am at day 0. Ugh.
     
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  8. ANewFocus

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    I relate a lot man. Stay positive and let’s take it one day a time as if we have no choice but to be clean today.
     
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  9. newtry

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    Hi. How have you been? Yes, get away from my devices, it is working very well, especially on weekends.
     
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  10. kllrbee

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    Quick check in...things going ok. Some interesting posts in last couple days. Good reading!
     
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  11. ANewFocus

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    Checking in. I haven’t used since Friday. I’m still worried about using it in my work computer and risking my job. That scares me. But I am not sure what I can do to get sober before it costs me my job. Nothing I have done over the years has given me more than 11 months sober.
     
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  12. Bobby2020

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    I am here and back. I left for a bit thinking that I could do this on my own, but now I know I can’t. I haven’t relapsed, I’’m still over 2 months clean (PM) and have been trying to make my own accountabillity group for peoplel specifically with significant others.

    But I’m still here and would like to be counted if that’s still possible.
     
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  13. Espi1971

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    Check in.

    I am at a crossroads lately, one of many since I started this journey.

    What is driving me?

    Why do I choose no PMO today?

    Life and death is what drives me. I know that might sound extreme.

    PMO cannot literally kill me, but spending weekends alone, shades drawn, drinking and drugging and watching porn, living a life of lies and secrecy, is like death to me.

    I'm at 138 days no PMO, and it's been up and down for me. A real roller coaster of a ride. I don't mean to discourage anybody, but for me, life hasn't gotten much easier since I abstained.

    Yes I've had some prolonged periods of inner peace, happiness, and growth, but in many ways I am still struggling emotionally, and the urges are still there, too, along with my depression and anger.

    I stopped PMO'ing and drugging at 48 years old, and now I'm dealing with life raw, without the aid of sex, fantasy, and mind-altering substances, so in some ways life feels more challenging.

    But I know that going back to my old lifestyle isn't going to make me feel better, and this is what drives me.

    So today I choose to keep moving forward no matter what, and it doesn't involve PMO, or weed, or testosterone, or alprazolam.

    It is definitely a tough journey, but I'm determined to see it through.
     
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  14. As usual, I can relate to you so much! :)

    At times when life is hard I question if I am making any improvements after all because I am still suffering, or have unmet desires, but what i'm noticing is that the core base level of peace and contentment is increasing and i'm becoming more humble, selfless and willing- which I think is the point of this life to evolve.

    There are challenges and struggles ofcourse, and I dont expect the pain to go away until we are dead.

    Even the great ones such as buddha, Christ and great saints such as ghandi or teresa or other great ones such as abraham L - they all worked hard all their life and faced so many challenges.

    I guess what i'm trying to remind both of us is that life is hard- and if we accept this fact we can find peace while going through our struggle - but if we expect life to be easy then we get hit with the unexpected.

    One of my teachers told me we need to distinguish between struggle and suffering, the struggle goes on constantly
    but the suffering is what gets reduced as we become less dependant on our own false sense of self and become more of an agent of The One - and let God be our boss/guide more and more.
     
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  15. ANewFocus

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    Your honesty reminds me to stay and live honestly.
     
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  16. persona2903

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    Hi @Paf-On !
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    First of all, congratulations on having reached 90 days! You have deservedly earned this trophy and you are in the rankings prominently!
    Secondly, according to the rules of the group, ask yourself if you want to remain part of it since we have not seen your posts for more than 30 days ... If there is no response, we will use the vacancy for another applicant.
    Greetings and congratulations!
     
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  17. persona2903

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    Good to read from you! As I had no response, I unsubscribed you and we joined another member ... do you want to join the waiting list?
    It would be nice to have you back in the group!
     
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  18. persona2903

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    Welcome @Misty1984 ! You are part of this accountability group and you can see your position in the ranking in post #1.
     
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  19. Paf-On

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    Thank you @persona2903, I really appreciate it.
    I'm still wanna be part of this group. I'm sorry if I haven't post anything for 30 days, because I'm trying to keep distance for internet access. My urge still up and down, and I still struggle to make nofap as a life style. Thank you for the opportunity and your support
     
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  20. persona2903

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    I am very happy that you continue in the group! Your achievements are encouraging for all of us who try to leave behind PM ... how good to continue the fight together!
     
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