35 and older accountability, Group 2

Nice, I'd like to get back to running
You got this man

Awesome, that's some very good news
Very inspiring

 

Check in today:

• 48 hours clean. I slipped Saturday. I did not handle my emotions after an argument with my wife and gave in without a fight.
• Exercised for 55 minutes today.
  
• I am doing recovery work now.
  
• I ate pretty well today too.

 

I relapsed an hour ago
I am frustrated because I felt like I was improving but didn't get better results. I know I have to be more patient than that though.
And I'm only at step 4
Also I feel like I don't have enough time during the day to do all I'd like to do. (exercise, meditation, forgiveness exercise, hour of power, etc..)

 

I struggle to do the same things. I’m reading a book about living my values and I need to act on my values in life with the things I do daily. That means doing recovery work instead of video games for me. It sometimes means recovery work instead of exercise.
My check in:

• Clean 72 hours
• No flirting today but I miss it. I miss excitement, being desired.
• Nailed scary presentation at work
• Exercised 45 minutes
• Recovery work for 45 minutes

 

Nice, congrats for nailing your presentation!
What do you do as "recovery work"?

 

I read nofap, sometimes meditate for 10 minutes, been reading Steven Hayes act therapy book and workbook. That’s mostly what I’ve been doing.

Today I didn’t exercise. I was tired and struggled to find motivation. Ate too much and too much sweets.

 

Are theses books beneficial to you?
I didn't heard about it, is it helpful?

 

I’ve been doing the Steven Hayes books the last month. They are helping me cope with difficult moments without seeking to sooth as much. Someone else on nofap recommended it and I do believe it is helping.

I do best in recovery when I have active practices to help me improve and focus my energies.

 

Check in:

• I had great sex with wife yesterday. Connected and fun for both of us. It is amazing what reducing my porn does for that. We had an adventure yesterday and had fun together and really enjoyed each other.
  
• I haven’t been tempted as much. I deleted browsers from my computer last week and that’s helping a lot. Just knowing it’s not really an option helps. It’s also helping me stop thinking of my gaming computer as my porn computer.
• This week was a lower stress week and that helped.

 

Doh, I had a misstep June 4th. I'm on Day 3 again fellas.

 

Don’t roll your ankle again. Keep moving!

 

Welcome to the new members

1 week today.
Feeling great.
Except that I had bad sleep theses last days idk why

Appart from that I'm still doing the step 4 of the 12 step program and I'm making interesting progress. It's changing my way to see things

 

I slipped yesterday. I read a quote from Steven Hayes that life is a choice between love and fear. Every time I PMO because I don’t think I can survive or will be okay if I don’t, I’m choosing an irrational fear.

I really struggle with internalizing that masturbation is bad. I struggle with the same idea with porn but less so.

 

thanks @persona I have been in 12 steps and many other filtering programs. I do feel better and as a result do not feel the need to PMO as much even though I started focusing on this forum only very recently. This is where I was posting so far :https://forum.nofap.com/index.php?threads/living-in-now-1-day-at-a-time.51455/#post-2589377

 

I have been doing work to look at what I truly value in life. It is hard. I realize that I have a limited view of what I truly value. It’s hard to feel passionate about anything.

 

Nice! I'm in the 12 steps program too. Step 4 right now, what about you?

Checking in:
Relapsed 2 times. But I'm letting go of old limitting beliefs and working on letting go of resentments.
Not an easy journey, but what comes easy don't last and what lasts won't come easy

 

Hey all,

I have read the rules and would like to join this group please. I'm 49, male, single, straight. I have been struggling with PMO addiction for far too long. I'm committed to abstaining and improving my life. I know I can't do it alone. I would like to have the support of an accountability partner or a community of people.

Have a good day everyone and be well!

 

You are courageous.