35 and Older Accountability Group

I have read the rules and would like to join this group". Is there room for me?

 

Checking in, on day 31. Another month gone by.

 

Counter reset again yesterday. I’m clearly not getting myself in the right mindset.

Alright. Back on it.

 

Pick yourself back up man. It's a lot easier if you don't give in again. Hope you had a better day brother

 

Congrats!

 

Checking in.... Still on monk mode!!

 

Checking in on day 39. Still hands free!

 

Hey, Team 35+.

I’ve hit a snag in my reboot and would like to throw this out to the group for feedback. I am also open to feedback from the at-large Fapstronauts that might read this.

Had a really bad week. Completely fell off the wagon with 3 resets this week. As I was reflecting on this and trying to figure out what is going on, here is what I came up with:

We already know stress is a big trigger for me. I’ve got things I can do to de-stress during the day and stuff I can do at night to go straight to sleep. These things all work... when I follow my game plan.

Clearly I am not following the plan and getting in trouble as a result. The big realization today is that as much as I want to get rid of my stress, I find myself letting it wash over me and not wanting to get rid of it right away.

Kind of like enjoying that taste of lime and salt from rim of the glass before tasting the margarita. The margarita just isn’t as good if there isn’t lime and salt around the rim.

Can I be getting joy from being stressed out? Is there such a thing as a rise from messing up my reboot and having to do a reset?

Am I now a stress addict on top of being a porn addict?

Has anyone had this come up during their reboot? How did you get past this?

TIA

JPD

 

Check in saturday

 

@DriverPaul Nope. The evil just wants you to think that so you will become weak. Fight the despair and become strong.

 

Maybe it’s your brain wanting to get you in a position to relapse for a little dopamine hit? I start desiring to doing stuff like staying up late, surf aimlessly, etc... Stuff that would lead to a relapse.

I fell off the wagon this week too. I’m trying to keep it simple to get going again.

 

I get the same. If stress levels are particularly high and I'm not coping, I am more vulnerable. I've had a very stressful week and 0/3 things in my life are not working out. I think that if I can jump on the computer at night and get ahead in at least 1 of them (e.g., Get caught up in my job), then it will be step in wrong direction. However, this is a crafty trick from my mind who wants PMO. What I should have said, you're body is telling you go to sleep. Listen to your body, not your mind.

I don't think that anyone has the perfect answer to destressing. We all need a constructive and positive way to destress. Some herbal tea and a candle and yoga or praying or listening to music may be some suggestions.

 

@JPDrive , stress is absolutely a trigger for me too, and sometimes I love to sit in anger. Not sure if I'd say sit in stress, but definitely anger. And when I do, the first thing that would pop in my head is porn. But i have to say, that it has subsided so much I didn't think it was possible. I'm also an alcoholic with 7 years sobriety, but I struggle with this big time.

 

Checking in. Back on 0.

 

Watched Dr Strange yesterday, thought this was particularly apt for some of us...

'We never lose our demons, Mordo. We only learn to live above them. - The Ancient One (Doctor Strange)

 

Checking in. 7 days! I made a full week after some challenges transitioning into my summer schedule. Feel good about that. I'm heading out of town to visit some friends for a few days so my return on Thursday will be my next big challenge.

 

So far so good havnt wasted a drop of my semen. Feeling really good. I get hard and so far have the strength not to grab it and jerk off. No wet dream though I really need one.

 

Checking in Guys. Hope you're having a great day. All the best (in the clean sense of course)