35 and older accountability, Group 2

Discussion in 'Accountability Partners' started by persona2903, Nov 13, 2019.

  1. What do you mean bro?
     
  2. Huw980

    Huw980 Fapstronaut

    I am proud to be 12 whole days free of p and m . Next few days will be a real challenge as my girlfriend has gone away for a few days and my default when left to my own devices has always been to fix myself through p and m. What I want is to have productive days where I am acheiving non m and non p tasks - going for run, meditating, gardening tasks, just generally keeping things in a good routine. I have so many memories of how awful, how disconnected I can feel for days after using m and p, and what it does to how I see myself - dodgy and seedy. Anyway Im sharing this cause it helps me to talk about it rather than act on it. Man Thanks and keep talking and stay strong. Good things start to come to us when we reach out. Everyone is human and life is always waiting, I would give the me of a few weeks ago a hug and remind them they are not a bad person for doing p and m, they are just in an unhealthy pattern that is hard to get out of.
     
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  3. Huw980

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    Im up and down but still going
     
  4. persona2903

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  5. persona2903

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    The important thing is to keep going, regardless of moods or situations. Congratulations on the 12 days and keep going! We have all suffered a lot from PM but there is a way out. Even if one falls a thousand times, at the time 1001 it can be the total victory!
     
  6. JJones

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    I don't want to get ahead of myself, but today I cross that sweet threshold of double digit sobriety.
     
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  7. Huw980

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    well done , thats a massive achievment
     
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  8. Huw980

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    so today i reapsed on p&m after 12 days free of it. Andy advice/tips.
     
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  9. Huw980

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    I relapsed but have tasted how much better things get without . Hope you and I can get back on track brother
     
  10. thanks for this reminder. when we opened that first video or picture, we never asked to become addicted.
     
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  11. ANewFocus

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    Understand why you did it. What could you have done to cope in another way?
     
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  12. neilD

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    Hello.

    Thanks for welcoming me into the group, I've tried once before for no p & m and the highest I got to was about 3 weeks. I'd like to try again and finally deal with this habit that distracts me from more worth while satisfaction.
    I'll keep you all updated.
     
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  13. Huw980

    Huw980 Fapstronaut

    Hey man I loaded and hoping to get back on track . Hope you doing good
    not smoked is one thing
     
  14. Why is it that your on this path? Do you remember why you are doing this? if you do then my question is what did you learn about the last relapse and what will you CHANGE in your daily routine?
     
  15. Huw980

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    I know that I felt great before my relapse and now I’m struggling , seem to want to hide away froM the world but at least I’m up and watching tv instead of in bed .
    I want to be clear headed to face the world and be the best version of myself I can be . I need to get out for a run to clear my head and I will do this before the day is out or first thing tomorrow. I’ve been wallowing
     
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  16. Huw980

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    My girlfriend went away and I felt the urge to get wasted and then I relapsed. And now I feel terrible cause of dopamine crash and also cause of negative thoughts and cravings . But going for a run will help
     
  17. Barakah

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    Hey guys thanks for having me in this group!

    I'm doing nofap for 4 years I think. My best streak was 35 days. Right now I'm doing the 12 steps program, hoping to get rid of PMO for good!

    Day 11 today. It's one of the best streaks that I've got in 2020. Having a sponsor has been really helpful to me. Also I'm doing intermittent fasting, which gives me more self control. I'm trying to improve my lifestyle by doing more sports, meditation, prayers, etc.. I'm feeling grateful for the improvements :)

    Let's do this guys :)
    Take care
     
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  18. Huw980

    Huw980 Fapstronaut

    I would suggest not giving into powerlessness if you do relapse on weed and porn, as I did on sat . Remember that there are still things you can do to boost your dopamine the day after - go for a run , that had the double whammy of a health kick and being out and about . For me this is a real challenge as the brain is trained for the highs then the lows and cravings . Run and a healthy tea
     
  19. Difficultquit123

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    I would like to join I’m 40 0/1 days
     
  20. ANewFocus

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    So now when your girlfriend goes away, what will you do? What does it tell you about yourself emotionally and mentally that when you gf leaves, you immediately go to this?
     

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