35 and older accountability, Group 2

Discussion in 'Accountability Partners' started by persona2903, Nov 13, 2019.

  1. holy cow - had a huge temptation today - My friend sent me a gift which is one of those oculus 2 virtual realities and i went to the entertainment section - i ended up in a party with some girls and they were obviously barely clothed and they were dancing like right in front of me, it started to produce craving in me as I only suspect how insane the porn scene is in the VR world - it looked so real it was like they are right here. i had to stop it obviously and remembering how slippery these entertainments are and avoiding them like poison.
     
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  2. JJones

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    I have had a relapse. :emoji_frowning2:

    I have a question to ask the moderators about the sobriety groups but no one is getting back to me when I put a trouble ticket in. Does anyone know what the deal is with this or how to get in touch with the help desk?
     
  3. JJones

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    Thank you for the words. I am ok. Just plugging away at this sexual health change. It's been very frustrating.
     
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  4. not too sure bro -
     
  5. What do you think these challenges are teaching you and preparing you for?

    What do you think is on the other side of this tunnel of challenge?

    Are you committed to pushing through regardless?
     
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  6. persona2903

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    Very good questions, the ones that make you think seriously!
     
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  7. persona2903

    persona2903 Fapstronaut

    I'm sorry about the relapse and as always our encouragement to continue! Unfortunately I have no idea about your question ...
     
  8. Man I feel so inspired tot share, after my challenge on Monday I remembered the suffering of lust and the feeling of being torn apart double sided, one side wanting the pleasure and one side knowing better.

    Oh the pain of the double life. oh the suffering and the bondage resulted by this trap called lust. It is all based on false assumptions of what true happiness is.

    I really felt the suffering i had felt many many years and i had forgotten it and it also reminded me of what a gift of joy I have now that I had overlooked.

    So I want to inspire every one, renounce lust at once don't even entertain the idea of NOFAP and just get it all out of your mind, in order to do that i find having to develop my concentration has been the key and of course great faith and constant dependance on God - and renouncing all negative emotions including self pitty and so on. Instead fixing mind only on keeping mind positive, gratitude, exercise, nutrition, mindfulness, prayer, surrounding with good people, nature. Avoiding all kinds of worldly entertainment. This freedom comes at a price - the price is giving up our old ways. It is a good deal Promise you!

    the freedom from those mental agitations is worth the fight - fight on!
     
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  9. CraftyDad

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    Two weeks streak. The past few days have been easier somehow, maybe because I've had a good amount of interesting and productive tasks, both at work and at home. Thank you for the company on this journey.
     
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  10. InnerMan

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    Hope everyone is doing well!

    On my end, still fighting the good fight. I came across a saying on this website that I'll share here because it's a great little mantra that can be used when urges flare up:

    "where does it lead me and where does it leave me?"

    Over and out.
     
  11. ANewFocus

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    I haven’t had power since Monday due to snowstorms. I went to act out when we got power back on Friday and then power crashed.
    I am trying to center myself again. I have power and want to let this week clean be a jumpstart for my next steps.
     
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  12. persona2903

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    Very well said @RightEffort , thank you for sharing these true words!
     
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  13. persona2903

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    Congrats!!!
     
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  14. CraftyDad

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    Time seems to be flying by, tomorrow will be my three-week streak, and I'm slowly entering uncharted territory. I can't remember the last time I was clean for this long, but it wasn't much more than this. I still have bad thoughts multiple times a day, but it's getting easier to just notice them and let them go.
     
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  15. persona2903

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    The ranking in post # 1 is already updated.
    Because there are several inactive users in the group and it takes me a long time to track them to see their counters and thus update the ranking, all users who are not active during this month of March will be unsubscribed. I think it will be a healthy measure, which will leave us with a more participatory and useful group.
    Have a beautiful week and let's be strong!
     
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  16. Congrats man - keep going focusing on transmuting but also be very cautious, the monster can pop out at any moment, and be ready to drop to your knees and pray for help lol

    After a year and some I had some strong temptation pop up out of the blue - but thankfully grace was there and this group is also helpful to know you can come and share your thoughts.
     
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  17. CraftyDad

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    Thank you RightEffort. I'm having a tough moment, your message helped.
     
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  18. persona2903

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    This concept was always useful to me

    Definition of take one day at a time (MERRIAM-WEBSTER)
    ": to deal with each day's problems as they come instead of worrying about the future. // Take one day at a time and don't expect things to change overnight."

    Therefore do not worry about tomorrow, for tomorrow will worry about itself. Each day has enough trouble of its own. Matthew 6:34
     
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  19. tonyk1982

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    I haven't checked in here in a while.

    The usual Monday/Tuesday challenge for me. Barely kept out of trouble last night. Trying to stay focused on work projects today. Read some journals here, which generated this thought:

    I am now in a sexless marriage. Rather than try to change that situation with the wife, I accepted it as part of my nofap journey. In fact, I am using it as a platform to evolve myself as a person individually and as a husband in relationship. What do I mean by that? For my entire life my almost hourly existence was concerned with what was happening "below the belt". The amount of time I've spent (by myself) attending to that part of my body is just absurd. Add in the time (pre-planning, actual event, post-game analysis), emotional energy, etc etc spent in sexual activity with a partner (albeit always in the context of several marriages and other LTR's) and it is a wonder I held a full-time steady job!

    My point is that for the first time in my life I am trying not to think of or otherwise be involved with the state of what's in my pants. So I am working hard to improve the non-sex relationship connections with my wife (and re-build the marriage) and in the context of nofap taking all the excess time and energy available to self-improvement or engaging in non-sexual thoughts and activities. For a lifelong sex addict, this hasn't been easy.
     
  20. InnerMan

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    That's great to hear @tonyk1982! And my sense is that the sacrifice will pay off. When we swap that familiar but hellish cycle of instant gratification followed by emotional emptiness and fatigue with self-control, what we get is immeasurable and truly weightier than gold. We arrive at the threshold of abundance, which lies within.

    For my part, the urges are alive and well, and so it goes...
     

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