35 and Older Accountability Group

Discussion in 'Accountability Partners' started by artifact, Nov 24, 2018.

  1. NICEDUDE

    NICEDUDE Fapstronaut

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    Having persevered the last week of august successfully, our @artifact next goal is to reach the two week mark. We must make use of the remaining months of this year to get rid of this pernicious habit. We need to identify the "why" for abjuring this habit. The stronger the reason is, the easier it becomes. @JJ_Kino make sure you don't binge as there will be that inevitable chaser effect. You can join us again!
     
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  2. discovery

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    Totally agree. I would be fine with resetting once every 3 months. 4 PMO sessions a year, not a big deal at all. The problem of course is being able to have that level of control, which clearly we all have issues with, if we are here.
     
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  3. David2018

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    I'm just glad to see a 1 in my counter and not a 0. Can't we just go back in time 30 years and erase the internet?
     
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  4. Rebooter13

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    Although i get the sense of humor here, i feel like i have to do the devil's advocate so let's be honest, it's not internet's problem, it's our problem and how people in general are using it. ;)
     
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  5. Pirate3819

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    Checking in. Wishing everyone will power!
     
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  6. Hopeful2205

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    "I have read the rules and would like to join this group".
     
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  7. Robbiebob

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    Day 2 for me... Checking in sir... R.
    Ps... Feeling good so far, but you don't know what's around life's corners... Just take as it comes & deal with it head on... Wishing everyone well.
     
  8. I agree! We're off to a good start.
     
  9. Hi Hopeful. The group is currently full but you have been added to the waiting list. We may have an opening for you within a month or so.
     
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  10. I can see both sides of this. Internet porn has been a curse in my life for the last 20 years or so and I wouldn't disapprove if it was outlawed by the government. Then again, if that had occured, it's possible that my addiction would have just found new outlets. So, unlimited P on the internet has forced me to deal with my issue and made me a stronger person than I would have been otherwise. It has made realize that I need to make an intentional effort to live without it.
     
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  11. gearboxwhine

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    Morning. Just checking in. New routine means plenty of opportunity today so need to stay focused and keep busy.
     
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  12. Nash78

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    I have read the rules and would like to join this group
     
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    I have read the rules and would like to join this group
     
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  14. Jerky

    Jerky Fapstronaut

    In the past i have dealt with urges to edge, lied to myself that i'd go no further than that, then i'd relapse.

    I know where edging leads unquestionably without rationalization.

    However, lately i'm experiencing an increase in sexual motivation. Not so much temptation, but a natural sexual urge. And i know this to be pure as it is not 100% the lust fantasy porn craving that leads to relapse. I am desiring female companionship within a sexual encounter.

    Who am i kidding. This is the precurser to lust. First comes the fantasy, then the urge, then the edge then the whole disgusting platter that follows with a side order of shame and disgust for dessert.

    Fighting the urge leads to frustration. My thought today is to feel the urge but not feed it with fantasy. I am experiencing an increase in sexual energy. And i desire sex.

    As i will not partaketh of the sex, i will accept the urge, let it grow without feeding it and transmutate it into something else. Feels good though. Just dont want to lie to myself and try to fight it. I will lose.
    Urges are natural and signify a healthy libido.

    I guess.
     
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  15. tonyk1982

    tonyk1982 Fapstronaut

    Well said. We've all taken a seat at that table. Stay strong.
     
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  16. I agree! I have tried getting computers set up with pass codes to stop me using internet porn...but then I can always downloads an illegal browser and get it on the dark web...I know how and it's not hard! So it's all pointless really...the only way is to find a way within ourselves to decide that enough is enough and we want done with this addiction....god speed you brother
     
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  17. discovery

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    My struggles with porn were just as bad before the internet as they are now. It wasn't so hard to get my hands on magazines and VHS tapes. And while some may say that those two vehicles are not anywhere near as potent as HSIP, well, the brain found mags and tapes just as thrilling since there was nothing better out there at the time.
     
  18. Robbiebob

    Robbiebob Fapstronaut

    Day 3 for me... So far so good... Had a erotic dream last night and woke up with no problem. R
     
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  19. I've never seen it put that poetically before. Been through that dance a thousand times. I know the urges can seem overwhelming when you get close 30 days or so. I think I might start charting my daily urge level the way @persona2903 does. It might help me to see the situation more objectively to get through the rough spots.
     
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  20. Same here. There was store near where I lived that sold a wide assortment of magazines. But then I was able to keep my habit in check to a certain extent. The Internet kicked it into high gear.
     
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